[wotchermuggle]

Do you just love sharing positive news with your therapist?

When good things happen, my T is one of the first people I think of, as is my Pdoc. They hear so much of the crap, that it is so awesome to be able to tell them something positive.

I do this too.... the first time I did it, T asked me "well isn't that something you should share with friends, not your T?" I responded "well aren't you supposed to make me feel good about my accomplishments?" Now he doesn't mind.

[stopdog]

I find trying to tell the woman about non-negatives is worse than talking about csa or trauma or whatever else. She is horrible for me in the case of positives. I end up feeling very bad and any inkling of joy that was there is sucked away.

[InTherapy]

I hate telling my T positive things. It makes me think she is going to "expect" more out of me afterwards, that she is going to terminate with me, etc etc. And it just feels awkward.

I love sharing good news with my t. She gets all excited.

[autotelica]

I share positives that she had something to do with. It's my way of showing her that I'm holding up my end of the bargain and our work is paying off.

[lostmyway21]

I share all the positives, accomplishments, and good things I can. My thought is if I can balance out the scale a little bit, and show him how much he IS helping.. I won't totally burn him out with the negatives. It's worked so far.

Plus he gets super stoked and excited for me. It's actually really cool to share something positive with him.

I love sharing good news with t as well. It is really cool like lost said to share something positive with her! She was SO excited for me when I told her I'd gotten my new job (tomorrow I'll have been at new job for 2 weeks! woo!) She lit up like a christmas tree when I told her and clapped and everything. It was really nice, I must say!

[Miswimmy1]

i tell my t all. i love to have news to share, and so I am ecstatic to be able to focus on something positive, and not all the bad things that are going on in my life at the time. its a nice break from the therapy work we do, as well as a reassurance that things will, and can, continue to get better

[murray]

My T likes to hear the positive things and as others have mentioned I feel it helps balance out all the crappy stuff he hears from me. The other benefit is that when I am in a really negative place he will remember those positives and remind me that I have made progress and have accomplished some things.

[skysblue]

I bounce all kinds of emotions off of T. She is one person who will really be happy for me when good stuff happens. And some of the good stuff I share shows progress in working through some issues and some stuff is just plain ol' good stuff. I want her to know all parts of me.

[Sunne]

We celebrate all progress, no matter how small!

[Shiny Things]

I too love to share accomplishments with my T, who gets all excited for me. I love it.

But if it happens more than three sessions in a row (things happen in clumps for me) I get that feeling InTherapy posted earlier about. I start feeling like T will terminate me, because I'm all better now. I don't want to end t now so I hesitate to sound TOO excited about things.

Very interesting thread. I used to feel that it was my duty to tell exT positive things - not that she made me feel that way, it was just the way I felt in session with her; I was unable to talk about a lot of the negatives, and especially after I'd been seeing her for a while I got this silly compunction to talk instead of the positives so she would think her therapeutic skillz were working. With current T, I have sometimes thought that it might be nice to share something positive, but so far I'm working on allowing myself to share the negative. The other will come in time, I trust, but hopefully in a more genuine manner.

[Dreamy01]

I like sharing some positive stuff but I always panic afterwards that she will think I'm fine now and won't need to see her anymore. For that reason I don't share everything good that happens.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by wotchermuggle

Do you just love sharing positive news with your therapist?

When good things happen, my T is one of the first people I think of, as is my Pdoc. They hear so much of the crap, that it is so awesome to be able to tell them something positive.

Yes, I understand completely.

[mixedup_emotions]

I enjoy sharing positive things with my T as well. I find that it's much easier than talking about the bad things...

[taylor43]

Yes i do because, it is one of my main goals is to share positives and just not all the negatives in my life. Also it makes me feel better when my t's gets excited with me!

[Wren_]

I always want to rush to share any good news but find that often the sharing leaves me disappointed or hurt or confused or all three. I still tend to keep rushing to share though. T is happy to hear good news though

[EeyoreSmile]

I share everything with my T... But generally I don't focus on sharing the good because it doesnt need to be worked through or processed lol