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Default Dec 13, 2012 at 11:31 AM
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So I have a slight fantasy of T turning up at my house. It would be due to something random, like her car breaking down or her husband playing football at the park across the road.

I wondered if anyone else had ever imagined this happening, or if, given the choice, you would like T to come to your home?
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Default Dec 13, 2012 at 12:03 PM
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I can relate to this as a fantasy, yes. If it actually happend I would freak out I think
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Never imagined it, no. If given the choice I'd say he!! yeah c'mon over! Ah but it would never happen. *sigh*

p.s. I must say though that at the same time I respect her strong boundaries and in hindsight though I've hated them in the past I am grateful for them now.
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Default Dec 13, 2012 at 12:09 PM
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OMG...no!!! My house is a complete disaster, so I would NOT want T coming to my house. Now, if my house was clean....that'd be a different story.

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Default Dec 13, 2012 at 12:35 PM
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Just yesterday I told my T that I often imagine that he comes to my house and I show him around, especially my room and my books. Sometimes I imagine this to comfort myself and fall asleep.. Also, I often dream of him coming to my house. But, every time in my dreams, everything goes wrong! I also fantasize about meeting him outside, when I go for a walk, even though I know there is no chance of something like that happening. When I see somebody from a distance, I wish he would be my T...
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Default Dec 13, 2012 at 12:40 PM
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In the fantasy realm I've visualised something happening to me and T turning up to offer comfort to my children. Quite a metaphor for what she actually is doing.
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Default Dec 13, 2012 at 12:41 PM
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It depends, but I'd probably be okay with it. I've been so emotionally naked that there's not much left to hide. I wouldn't want him to start chatting with me like I do with friends. But coming over would be okay. I know people whose therapist has given them a ride home, or hte therapist went over to the house so they could play their not-very-easily-transportable musical instrument which was part of her therapy (performance panic). Or I knew of a therapist that went to people's homes instead of making them come to an office.
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Default Dec 13, 2012 at 12:43 PM
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I've totally fantasized about this. I wish my T would come to visit me. Like another post said, I would show her all around my house. The other day I was wishing she could come see my Christmas tree. We both like decorating as a hobby, and I'm so proud of my tree. I know she would love it too
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Default Dec 13, 2012 at 01:23 PM
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well... not sure what to say. I guess the answer is no.

That being said, t *has* come to my house... many times actually. it is not fun. I never imagined her sitting on the patio in the backyard, or standing in my kitchen. It was not the fantasty that I imagined. It was stressful.

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Default Dec 13, 2012 at 01:27 PM
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no. my house is the safe place rom the therapist
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OMG...no!!! My house is a complete disaster, so I would NOT want T coming to my house. Now, if my house was clean....that'd be a different story.
Hee, hee. My thoughts exactly! Let me dust first.
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Default Dec 13, 2012 at 02:25 PM
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So I have a slight fantasy of T turning up at my house. It would be due to something random, like her car breaking down or her husband playing football at the park across the road.

I wondered if anyone else had ever imagined this happening, or if, given the choice, you would like T to come to your home?
Hi Jendifa,

Found your post interesting, and can relate in a way.
When I had therapy earlier this year, My therapist, (who I had tranference feelings for), said he will help me, when I was to see him again. He had promised that cos my Ocd was more of a problem at home, that he will visit me! I was really happy and looking forwards to this around this time of therapy. But unfortuanatley, after alot of heartache, I now, will Not be seeing him, and have been transferred to someother place for therapy! So its was nice to think about, but it is NOT gonna happen.
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Default Dec 13, 2012 at 02:38 PM
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So I have a slight fantasy of T turning up at my house. It would be due to something random, like her car breaking down or her husband playing football at the park across the road.

I wondered if anyone else had ever imagined this happening, or if, given the choice, you would like T to come to your home?
I'd like to invite her to dinner, but it's pretty certain she'd never accept.

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Default Dec 13, 2012 at 02:42 PM
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I'm glad to see other people feel the same way, and also that others don't (so maybe the wanting it to happen will end soon!)

I've bumped into her in public a few times, and served her coffee when she came into the cafe I worked in. I just imagine it would be different if she turned up, unannounced one time!
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Default Dec 13, 2012 at 04:25 PM
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I'd be a bumbling fool if she showed up on my doorstep. A little to close for comfort. So my answer is no it would freak me out to much.
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Default Dec 13, 2012 at 04:33 PM
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I wouldn't want my T to come to my house because I would worry that it wouldn't be clean enough or good enough. I often fantasize about being able to go to her house though.
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Default Dec 13, 2012 at 06:48 PM
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One of the craziest things my therapist has done was come by my apartment unit. I had told her about my beautiful zinnias, which I was growing on the front stoop in little containers. She said she would come by to see them after session.

I went home afterwards, not really thinking she was going to come by. I was in the middle of taking off my work clothes when I happened to look out of the window and see her coming up the walk. Because I was shirtless and I didn't want to risk her even just catching a glimpse of my silohuette through the glass, I ran into the other room. I didn't come out until I was absolutely certain she was gone.

The next session, she told me about her "visit", mentioning the crazy-looking neighbors and everything. I didn't say anything about having seen her. It was weird when it happened, but now I can say that it was one of those things that made me feel closer to her.

I've since moved and she has seen where I live (while dropping me off). Once she has chastised me for keeping my grass too tall and told me to buy a lawnmower, for pete's sake.
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Default Dec 13, 2012 at 07:47 PM
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I once thought I saw t picking up pizzas at the Dominos across the street from my house. I thought about what it would be like for t to come over - then I was mortified that my flower beds were more weeds than flowers at that point and decided she should stay on the other side of the street.

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Default Dec 13, 2012 at 08:09 PM
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I would hide in the closet until she was gone.

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