[QuietCat]

This is a thing T does lately, he calls the morning of my session and has to reschedule due to an illness in the family or he himself is sick. I guess it's not a really frequent thing but when it does happen I get disappointed and the rest of the week sort of lacks something.

And usually T will try to reschedule for the same week but today he said we could just cancel for this week and meet at the usual time next Monday, without any option given for me to see him this week at all.

The thing is, I also have a cold and am actually off work today because of it, but I didn't tell T this when he called because I had this desire to make him feel bad about canceling on me. I feel immature for doing that. I should have told him I have a cold too and so it's okay.

I have to find an interest that is outside T, because I don't like feeling as if my week is lacking something just because I don't get to go to T.

If his hours are like my T's this week, he may only be working Monday and Tuesday; thus the reason he couldn't schedule until next week. It's an odd week for appointment scheduling for many things.

[Miswimmy1]

Maybe he is only working mon tue cuz of thanksgiving? It could be that. I would talk to him if u are worried about it. And I sometimes feel like making my t feel bad too... Its immature but thats how it is. You aren't alone

What Farmgirl said. A lot of us are in that boat this week. But when he called the session off and said that you would meet on Monday-at that point did you ask him if he had anything left open this week? Because I would have said "Oh your booked the rest of this week?"

[WikidPissah]

Originally Posted by QuietCat

I have to find an interest that is outside T, because I don't like feeling as if my week is lacking something just because I don't get to go to T.

^this.

I know it's hard to go t-less for a week though, sux. With the holiday and all maybe it will go quickly for you.

[QuietCat]

Originally Posted by farmergirl

If his hours are like my T's this week, he may only be working Monday and Tuesday; thus the reason he couldn't schedule until next week. It's an odd week for appointment scheduling for many things.

You know, I just realized this is Thanks Giving week, so of course it would make sense that maybe he's going out of town the rest of the week or something.

[QuietCat]

Originally Posted by Jersey01

What Farmgirl said. A lot of us are in that boat this week. But when he called the session off and said that you would meet on Monday-at that point did you ask him if he had anything left open this week? Because I would have said "Oh your booked the rest of this week?"

It would have made sense to ask that, but one of my main issues is asking for help or doing anything that might suggest I'm bothering another person... even T. So I don't ask.

When you are so used to going weekly-it is extremely hard to skip a week. So I think everything you feel is normal

I'm sorry. I don't have therapy either this week because of the Thanksgiving holiday.

[anilam]

I wouldn't bother that much about not telling him you have a cold too- if you still feel bad about it you can tell him on your next session.
Personally, I think Ts are used to cancel on clients so they don't feel much sorry about it. My T cancels often enough (3 small kids)- sometimes I don't mind at all sometimes I feel like crying... but well, life happens. You will get through

[~EnlightenMe~]

Originally Posted by QuietCat

This is a thing T does lately, he calls the morning of my session and has to reschedule due to an illness in the family or he himself is sick. I guess it's not a really frequent thing but when it does happen I get disappointed and the rest of the week sort of lacks something.

And usually T will try to reschedule for the same week but today he said we could just cancel for this week and meet at the usual time next Monday, without any option given for me to see him this week at all.

. I feel immature for doing that. I should have told him I have a cold too and so it's okay.

I have to find an interest that is outside T, because I don't like feeling as if my week is lacking something just because I don't get to go to T.

I'm sorry to hear your T changed your schedule but didn't reschedule.

The thing is, I also have a cold and am actually off work today because of it, but I didn't tell T this when he called because I had this desire to make him feel bad about canceling on me

I apologize, but I had to laugh a little at this, NOT because I think it is immature (I don't), NOT because I think it was wrong (it wasn't), BUT because I admire your courage and honesty Maybe you wanted him to feel as bad as you did about his cancelling the session on you? It is hard that the therapeutical relationship is so unbalanced, and it is hard not to feel like this really matters to you, if maybe you feel like it doesn't matter as much to him.

Your feeling of your week lacking without T is a common one, just read through some of the threads. I don't really have any words of wisdom here, but you are not alone.

I hope you are able to distract yourself during the holidays or maybe start the hobby you were thinking about? Best of luck to you! Keep posting

[Anne2.0]

Originally Posted by roseleigh7

I'm sorry. I don't have therapy either this week because of the Thanksgiving holiday.

Same with me. I am sorry your session was canceled, though, that seems worse than just skipping a week somehow.

[autotelica]

I always brace myself when the phone rings and I can see it's my therapist's office calling. I hate cancelations!

I'm really sorry you got cancelled on. That happens to me often, and its always so hard.

[adel34]

This just happened this morning. Another therapist from where I go for program called to tell me mine was out sick. I really wanted to talk with her about stuff, including my loneliness around the holiday and being totally by myself for the first time, (as in no friends or family, just another day at the facility I'm living at). And I know she wanted to talk about these things too. So yeah, totally know how you feel!

[mixedup_emotions]

I hear ya, and I can relate.

I usually see T on Thursdays...and since it's Thanksgiving week, I won't be seeing him. But we also have group T on Tuesdays with my T there...but he decided to cancel our group T this week so he can prep for Thanksgiving.

It's hard when we rely so much on our Ts....and have that regular routine and expectation.

I can feel it for me too....I had my show last Friday night and T was there supporting me...which was the most awesome feeling in the world....and then to have two sessions cancelled in the same week and not being able to see him for 2 weeks feels kinda cruddy.

[susan900]

Originally Posted by anilam

I wouldn't bother that much about not telling him you have a cold too- if you still feel bad about it you can tell him on your next session.
Personally, I think Ts are used to cancel on clients so they don't feel much sorry about it. My T cancels often enough (3 small kids)- sometimes I don't mind at all sometimes I feel like crying... but well, life happens. You will get through

Well folk,

Think of the cancellation as not as bad as waiting over 3 months to see T! then he never answered my call!