Do u miss t when they are on vacation and/or u miss a session?

Miswimmy1 · Nov 19, 2012 at 06:29 PM

Question says it all.

noname1000 · Nov 19, 2012 at 06:34 PM

Very very much... it is so hard... and then I beat myself up for letting her mean so much to me :-( It makes me hate the holidays too. Sorry if you are missing your T. I hope they come back soon. I know that probably isn't much comfort right now though.

autotelica · Nov 19, 2012 at 06:37 PM

Yes, I miss her.

So I try to distract myself by learning as much as I can about the places she visits. This year she's going to the Dominican Republic. When she comes back, I'll have read up on the specific places she's going to see, and I'll be able to ask her tons of questions and impress her with my knowledge

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I try not to think about the bad "what-ifs". Like what if she gets sick or what if her plane crashes or what if she decides to make her vacation permanent.

stopdog · Nov 19, 2012 at 06:55 PM

I find it unsettling for the first week and then I don't think much about it if it is more than one week. Often I wonder why I go back because going causes me to spend a day of anxiety before the appointment and baffled frustration for a day or so after it.

sconnie892 · Nov 19, 2012 at 07:13 PM

For me it really depends on where t's vacation falls. I see t every two weeks so if it happens to be an off week, it doesn't even phase me. But sometimes it makes my break three weeks long. That feels long. I miss getting t's feedback when she's away, but I am glad she takes time for herself. I think it sets a good example and makes her a better t.

Sila · Nov 19, 2012 at 07:30 PM

I'm in that spot right now. My T took a week break this week, and it happened to fall upon the same week that a big triggering event is taking place too. And stupid me forgot to bring it up to her until the very last (15) minute/s because I was focused on other stuff that wasn't as important.

I've also got 2 weeks coming up in december that I won't see her- christmas and new years week. But I'm glad she's going to have the holidays off and I'm glad that she'll be enjoying herself and hopefully stress free. Being a T must be stressful- everyone brings their stresses and worries and fears to them every day. So a vacation is a much deserved break imo!

WikidPissah · Nov 19, 2012 at 07:59 PM

no, I could honestly care less whether I go or not with this current therapist chick.

XT, it would feel weird on the day I missed, but not too uncomfortable. Hurt like hell when I quit though.

Nov 19, 2012 at 08:09 PM

I miss her sooo much, without her or you guys...I would be lost.

Nov 19, 2012 at 08:32 PM

I do fine with separations from T for whatever reason. I may think about him in passing, but life goes on.

Little Me · Nov 19, 2012 at 08:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Miswimmy1

Question says it all.

YES I do.

~EnlightenMe~ · Nov 19, 2012 at 09:52 PM

I am missing my xT on his extended, permanent vacation right now.

I like new T, but I feel a wall right now that my subconscious has erected when it comes to missing him while he is away because I am having a difficult time and to deal with all of this AND missing him would be way too much. My castle walls feel safer. I keep trying to pull up the castle door in regard to xT, but I can't seem to do it. Go figure?

I'm stressed, and new T doesn't feel real, my object permanence with him hasn't 'permanenced' itself. He's a ghost, while my previous ghost xT has come to life, maybe for me to grieve the loss? It is torturous.

likelife · Nov 19, 2012 at 10:22 PM

Ugh, more than I'd like to admit. I think I've finally stopped worrying that she will leave me, but the disruption in routine is hard. I definitely don't begrudge my T time away, but I still miss her.

likelife · Nov 19, 2012 at 10:25 PM

And I'm feeling guilty that I emailed her today. She's out this week, I couldn't go last week (sick kids), and it's weird not to see her for three weeks. Plus, I know that there are three or so weeks in December when I won't see her either. I'm not so much a fan of this time of year all around, not just because of missing T. All the expectations and memories around the holidays, along with less support from T, well, it's difficult.

Miswimmy1 · Nov 19, 2012 at 10:25 PM

Thanks guys for the responses. I'm so relieved that Im not the only one who misses my t when she is gone. She is back tonight tho! And I see her tomorrow! So I am so excited

Miswimmy1 · Nov 19, 2012 at 10:27 PM

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Originally Posted by likelife

I'm not so much a fan of this time of year all around, not just because of missing T. All the expectations and memories around the holidays, along with less support from T, well, it's difficult.

I hate this time of yr too. Ur not alone.

It's hard for me even tho I see t 3x a week. But if I miss a session, it's not that big because I still see her 2x more. But that must be so hard to miss 3 weeks in a row!

Nov 20, 2012 at 12:56 AM

Yes yes yes i miss her.
Its no secret around here that i miss my t so much that it rips my heart out

Miss her so much that i actually travelled around the world to go visit her, after a year of her being gone i had had enough, couldnt take it anymore, so i went to see her for about ten days. Now i miss her all over again.

bamapsych · Nov 20, 2012 at 07:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Starry_Night

Yes yes yes i miss her.
Its no secret around here that i miss my t so much that it rips my heart out

Miss her so much that i actually travelled around the world to go visit her, after a year of her being gone i had had enough, couldnt take it anymore, so i went to see her for about ten days. Now i miss her all over again.

