[seventyeight]

for some reason, i've been thinking about therapy/therapist fantasies today and am wondering how prevalent they are (among the pc community, at least).

there was a thread recently about a client going to visit/stay with their therapist and, to my surprise, the majority of people on here were supportive of the trip, etc. it got me wondering how many of you wish you were going on a trip with your therapist, or at least want to live vicariously through this persons trip.

i'm also curious what other fantasies people might have about their therapist, or if they sort of "live" through some of the experiences that other people have on here. i'm not as interested in hearing about the client going to visit their therapist, but i have definitely been interested in hearing other peoples's stories about holding hands with their therapist, etc., possibly wishing that was me and my therapist.

[granite1]

i don't think i could handle a trip with my T i would end very badly.i envy those that can handle having a relationship like that with there T. i guess i would just be happy knowing that she is ok with seeing me once a week without burning out

I wish we could watch football together, does that count?

[crazycanbegood]

Well, T is my mother. I live with her. We spend every holiday together. We eat dinner together, and she asks me about my day. She tucks me into bed at night, and when I have nightmares, she lies next to me until I fall asleep again.

ETA: I hold hands, hug, rest on my head on my T, etc.

[critterlady]

Physical contact with my T or being with him outside of a therapy session are not things I crave, so when people post about that, it really doesn't affect me.

I do crave longer sessions, though. There are some days when I'd really just like to stay in session with him for most of the day. When anyone posts about 90 minute sessions, I do feel some envy.

[bamapsych]

The best thing about fantasies is that I don't want them to actually come true in real life. I think I'd feel disappointed if any of my fantasies were carried out because it wouldn't be as great as I have pictured in my mind.

ExT: I'm a 25 yr old single female and was seeing an intern therapist who was 30 yr old female. Both of us are heterosexual. I had fantasies of being her roommate. She travels alot on missions in third world countries so I also had a fantasy of being her bodyguard. I'd like for her parents to adopt me so that I can be like her sister. I can see her Facebook, so I know what her family and frineds look like from pics on there and I actually saw her parents and sit close to them at a concert.

Current T: I want her to sit beside me and hold me tight and let me cry. I'd like to meet her in the park and have walks and do therapy. I'd love for her to give me motherly hugs (she's alot taller and bigger than me so it would feel perfect). She gives me a stuffed animal to have during session. I wish she would just give it to me to keep and take home, although if she offered to do that I'd never be able to actually accept it and take it. I have the urge to pile up blankets and pillows in a corner of her office and spend the night (I usually have evening appointments). I usually get an order of fries and a smoothie or milkshake before I go and I have to resist from doubling the order to share with T.

Asperger T: Not really any fantasies yet. One time she was really sweet to me when I asked if it was okay for me to bring my teddy bear to sessions. I obsessed a few hours, but haven't had any other issues with her.

Originally Posted by crazycanbegood

Well, T is my mother. I live with her. We spend every holiday together. We eat dinner together, and she asks me about my day. She tucks me into bed at night, and when I have nightmares, she lies next to me until I fall asleep again.

ETA: I hold hands, hug, rest on my head on my T, etc.

Hmm I think we may have the same T ...LOL...

[murray]

I would like to be able to see my T twice a week at times or at least have a phone session.

The other thing that I would love is to be able to spend a holiday with him. He has described some of his family holidays and they sound so different from what I have experienced and I would like to see what a "normal" family gathering is like. But, I am sure that it would be a disaster as I would be so awkward and anxious that it would be a torturous experience for everyone...how about in my fantasy I am able to relax and enjoy myself?

My T comes to my place after work and we cook together. That is I cook for her ( can´t even boil an egg IRL) I know she loves cooking...for some reasons I wan´t to have a meal prepared for her after her long day at work

[stopdog]

Mine is that she will explain what is supposed to happen in therapy in a manner I can both understand and make it actually happen.

I don't want to deal with her on my own time. I firmly believe most therapists are nutballs or recovering nutballs in their personal lives. I am fine with leaving them to their families and friends.

[autotelica]

Good question. I don't know what my fantasy is. I think I would be satisfied with keeping things the way they are, but just have it last forever.

I like my therapist, but I have a feeling I wouldn't like her so much if we saw each other more frequently than we do. And I have no doubt that the feeling is mutual.

[~EnlightenMe~]

Originally Posted by stopdog

Mine is that she will explain what is supposed to happen in therapy in a manner I can both understand and make it actually happen.

I don't want to deal with her on my own time. I firmly believe most therapists are nutballs or recovering nutballs in their personal lives. I am fine with leaving them to their families and friends.

As in they are fruitcakes, they have raisins for eyes? haha

Originally Posted by stopdog

I don't want to deal with her on my own time. I firmly believe most therapists are nutballs or recovering nutballs in their personal lives. I am fine with leaving them to their families and friends.

Stopdog, I really enjoy reading your responses to things, sometimes you seriously crack me up.

