[MASIMO]

My job is being eliminated, but was hired in another part of the organization in the city 65 miles away. It's just too far for me to commute 5 days/week. So, I rented a studio in the city and plan to stay a few nights during the week.
I will probably come home one night a week but even so I wouldn't arrive until early evening. I dont know if my T would be willing to even see me that late.
And, my husband wouldn't appreciate it if as soon as I got into the area I went right to
my T office for a session instead of coming home to see him. By the time I get home from a session, he will be in bed. So I would have traveled to and from the city essentially to be able to see my therapist. Leaving my husband out in the cold. There will be no flexibility in my schedule for quite a while to ask for time off every week. I think this would cause more conflict in my marriage than I already have. And, we wont have time to see our marriage counselor either due to my new schedule. I feel very unsettled not knowing if I'm going to loose my therapists because of this new job. My T only works 3 days a week which further limits things. I told him I was afraid I was going to loose him. He assured me that wouldn't happen. He said he would see me on a Saturday if necessary. He said he HAS to accomodate me. Well I dont know what a T's obligation is to accommodate their patient's schedules, but if it means having to drop them, I guess they would try to make some concessions.

But Saturdays? He is away a lot on the weekends so I dont see how that is going to work. I feel guilty for imposing into his personal life....yes I know it's his choice to allow it.
But it still feels ackward to me. I am still afraid I wont be able to see him every week anymore, or even every other week. How many of you have evening or weekend sessions?
How far out of his way should my T commit to accomodate me? He knows how attached I am to him, and I'm going through a very turbulent time in my life right now. I cant afford to go without seeing him.

Talk it over with your T about what his limits are to accommodating you new schedule. Perhaps if he will see you on a Saturday. Maybe you can do that appointment as early in the morning as possible on a Saturday as to not interfere with the rest of the T's day. I had night appts with my T but the latest appt time she has is 8pm. My T before this saw me at 9pm one time. Depends on the T. But if he wants to accomidate you, then its best to work out the details asap so you can relieve some worry.

[sittingatwatersedge]

Originally Posted by MASIMO

How many of you have evening or weekend sessions?

Couldn't hurt to ask!! It varies so much from one T to the next.

T1: Fridays off, but otherwise both days & evenings
T2: seems to see people in PM generally; some in evenings, a few on wknds too.

I sure hope things work out for you Masimo, with T & with yr H.

[mixedup_emotions]

I was facing a similar situation, and T also told me not to worry - that we would make it work - whether it was an evening or weekend appt. It's not that uncommon, I'd imagine.

i only go to night appts. t offers both days and nights. no weekends that im aware of , nine pm.... just had one tonight

[Perna]

I don't know; it sounds like this job will mess up things more than it will help; I would be looking for a closer one. If your marriage is strained already, I would decide if I really wanted to fix that or hold on to the job; I don't see how you can do both, never mind worrying about 2 therapists and when you will see them.

[MASIMO]

saw my T Today. We worked out a day for therapy. my husband probably won't be happy but I have to take care of myself fpset about what my T said. That he would love for me to see a t in the city...huh?

I know he wants what's best for me and doesn't want me to suffer repercussions about rushing home to see him and resentment from my husband. But it felt like he could let me go so easily..I'm devastated.

[unaluna]

how long have you been seeing T? do you think you will ever divorce your H? Are there children involved? how secure is this new job? T may be thinking, this sounds like the time for you to make your move. New city, new life. Why not? Leave the abuse behind.