[Asiablue]

So yeah, after my email meltdown, T thinks its best that we don't use email to communicate because too much can be miscommunicated. Totally agree and totally expected her to say it. But ugh i can't help but feel sad.
Asia is obv very naughty!

[granite1]

sorry for this .i remember when it was taken away from me .it is sad but you will adapt after a while

[bamapsych]

So sorry this happened to you. Maybe T is trying to protect you from hurt, confusion, anger, etc when things are misinterpreted through email. I know you feel sad that you lost your privileges.

[Asiablue]

Originally Posted by granite1

sorry for this .i remember when it was taken away from me .it is sad but you will adapt after a while

it's not even for therapy reasons i'll miss it, just the little social things, the things that help me feel close to her. ah well....still processing it all.

[Asiablue]

Originally Posted by bamapsych

So sorry this happened to you. Maybe T is trying to protect you from hurt, confusion, anger, etc when things are misinterpreted through email. I know you feel sad that you lost your privileges.

yeah she probably is, still feel a bit like abandonment. Even tho rationally i know that is not the case at all.

[Miswimmy1]

Originally Posted by bamapsych

So sorry this happened to you. Maybe T is trying to protect you from hurt, confusion, anger, etc when things are misinterpreted through email. I know you feel sad that you lost your privileges.

Agreed! A lot of things can, and will, be misinterpreted through email. I think t is wanting to spare u the hurt that can come with email. Been there, gone through that, and it's not fun. :/

[Asiablue]

It's the responsible T thing to do. I know that. But ewwww it feels yucky to be told something i was doing can't happen.

[Miswimmy1]

I know... is this something u could talk to t about? Maybe he/she could help you explore your feelings about it? A lot of times, thoughts/feelings and logic don't match in therapy.

[stopdog]

Is it the more immediate connection you seek or is it getting stuff out of you and sending it off? I ask because I find writing a letter and sending it to the therapist often more useful than email for me. If you need mid week connection, could you ask her to call you for a brief check in?

t never has allowed email as far as i know. i think i would hate the agony of waiting for a reply.
i can call however, do you still have calling or did you ever have calling for an option?
i know some t's have vm as well, some people can connect by just listening to their t's voice..

what options are you going to have now? just curious, you don't have to answer

sending safe hugs

[Asiablue]

Originally Posted by stopdog

Is it the more immediate connection you seek or is it getting stuff out of you and sending it off? I ask because I find writing a letter and sending it to the therapist often more useful than email for me. If you need mid week connection, could you ask her to call you for a brief check in?

I think it's the more immediate connection. When i think of things she'd like or stuff i would normally (if things were different) tell my mom or a friend i share with her instead.
I could ask her for a brief check-in but i probably don't need it. To me email was less intrusive because she could choose when to answer whereas a call needs more urgently attended to. However, i messed up by freaking out and misinterpreting things she said as not caring, or being annoyed with me or getting anxious about her shorter messages.

[Asiablue]

Originally Posted by jbmomg

t never has allowed email as far as i know. i think i would hate the agony of waiting for a reply.
i can call however, do you still have calling or did you ever have calling for an option?
i know some t's have vm as well, some people can connect by just listening to their t's voice..

what options are you going to have now? just curious, you don't have to answer

sending safe hugs

I can call if i need her. She just doesn't want discussion via email or text in order to avoid what happened at the beginning of the week which was a total meltdown.

But i feel like i'm going cold-turkey here lol i feel sad like i've lost her. But i haven't at all.

[~EnlightenMe~]

I seriously think that the therapist revoking email privileges is going to end up being a legend. There's a wide-spread email revoking/telephone revoking pandemic spreading around the nation. I wonder if they've developed a shot that prevents this? Glad you are able to take this well, Asia. I know it is painful.

Originally Posted by Antimatter

I seriously think that the therapist revoking email privileges is going to end up being a legend. There's a wide-spread email revoking/telephone revoking pandemic spreading around the nation. I wonder if they've developed a shot that prevents this? Glad you are able to take this well, Asia. I know it is painful.

I think my therapist is the guinea pig for this shot. She allows endless emails, and phone calls for all her clients. Lets hope they get the vaccine out soon, so that clients that want or need more contact get it. Not everyone will want or need to partake, and that I understand.

I'm sorry this happened to you. I've never had email privileges with my t so I can only guess how much it would hurt to have it revoked.

[~EnlightenMe~]

Originally Posted by Goingtogetthere

I think my therapist is the guinea pig for this shot. She allows endless emails, and phone calls for all her clients. Lets hope they get the vaccine out soon, so that clients that want or need more contact get it. Not everyone will want or need to partake, and that I understand.

lol, GTGT

I don't need to partake, for some reason I still 'feel' like I do, but I know I don't. My rational brain has taken the wheel, but my emotions are sometimes screaming in the back seat. Needless to say, it's a little hard to drive. The more I accept them and tolerate them, the more grounded they become. It is really difficult, though, and really painful. The child-like part of me is wondering why it has been left alone with all of these emotions. Oh well. I'm glad that you are able to get what you need. I know that I am getting what is going to be most helpful to me, I just need to figure out how to deal with my emotions instead of just sitting with them. I want to hire a babysitter.