What was you 1st impression of T.

I was wondering when you first met your T, what your first impression of them was and if it turned out to be correct?

My new T, my first impression is that she is nice but a bit.... cold or clinical or something. I don't think she's going to be a "tea and sympathy" type therapist.

Nervous she was going to change everything since my dr before her moved. But she ended up helping Way more. She's pleasant and nice. Luckily no problems.

My first impression was that it was all a bit too 'hippy' for me. It took 3 months for me to completely fall apart and have to get up the courage to return. She turned out to be completely normal and in fact we have several things in common. The one thing I did find is that part of me trusted her from the moment I first met her and three years later I have never been disappointed. I'm just waiting for the rest of me to trust her.

I thought T at first was not real, too much of a kiss @ss and I'm not fond of kiss @ss. Turns out he just really got me and the tough place I was in. He also startled me with self disclosure, consistently, when I had two previous therapists who didn't do too much of it. But now I see that his self disclosure is a tool to get me to engage in intimacy with him.

I thought mine was a bit cold and distant. She still seems distant sometimes but that's the lack of self disclosure and her consistant tight boundaries. She doesn't appear cold anymore.

If you don't mind my saying, it's always worth examining your own perception first. Do you expect her to be cold or reject you, for example? Why might you be looking to see that?

When I first met my T, I thought he seemed kind but couldn't imagine connecting with him. I thought he seemed a bit distant, and kind of... old. All so very wrong! (Except being old. He is quite old.)

Jumping on the "cold and distant" bandwagon. But tinyrabbit makes a good point about expectations. Four years later and my T still says I miss just about every attempt she makes at connection. Is there anything you think you might be expecting (consciously or not) to find in this new T, Asiablue?

I didnt know if I clicked with T. I thought she was not clinical enough. Almost too friend like. I was also judgemental because of where she worked. So glad I went back because she rocks at trauma work.

Same here!

I felt like she was calm, unflappable, understanding, she actually seemed to "get" me. I don't remember much of my first few sessions, but I do remember feeling like I just clicked with T, and that she could help me if I let my guard down enough to trust her.

The biggest thing, though, was that she didn't remind me in any way of my mother. My previous two T's reminded me of my mother, and I wasn't able to trust them.

He had this open, surprised look on his face that I liked very much, and after ten years, it's still there.

I thought my T was ballsy. Very confident and strong. Gave me hope that I could get through this. The hope was the most important in my returning and his confidence in himself and his ability to help was the most important in instilling hope. I have a strong memory of him looming and saying "I'm not a therapist, I'm a healer." That is the part I thought very ballsy and a little comical. But he was very serious.

I was a little worried because my T was the same nationality as the man who sexually abused me and I didn't know how any discussion or trust would play out.

she gave me a sense of great intelligence and great inner peace. It drew me from the first day. And both turned out to be true, which is great.

my first impression of my present therapist was...

Wow! what a great rear view...

Then we sat down to talk and it was like I have found a soulmate...too bad she's married and my therapist lol and I was also in a relationship.

now my impression of her is still Wow what a great rear view..and she knows her stuff, and Im completely comfortable and trust her fully.

The only thing I remember about the first couple of appointment is that she had dog toys in the office and told me the breed of dog she had, but that the dog would not be there when I was.
And then the dog was.

I felt like we "clicked" from the initial phone consultation. My first impression of her from our very first session was "she's kooky!" I'm glad I kept an open mind because she has helped me SO much. I told her a couple months ago about how I thought she was kooky at first. She took it well, LOL! What a weird and wonderful relationship.

My first impression was that T didn't have great fashion sense But since then and as I have come to adore her, I think she is the classiest most elegant lady of her age

I remember telling my sister after meeting T for the first time that talking to him was like being wrapped in a soft, warm blanket.

It's still like that most of the time.

I met mine 3 years before she became my T. Because she used to do the paperwork (PASAR) required to get people with mental health issues into long term care like nursing homes and asissted living facilities. And at the time I needed 24 hour watching because i couldn't gaurentee my safety AND i needed physical care too.

So we met for this thing where she asked me stuff like what i wanted out of therapy. And my issues. It turned out we had the love of dogs in common speciffically working dogs. I was sad when i found out she wouldn't be my T because I was going to a diffrrent area.

3 years later I came back to this area and I got her as T! I was SO happy! And i was right. She is very insightful, friendly yet follows boundaries, has been the bezt T i have ever had, and i trust her, and can count on her. There are few people i can actually trust. i have had my share of not the best T 's.

My first impression was that he was wicked cute, and seemed like he knew what he was doing, but was a bit patronizing -- Ohhh, good question -- kind of stuff. He stopped doing that really quickly and we got along very well from the beginning.

I have noticed that the marriage counselor is also somewhat patronizing, and seems surprised when I know the why's of what he is doing.

My first thought when I saw my therapist was "OH my god she is a redhead" I have had more than my fair share of redheads with significance in my life.

My first thought of her that wasn't based on physical appearance was calm, distant but caring. I remember thinking that those two things (distant and caring) don't really go together but with her they seem to work.

I thought my new T was gonna be wet behind the ears and I was right... LOL

I felt like I had a sense of who she was. She didn't really feel like a stranger to me. I liked her a lot. I feel lucky for that.

She was a lesbian & would fancy me :-(

Back then I was so desperate for maternal love that I thought only a woman who was lesbian could do that.

Just remembering that reminds me of how I've grown since that time.