so long

granite1 · Jan 03, 2013, 10:54 AM

it has been so long sense i have seen my T and been able to talk to her. is it OK to say i miss her. i know it is stupid and she is just a person and all but I'm use to seeing her every Wednesday. this break just seems to be going on forever. i still wont see her until Wednesday. again i just want to be able to sit in her office with her. just to have a break from life and be with someone who isn't going to force me to be OK. i am so so tired. i want my T

Perna · Jan 03, 2013, 11:00 AM

That's good, that you know you want to be with her (remember back when that was too scary to know?). Of course, when you see her, it will be scary instead of "relaxing," isn't that always the way? But being scared by T is a lot better than being scared by the rest of the world, in my view, intuitively one knows T is actually on one's side and is not out to scare one and would make it less scary if she could but the rest of the world just doesn't care that much.

Sannah · Jan 03, 2013, 11:01 AM

karebear1 · Jan 03, 2013, 11:06 AM

I tell my T I miss her when we have a break from each other- and she tells me the same thing. That she missed me! I actually challenged her when she said it once and I hurt her feelings. She really does miss me when we don;t see each other for a while. So...... I say tell her granite. It's ok to miss T and let her know.

Anne2.0 · Jan 03, 2013, 11:07 AM

I think it's amazing that you can feel this for your T, like she is a sweetly comforting presence in your life, without freaking out about it

It wasn't so long ago that you sometimes felt that she was out to attack you. It's progress and growth and all that good stuff.

It is real okay to tell her that you missed her and everything else you wrote here. I've done so with my T, although if I was looking for some kind of specific response from him, I didn't get it. He just smiled and moved on. He's not a big dweller in the land of the Relationship with a capital R.

I am sorry you feel so exhausted. I hope that as the holiday time fades away, you feel less so.

sittingatwatersedge · Jan 03, 2013, 12:27 PM

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Originally Posted by granite1

i just want to be able to sit in her office with her. just to have a break from life and be with someone who isn't going to force me to be OK.

Wow that's a long break ... sit here with us in the meantime. We won't force you, either.

unaluna · Jan 03, 2013, 01:42 PM

It was just a few months ago I wanted my T to carry me around all weekend in a big old Snugli. Nevermind that I weigh twice as much as he does. I don't know how you stand it!!

granite1 · Jan 03, 2013, 05:10 PM

i don't even have anything i want to talk to her about.i would be completely happy just sitting on the floor under a blanket resting as she talks. i would even listen. i hope she had a good vacation. i wonder if she would mind if i went there and just was and didn't deal with anything big at all.I'm just so tired. i''m scared i wont feel well enough to go. or that she will even want to see me in the shape i am in

granite1 · Jan 04, 2013, 03:54 PM

5 more days until i get to see my T.i have not been able to see her sense the 19th of DEC. I'm scared and at the same time it seems so far away. will she still be the same T before she had such a break from me. again i just want to see her. i have scheduled a lot of stuff to do to keep my mind occupied but i have been so sick i cant seem to do anything . i just want to see her. i think i kind of want to see her so much more then i usually do because i am sick and i want her to take care of me for some reason. i think about being in her office with her making me tea and wrapping a blanket around me to keep warm and so on to make me feel better.stupid i know because i know this would never happen

unaluna · Jan 04, 2013, 03:59 PM

You're taking medication for your pneumonia, right? Hopefully you'll be feeling better by next week. But it's prolly gonna feel like a long cold weekend, being sick and all. No football, no hockey... no wait, that's guys...

granite1 · Jan 04, 2013, 04:08 PM

yes i am taking a bunch of medication for it .i hate it because i am already tired and it just makes me even more tired.

Wren_ · Jan 04, 2013, 06:11 PM

((((granite)))) it's perfectly ok to be missing her and to let her know you have ... that t space away from everything is so precious

I hope you feel much better soon

granite1 · Jan 06, 2013, 08:10 AM

so i think it is 3 more days untill i see my T again. i know she will be in the office tomorrow

.i can pretend that i had sent her an e-mail she read it and i can go in on wed and she will know everything i want her to know. ok now back to reality.

karebear1 · Jan 06, 2013, 11:51 AM

granite- I just saw my T on Friday- it was the first time since Dec. 15th- and it was so nice! She smiled at me and told me it seemed like forever since I'd seen her and that she missed talking with me. Then, later in our session, as we were chatting she said she would never forget me- right out of the blue she said that! It kinda made me feel good inside to know she will remember me fondly when we stop seeing each other.

Isn't that just the nicest thing?

granite1 · Jan 06, 2013, 12:08 PM

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Originally Posted by karebear1

granite- I just saw my T on Friday- it was the first time since Dec. 15th- and it was so nice! She smiled at me and told me it seemed like forever since I'd seen her and that she missed talking with me. Then, later in our session, as we were chatting she said she would never forget me- right out of the blue she said that! It kinda made me feel good inside to know she will remember me fondly when we stop seeing each other.

Isn't that just the nicest thing?

that is awsome. it would be so cool if my t felt this way but not sure she would

rainbow8 · Jan 06, 2013, 01:07 PM

granite, I didn't know you had pneumonia! I'm sorry you've been so sick. I've often wished my Ts could take care of me when I've been sick. I think it's a common wish. I hope you feel better soon and that you have a good session.

WikidPissah · Jan 06, 2013, 03:13 PM

It will come (and unfortunately go) soon. Do you have any direction? Sometimes I have so much I want to say, but I have to pull myself into reality and know that I will barely be able to get one thing out. Can you maybe think of one thing you would like her to know? I don't think it's dumb if you tell her that you've missed your meetings.

Have you made her a card? I know that didn't go well the last time, but maybe she's learned a bit since then?

CantExplain · Jan 06, 2013, 04:09 PM

((Granite))

Jan 06, 2013, 04:24 PM

Granite,
I hope you feel better soon

its so hard to be away from them for so long. T told me before when we had a five week break that she missed me and I didn't know what to say as I am not used to people being so honest or nice so I said I missed her too and she gave me a hug. I hope your t will give you the response you want

granite1 · Jan 07, 2013, 07:17 AM

only 2 more days now and i don't even seem to be scared at all. but then again i have 2 more days

granite1 · Jan 07, 2013, 07:20 AM

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Originally Posted by WikidPissah

It will come (and unfortunately go) soon. Do you have any direction? Sometimes I have so much I want to say, but I have to pull myself into reality and know that I will barely be able to get one thing out. Can you maybe think of one thing you would like her to know? I don't think it's dumb if you tell her that you've missed your meetings.

Have you made her a card? I know that didn't go well the last time, but maybe she's learned a bit since then?

wiki i have no idea what i will talk to her about at all.i may not even say anything. i hope she doesn't get mad if i don't. i agree it will just come and go i don't know how to decide what to talk about. believe it or not i have actually the last few times i went have kind of let her take the lead and we end out talking about something. that is better then nothing

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