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Old Mar 13, 2013, 11:11 AM
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I've got T tomorrow morning and I'm petrified she's going to get rid of me. This is a constant fear of mine but I admitted to violating boundaries last week and I think I've gone too far. I know it was wrong I've still got that mum thing going on where I want her to fill that role and I still want her to hug me, even though it's been over a year since she said she would no longer do that, it still hurts. I've SI'd this week with the sheer desperation I feel. I'm trying to hold it together but I think by the time tomorrow morning comes I'm going to find it hard to get myself to T
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Old Mar 13, 2013, 11:12 AM
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Old Mar 13, 2013, 11:27 AM
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Old Mar 13, 2013, 11:36 AM
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Old Mar 13, 2013, 11:36 AM
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I'm in your pocket but I was wondering how you violated T's boundary?
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Old Mar 13, 2013, 11:39 AM
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Old Mar 13, 2013, 11:47 AM
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I will be thinking of you too! If I were you, the VERY FIRST question when I saw T would be "Are you terminating me?" At least go ahead and plan/verify your next session. These are things you can work through with T.
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Old Mar 13, 2013, 12:12 PM
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Old Mar 13, 2013, 12:30 PM
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I'm in your pocket but I was wondering how you violated T's boundary?

I don't think I can say - I'm too scared you'll all think I'm terrible
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Old Mar 13, 2013, 01:03 PM
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I'm in, Nelliecat, if there's room for me!?! What time is your appointment? I'll make sure I'm mentally there with you and sending good vibes at the right time

Also, as I haven't been around I don't know exactly what's going on, BUT I do know you're certainly not 'terrible'! Not by any stretch of the imagination!
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Old Mar 13, 2013, 01:47 PM
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Old Mar 13, 2013, 01:53 PM
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Old Mar 13, 2013, 02:07 PM
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Old Mar 13, 2013, 02:32 PM
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I will come along too, I shall be thinking of you tomorrow
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Old Mar 13, 2013, 03:00 PM
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Sure, I'm jumping in your pocket right now. And I've got chocolate with me! Whatever you did, you're not terrible. It's probably something I've done, I bet. Talking about it with your T will help. If she gets angry, I'll jump out and punch her!
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Old Mar 13, 2013, 03:12 PM
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I don't think I can say - I'm too scared you'll all think I'm terrible
I understand that some things are ok to keep private. But the truth about PC is that most of us here could and would never see you are terrible. We all have our secrets (raises both hands). Things I will never be able to tell anyone outside my T. Fact of the matter is, all of that is the past for all of us though. If not the past, we are all working to make it a part of the past. Either way, we care deeply about you if you want to share or not. Either way... we are all right here for you.
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Old Mar 13, 2013, 04:21 PM
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Please tell us. We won't think you're terrible. We can reassure you it's not so bad.
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Old Mar 13, 2013, 04:24 PM
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I'm in Nellie. Good luck.
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Old Mar 13, 2013, 04:39 PM
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No one will think your terrible... I'm sorry your worried. I agree first thing ask T if s/he's terminating you.
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Old Mar 13, 2013, 06:33 PM
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I am sorry you are hurting and beating yourself up over this. So you crossed ts boundaries? We are all guilty of that and maybe this was a cry for help because you need her more this week. T should be able to tell you you overstepped the line and to back off but t should be able to deal with this without termination.
BTW, I didn't know what boundary meant until I started therapy and I crossed t1s boundaries....woahhhhh that was a mistake lol but she kept me on as a client for another year before termination for something not boundary related.
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Old Mar 13, 2013, 07:22 PM
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Of course I'm with you, dear NC.
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Old Mar 13, 2013, 07:33 PM
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In your pocket, Nellie sweetheart!
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Old Mar 13, 2013, 09:36 PM
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me too. hope I'm not late,
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Old Mar 14, 2013, 01:02 AM
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i wanna go too!!!! make more room, jumpin in!
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Old Mar 14, 2013, 03:48 AM
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