[suzzie]

(i am sorry she isnt doing well. and know she needs to look after herself.)

like you wait 2 weeks to go. try do your homework.
she cancels. it takes 2 days to get her and reschedule.
she calls. makes a new appointment. its another 2 weeks away. a month wait now.
she tells you that appointment may get cancelled. and you will have to rescedule again. and keep waiting.
she tells you the sessions will be getting farther apart. due to health concerns she has.
she tells you she will be off for a long stretch soon.
i feel like i have no t.

Originally Posted by suzzie

like you wait 2 weeks to go. try do your homework.
she cancels. it takes 2 days to get her and reschedule.
she calls. makes a new appointment. its another 2 weeks away. a month wait now.
she tells you that appointment may get cancelled. and you will have to rescedule again. and keep waiting.
she tells you the sessions will be getting farther apart. due to health concerns she has.
she tells you she will be off for a long stretch soon.
i feel like i have no t.

You just have to consider how long you can wait while she addresses her health and what is her contingence plan? Then you need to decided if want to stay with her through this.

[ThisWayOut]

does she have someone on-call in case of emergencies? Does she have anyone to fill in for her since she will be less available? sorry you have so little contact with your T.

[CantExplain]

It's not what T is unable to do that makes me feel hopeless.
It's what she is unwilling to do.

[suzzie]

am i wrong wanting it to be more consistant. and frequent.
just wondering. maybe i expect too much.
i dont mean to be unappreciative of my t.

[FourRedheads]

No, I don't think you are expecting too much. Not at all! I would not be happy with a month wait. I'm sorry.

[roads]

no, suzzie, I had a T with horrible back pain & I was always aware of his getting settlied & such--but he was there.

I think your T needs a health leave if she's got something this significant going on. I wouldn't be happy at all. I would want a T healthy enough to meet with me most of the time.

No Suzzie you're not wrong, I would want a T that is reliable I know that she can't help being ill but cancelling on you isn't fair either

[EllieBear]

My T has to cancel and change sessions for health and other reasons fairly often. When I first started seeing her, it was a huge issue for me. I did not deal with the cancelations well at all. But, she is the best therapist I've ever been to and for the first tome in my life I felt hope seeing her. I could see the changes I was making. So, for me, it is worth it to deal with the cancelations and changes...it's just part of seeing her. I can do that because the benefit of seeing her is worth the cost of having that uncertainty. That being said, she's very good at getting back to me and rescheduling as soon as possible, and she makes time to see me at the last minute when I need that too. I wouldn't be able to deal with not seeing her for a month, or being rescheduled for two weeks away. It sounds like your T has legitimate reasons for changing the appointments, but that doesn't mean you have to just sit back and be okay with it. If it doesn't work for you, it's okay to take care of yourself in whatever ways you need. If she can't do what you need, maybe someone else can. Or maybe it's worth it to you to wait for her and see her when she can. Think about what [I]you[I] need. My experience is, that's a good place to start.

[adel34]

I don't think you're wrong at all for expecting your t to be consistent and to see her frequently. It concerns me that it seems that she has no person to cover for her or plan for when she is out. I guess you just have to decide if you want to stay with this t because you really like her, or find another one who will be there more often. Hugs, I'm sorry you're going through this!

[stopdog]

I feel more hopeless since therapy.

I do think a client should be able to have a more regular schedule, but it may take finding a therapist who has that ability. It sounds like the one you see is not unwilling but unable due to health concerns. In my opinion, that may be sad but you can decide to see one who is able to be consistent right now and that does not mean you are unappreciative or ungrateful or anything like that. A client gets to put their needs first and if regular meetings are what you need, you can find a therapist who can give you that without worrying about how the therapist handles it.

[suzzie]

that must be what she meant by a longer stretch....a health leave.
but then i wont have no t for a long time.
she never mentioned anything about another t for between.

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she is a free community t. this is the only community t building in town. there are other ts in it. but i think they are all booked to capacity. i had to go on a waitlist for this t. im sure its the same for the others. i dont have money to pay for a t. if this t doesnt work. i have no t. but the long gaps between sessions are taking there toll. my first t said that you have to "stay in/with it" for trauma t to work. with the long gaps that doesnt happen. its like a first session over and over again. it feels hopeless.

Can you continue seeing T and also get on a waiting list?