[Miswimmy1]

I know that a lot of ts try their best to remain as professional and put together as possible. But sometimes, I see a glimpse of the personal side of t. And I get such a kick out of it! What has your t said, or done, that doesn't fit the t mold?

My t emailed me the other day to "please don't fall asleep BEFORE taking your meds and getting your tush in your bed!!" I laughed out loud at that.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by Miswimmy1

I know that a lot of ts try their best to remain as professional and put together as possible. But sometimes, I see a glimpse of the personal side of t. And I get such a kick out of it! What has your t said, or done, that doesn't fit the t mold?

My t emailed me the other day to "please don't fall asleep BEFORE taking your meds and getting your tush in your bed!!" I laughed out loud at that.

I think that personal side is important. I really hate the "blank slate".

[pbutton]

Once T was telling me about getting a painful shot. It hurt him quite a bit. He was telling me how he was acting & getting feisty with the doctor. It was fun to think about him being the patient & acting up, instead of the other way around.

[Sunne]

T let's himself shine through a lot. He tells me when he's tired, it's kind of cute. He spits random things out when he's tired. I think his brain goes a mile a minute.

When he talks about his cats, it's quite funny.

He also is so human he will excuse himself to use the washroom in session. I'm glad he feels that comfortable with me!

Originally Posted by Miswimmy1

I know that a lot of ts try their best to remain as professional and put together as possible. But sometimes, I see a glimpse of the personal side of t. And I get such a kick out of it! What has your t said, or done, that doesn't fit the t mold?

My t emailed me the other day to "please don't fall asleep BEFORE taking your meds and getting your tush in your bed!!" I laughed out loud at that.

My T curses a lot... ********, **** etc.. but my FAVORITE is the day she introduced me to something she calls "flucking." It involves the word **** and clucking like a chicken. She says she had to go to therapy for a long time to learn how to swear like that, lol. I love it. She ALMOST let me record it on my ipod but then came to her senses just in time. Too bad, it was funny as hell.

We laugh together all the time, though, even though she is still being professional (mostly). I was having a hard time last night crying in session, so she started up a list of things we could talk about... the bermuda triable? where the white goes when the snow disappears? etc.. other silly things. She dared me to say "well" so I did, and she goes "very deep" while nodding emphatically. My T is an absolute nut and I love that about her. She always feels real to me. (except when she throws up the "I don't feel like talking about my personal life" wall.

[healed84]

When I see it the most, it is when he is talking about his kids. I am so glad that my T chooses to disclose stuff from his life. It makes for a way better connection for me, let me know that he is more than a T.

[sconnie892]

I love it when my t laughs in session.

Last session she used herself as an example in something we were discussing. Just that little glimpse made me feel more comfortable with her. I know therapy is designed to be an uneven relationship so when t showed just a tiny bit of her life outside of session it made it feel slightly more even. (Wow, I didn't realize how much that mattered until right now...)

[Ike McCaslin]

When my PDOC read my transference letter, she said it was "grist for the mill." I don't care much for cliches, but I do love cornbread.

I love it when my t's professional mask slips for a moment.... simply adore it actually. Every now and then it happens and I treasure it each time. Once was when I was telling her something about work and I'm a writer, ok, so I can exaggerate and gild the lily with the best of 'em, and she busted out in the biggest laugh I'd ever heard out of her before or since. Last night was another time - opposite on the emotional spectrum though. I thanked her for replying to a message I had sent her through her psychologytoday.com profile (because I've never had email privileges) because it was such a thoughtful reply and it also gave me her email address. She said you're welcome and thanked me for my wisdom and I saw her tear up a little. The mask went right back up though. Drat it. I think I just really like knowing that she's human too. You know?

[Anne2.0]

Originally Posted by Ike McCaslin

When my PDOC read my transference letter, she said it was "grist for the mill." I don't care much for cliches, but I do love cornbread.

You are funny! Thanks for this.

