[Alishia88]

I really like my T. But this is annoying.
I came to my last session wanting to talk a LOT about a bunch of things that happened to me, that I thought about and that I noticed since the last session.
But my therapist talks so much herself. I mean, I like her and what she says makes sense and is helpfull.
But she very much leads the session when she does talk so much.
It is like, I have a thought on something she says, but I won´t interrupt and she keeps talking. So I forget what I wanted to say.
But when I talk, she interrupts all the time.
I mean, she does listen to me. It´s just that she doesn´t let me finish and I´d like more talk-time myself.
And I don´t want to struggle for it.
Last time wasn´t a trauma-exposure session, we talked ABOUT the problem itself. Still, she definently talked more than 50 percent of the time.
Other times it´s maybe 50 percent or more.

Also, she doesn´t ask so much and assumes a lot, I feel.

[stopdog]

I would tell her to stop.

Try pyschoanalitical therapy.

[critterlady]

I think you have 3 choices:

- you can talk to her about it and explain how it makes you feel
- you can find another T who doesn't do that
- you can continue as things are without bringing it up. Of course, this option means you won't get what you need out of therapy.

I had this happen with a previous T. At the end of 3 sessions, I knew more about her life than she knew about mine. I fired her and found my current T, who is almost the opposite. It was the best move I could have made.

[WePow]

Critterlady has it right on the money.... YOU are the one paying for a service. Just like any other boss, you get to make the choice here. You can let her know the facts and see if it improves the services, or you can let her go. Bottom line is you are paying not only money but your hour of time. Double payment! So you deserve to have therapy done the right way for your needs.

[Alishia88]

thank you

[ShaggyChic_1201]

This occurred with my marriage therapist, not my regular T.

The 3 of us had a session, in which T started talking about things my H had said in a previous, private session. I was appalled by this breach of confidentiality. Then T turned to me and said, "Well your H has said that one of the things that is bothering him is that you are still reacting to your childhood issues. So ... are you ready to work with me to face some of those childhood traumas?"

Now, let me just say that I've worked thru those issues several times, and it's not true that I live in fear b/c of childhood trauma. In fact, I don't live in fear at all, I've just stopped enabling my H and he feels very uncomfortable with our new relationship.

So I said, "no."

After all, "no." is a full sentence, right

Well, T got all flustered with me and told me not to bother coming back if I wasn't going to unburden myself to him. That was fine with me, since I thougth he was a quack anyway. But then H double-booked and T wouldn't cancel appointment, so T asked ME to come in so we could chat. I didn't want to, but H begged me to so I relented.

I got there and during the entire 60 minute ($100) session, I asked three questions. To which he replied in a babbling stream of consiousness that involved his three fears, a story about wearing a green jacket that no one liked but Jesus liked it and loved him so it didn't really matter if anyone else liked it, him singing me two hymns, stories about his wife, the fact that he used to worry what others thought about him but now he doesn't, and that even if no one else liked him, his grandkids and dogs did.

Um. Needless to say, I regretting writing him a check for his therapy and will never, ever go back.