I can feel your pain each and every time you post here on PC. My heart truly goes out to you

I hope she comes home soon.

taylor43 · Nov 20, 2012 at 10:18 AM

Yes, im tying to not let it bother me so much i stop living life. I try to spoil myself i miss my session due to vacations i go out for a mocha or a burger. I do miss my T's way too much so im trying so hard to do stuff for me so my depression does not turn to where it is a crises! Do i make sense?

taylor43 · Nov 20, 2012 at 10:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Starry_Night

Yes yes yes i miss her.
Its no secret around here that i miss my t so much that it rips my heart out

Miss her so much that i actually travelled around the world to go visit her, after a year of her being gone i had had enough, couldnt take it anymore, so i went to see her for about ten days. Now i miss her all over again.

I so understand and feel your pain! ((((Hugs)))))

Ike McCaslin · Nov 20, 2012 at 10:46 AM

I'm not sure which is worse. Being bothered by not seeing her or being bothered that it bothers me. If that makes sense.

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Miswimmy1 ~ wingin' it ~ Member Since Aug 2012 Location: USA Posts: 3,791 11 922 hugs given	Nov 19, 2012 at 06:29 PM #1 Question says it all. __________________ Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass. It's about learning to dance in the rain.
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noname1000 Member Member Since Aug 2010 Posts: 29 13	Nov 19, 2012 at 06:34 PM #2 Very very much... it is so hard... and then I beat myself up for letting her mean so much to me :-( It makes me hate the holidays too. Sorry if you are missing your T. I hope they come back soon. I know that probably isn't much comfort right now though.
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stopdog underdog is here Member Since Sep 2011 Location: blank Posts: 34,830 (SuperPoster!) 12 1 hugs given	Nov 19, 2012 at 06:55 PM #4 I find it unsettling for the first week and then I don't think much about it if it is more than one week. Often I wonder why I go back because going causes me to spend a day of anxiety before the appointment and baffled frustration for a day or so after it.
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WikidPissah Euphie Queen Member Since Jul 2010 Location: New England Posts: 10,718 (SuperPoster!) 13 4,940 hugs given	Nov 19, 2012 at 07:59 PM #7 no, I could honestly care less whether I go or not with this current therapist chick. XT, it would feel weird on the day I missed, but not too uncomfortable. Hurt like hell when I quit though. __________________ never mind...
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Anonymous33340 Guest Posts: n/a	Nov 19, 2012 at 08:09 PM #8 I miss her sooo much, without her or you guys...I would be lost.
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Anonymous32910 Guest Posts: n/a	Nov 19, 2012 at 08:32 PM #9 I do fine with separations from T for whatever reason. I may think about him in passing, but life goes on.
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likelife Poohbah Member Since Feb 2012 Posts: 1,408 12 401 hugs given	Nov 19, 2012 at 10:22 PM #12 Ugh, more than I'd like to admit. I think I've finally stopped worrying that she will leave me, but the disruption in routine is hard. I definitely don't begrudge my T time away, but I still miss her.
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Miswimmy1 ~ wingin' it ~ Member Since Aug 2012 Location: USA Posts: 3,791 11 922 hugs given	Nov 19, 2012 at 10:25 PM #14 Thanks guys for the responses. I'm so relieved that Im not the only one who misses my t when she is gone. She is back tonight tho! And I see her tomorrow! So I am so excited __________________ Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass. It's about learning to dance in the rain.
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Anonymous47147 Guest Posts: n/a	Nov 20, 2012 at 12:56 AM #16 Yes yes yes i miss her. Its no secret around here that i miss my t so much that it rips my heart out Miss her so much that i actually travelled around the world to go visit her, after a year of her being gone i had had enough, couldnt take it anymore, so i went to see her for about ten days. Now i miss her all over again.
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taylor43 Veteran Member Member Since Jul 2008 Location: Alberta Posts: 557 15 399 hugs given	Nov 20, 2012 at 10:18 AM #18 Yes, im tying to not let it bother me so much i stop living life. I try to spoil myself i miss my session due to vacations i go out for a mocha or a burger. I do miss my T's way too much so im trying so hard to do stuff for me so my depression does not turn to where it is a crises! Do i make sense?
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Ike McCaslin Magnate Member Since Sep 2012 Location: South Carolina Posts: 2,154 11 585 hugs given	Nov 20, 2012 at 10:46 AM #20 I'm not sure which is worse. Being bothered by not seeing her or being bothered that it bothers me. If that makes sense. __________________ Once in a while you get shown the light, in the strangest of places if you look at it right. R. Hunter
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