[KazzaX]

The ones i've had have not really showed me their human side. The one I have now kinda did once, she told me that she was sick and had been throwing up that morning, and she looked a bit off. She looked like she was expecting me to bite her head off when she told me but i just said "its ok, when you're sick, you're sick" and she looked very relieved that i didn't mind.

My t hardly ever sounds like a t. In fact its so little that it always surprises me when she DOES sound like a t, like if she gets all analytical on my or explains something psyhological, and im llike, oh wow, you sound so therapisty all of a sudden!

What i like about her is her human side, i like it when she laughs. I think its funny when she swears. Sometimes she gets mad (not something i like, but its healthy for me to see-- like when i went to visit her, and she got mad at someone who was trying to give us a hard time, and she started *****ing at them-- thats something that i need to learn to do, stick up for myself) I have seen her cry a few times over things that mad her really sad, I love it when she is kind to animals, and how she talks to them. I love it when we guzzled down pizzas and sodas nearly every day when i went to visit her. sometimes its fun to fight with her(i think she likes it to)- and its funny when she yells at me "youre pissing me off!" & i yell at her to quit being such a b-------. Then she says i am the one being a b-----,& i say shes the one who started it

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by artemis-within

I love it when my t's professional mask slips for a moment.... simply adore it actually.

Some of my most treasured moments are when T has made a mistake.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by KazzaX

The ones i've had have not really showed me their human side. The one I have now kinda did once, she told me that she was sick and had been throwing up that morning, and she looked a bit off. She looked like she was expecting me to bite her head off when she told me but i just said "its ok, when you're sick, you're sick" and she looked very relieved that i didn't mind.

From what you've said, I get the impression Ts are pretty uptight in your country. (Sorry if that offends you.) They seem to cling to their professionalism.

[Sila]

When I was explaining how difficult it was for me to be behind the wheel and driving, she recounted one of her personal stories of when she was learning how to drive.

She went on to say that she had to learn how to drive a stick shift truck, and she was so anxious that she was coming up on a dead end and instead of hitting the brakes she hit the gas pedal and wedged the truck in between a sign and a tree! We both got a great laugh out of that, because I can understand the mixing up the pedals thing very easily. It was funny to see a personal side of her. I enjoy knowing my t is human afterall!

[KazzaX]

Originally Posted by CantExplain

From what you've said, I get the impression Ts are pretty uptight in your country. (Sorry if that offends you.) They seem to cling to their professionalism.

Yeah they are pretty rigid with the rules here. No it doesnt offend me, its true One foot out of line and you have all these people sueing eachother. I'm not sure why, its been like this since I can remember! I would prefer it to be a bit like i read in everyones posts on here. Seems a lot better for the healing.

How do you know that T's choices of words, their use of laughter, their smile, isn't part of their professionalism? I'm sure that when my T swears - which he has done a few times - it's done for conscious effect, it's in no way a slipping of the mask. I've made him laugh out loud once, which I liked a lot, but again it wasn't a slip, I'm sure that he would be more than able to stop himself from laughing (and that he does stop himself from laughing when I say idiotic things that it wouldn't be therapeutic for him to laugh at). I trust T to be professional all the time. I'm not sure I could trust him otherwise. (I don't really trust him anyway, but I think I may be able to do so eventually.)

Originally Posted by CantExplain

From what you've said, I get the impression Ts are pretty uptight in your country. (Sorry if that offends you.) They seem to cling to their professionalism.

Well, that is one way of putting it I mean, when you phrase it that way it becomes a negative thing, but seen from my POV professionalism is only a positive thing. It all depends on our way of looking at it.

[murray]

My T has occasionally come out with some doosies. He isn't the most rigid and professional to begin with but at times something will slip out that even catches him off guard.

One time I was recounting something that my ex-to-be said and it was making me question reality and I was unsure if he was messing with me or if I was just losing it. All of the sudden my T loudly said "he's a f***ing liar!" It shocked both of us honestly and he apologized for losing his cool like that. He was pretty embarrassed. The thing is, it felt so real and human and as if he actually cared that I was being treated poorly. It is one of my favorite T moments.