I loved your response to this, and am actually inclined to agree- some of them just hide it from us better than others.

Originally Posted by stopdog

Mine is that she will explain what is supposed to happen in therapy in a manner I can both understand and make it actually happen.

I don't want to deal with her on my own time. I firmly believe most therapists are nutballs or recovering nutballs in their personal lives. I am fine with leaving them to their families and friends.

Hahahhaha, thank you for making me laugh after a long day of being sad Stopdog

I would like to go to a concert with T and dance and drink and have fun with her, we both love the same tv show so we could watch that together after work and talk about our day in a normal way...I just want to be her friend because she is so cool.

[Miswimmy1]

Originally Posted by crazycanbegood

Well, T is my mother. I live with her. We spend every holiday together. We eat dinner together, and she asks me about my day. She tucks me into bed at night, and when I have nightmares, she lies next to me until I fall asleep again.

ETA: I hold hands, hug, rest on my head on my T, etc.

Wait what?? Seriously? I'm so jealous. Is she actually your mom?

[rainbow8]

I've written about my T fantasies in my own threads but can't resist doing it here too. I used to wish that I could hold my T's hand; that became a reality, which was great. I wish she wouldn't have made it for a much shorter duration now. I hate that she changed it!

I wish I could be in my T's real life, in her house, and meet her family. I wish she could be in my life and meet my family too. I wish we could take a walk on the beach together (we used to take walks but just around her office) and do artwork together.

I wish she could really hold me (not just hug me). I wish my session could last a whole day or a whole lifetime.

I realize these are fantasies, not reality.

[KazzaX]

Ohh I don't think i could stand going on an outing/stay with a T! That would be HELL! It would be like therapy 24 hours a day. Yuck! 50 mins a week is MORE than enough!

Often I wish that we could have more than 50 minutes. I never feel like I've been there longer than a minute or so. 90 minute sessions would be wonderful. And each one would end with a hug. I am convinced I will never be able to ask for a hug! bah.

In the beginning of our work together, I did wish we could be friends and do stuff outside t but as time has gone on I realize that I know precious little about the person that she is outside of that room. She discloses little bits and pieces here and there, but nothing substantial. I realized that to have a relationship outside of t, that would naturally have to change the dynamics and then what would happen to the therapeutic relationship that we have now, the 'magic' of that complicated, painful, wonderful, relationship that's restricted to 50 minutes a week - it would no longer exist. So I'm letting it be what it is, what it needs to be, and working with it to my full advantage for the time that I have with her.

Still wistfully imagining getting a hug or having a longer session sometimes, I'm getting emotionally healthier but I'm still human afterall!

Interesting topic!

My biggest T fantasy, which shows up in my dreams, is that he would just hold me. Not a sexual thing, but I'd just curl up in his arms and feel safe and warm and loved. I don't even know if we would talk, but I have this incredible craving to be held and feel safe. Goes back many years, I guess, IDK ... But that's really all I want from him. I guess it's really primitive. But it's a nice peaceful fantasy to have.

[crazycanbegood]

Originally Posted by lonelybychoice

Hmm I think we may have the same T ...LOL...

Hmm I am a very jealous sibling.

Originally Posted by Miswimmy1

Wait what?? Seriously? I'm so jealous. Is she actually your mom?

No, she is not my real mother but she is my mother in all ways that matter. I shared my fantasy as if it were reality.

Originally Posted by seventyeight

for some reason, i've been thinking about therapy/therapist fantasies today and am wondering how prevalent they are (among the pc community, at least).

there was a thread recently about a client going to visit/stay with their therapist and, to my surprise, the majority of people on here were supportive of the trip, etc. it got me wondering how many of you wish you were going on a trip with your therapist, or at least want to live vicariously through this persons trip.

i'm also curious what other fantasies people might have about their therapist, or if they sort of "live" through some of the experiences that other people have on here. i'm not as interested in hearing about the client going to visit their therapist, but i have definitely been interested in hearing other peoples's stories about holding hands with their therapist, etc., possibly wishing that was me and my therapist.

i told my T about this thread...she wanted to know what my fantasy was, and I told her to guess. She said she considered a few "warm fuzzy" fantasies, but decided they didn't exist. Ultimately she settled on me firing her.

it was kind of funny because shes right. It is the thing I think about the most. But....sometimes I do want a hug.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by seventyeight

for some reason, i've been thinking about therapy/therapist fantasies today and am wondering how prevalent they are (among the pc community, at least).

I did fantasise about T adopting me. I told her that.

I understand boundaries. Doing anything outside the therapeutic relationship is wrong. The client is vuneable. But of course I have fantasies. They have changed over the yrs.

[vaffla]

I have endless fantasies: the main one is T being my mom. But besides that, I would love to go on vacation with her, spend endless time together, sleep in the same room, share meals, share a bathroom - have intimacy.
I would also love to have lots of physical contact with her, be able to hold her and smell her and kiss her. But the emotional intimacy and getting more of her time are more important to me.