[stopdog]

Just wondering how often and why others cancel.

In six years and eight months I have only cancelled a couple of times because of snowstorms.

[WikidPissah]

I cancel when I just don't feel like it...but not often. Maybe once every 5-6 weeks. I have been hardly going at all lately though. She canceled on me twice this week...it's okay though, because I don't feel like going. I don't think going when you don't feel like it does any good, it just leads to a slow frustrating session.
(I always give plenty of notice, at least 48 hrs if possible)

[stopdog]

Aggh I forgot weather. Polls are hard to come up with all the options. I should have put an other category.
I would put weather under minor family things.

I cancel when I think it will help my rage and frustration dissipate enough that I don't have to si to back in check. Or for work. I have never had the therapist mention it except if I have told her it is for work and then she will ask how court went. I do not usually try to reschedule - waiting a week or two is not a big deal for me.

I cancel for anger at therapist and i just don't want to go. But I've discovered it's really not worth it as it is ALWAYS brought by my T.

[trdleblue]

I have been in therapy a little over a year and I have never canceled. If I were to get sick, or go on a trip I would try to reschedule, but that has not happened yet. My t has rescheduled twice, and took one week off. Showing up is one of the two promises I made to myself when I started all of this. If I start canceling then I will probably just stop going altogether. I forget how it came up, but my therapist did once tell me that it is okay to cancel, or to have an easy session. I think that he realizes that I would feel extremely guilty if I missed a week.

[healed84]

I have never cancelled on t... However, if a family emergency came up, or I was so sick that I didn't go to work, then I wouldn't go to t.

MC on the other hand.. I have to convince myself everyday not to cancel. The only reason I don't is b/c h wants to do it and it is not my decesion alone to make.

[Asiablue]

I rarely cancel and if i do mostly it's because of illness but if i really didn't want to go, or was angry with T and didn't want to deal with it, i just would cancel.

[SingDanceRunLife]

I honestly can't remember ever canceling. I mean, I was once so sick that I was pretty much a ball of nothingness and I still went. T of course sent me home that time after about 20 minutes...but I still went.

I cancel when I'm frustrated with myself and the lack of progress... what's the point of going?

[tooski]

I've never cancelled in 2+ years, but I've had to reschedule once or twice. I don't get sick too often, but I would cancel if I was really sick. Although I'd probably try to reschedule it ...

T is a priority with me. I get my little butt in there no matter how I'm feeling. And if I'm angry, whether at T or not, he hears about it. It can be fun to rant and rave there because he's like teflon - nothing sticks on him. And that means I have a safe place to vent.

[wotchermuggle]

I voted for everything except for does not cancel. My work situation has changed and it has been conflicting with appointment times, plus finances cause me to cancel if I'm not working enough hours.

I've cancelled for every reason listed at one point or another in the past several years, but it's pretty rare that I don't make an appointment (outside of the work issue). I'm really committed.

[pbutton]

I have rescheduled twice because of work. Otherwise I go. Anger and anxiety are typical states for me - never excuses not to go. Change is only going to occur if I attempt to fight back against these stupid defenses I have built.

[BlessedRhiannon]

I picked never cancel, because I always reschedule my appointments. So, I never truly cancel. I've had to reschedule for various reasons - conflicts with work, going out of town for various reasons, being sick, just needing to see T sooner. I've been tempted to cancel because I was anxious or things just felt too hard, but in those cases, I usually realize I NEED to go to T, and if necessary, I'll call T to talk about it.

[rainboots87]

I only cancel with T's I'm not attached to. With them I kinda just don't care much about the process after awhile, though I always give advance notice about canceling.

With the two T's I have been attached to, I do whatever it takes to get to therapy like rearranging my schedule or just forcing myself out of the house even if I haven't left my room or eaten all day. I tried to cancel a couple times claiming that I didn't deserve to go, but since that T meant a lot to me she was able to convince me to show up.

[LoneWolfie]

I have been seeing my t for just over a year, once a week and I have never cancelled. That in its self would cause me anxiety.lol

[~EnlightenMe~]

I was angry after session today, so I called to cancel all the rest of my sessions (quit) and although I thought my T wouldn't answer, he did. I ended up not only NOT cancelling, I also added an extra appointment to next week. Who am I?

[likelife]

I can't see the poll on my phone. I cancel when I'm sick or my kids are sick and I don't have any childcare. Neither of those happens often, though. I've cancelled once or twice when I was angry, but I really don't miss very many sessions. I'm pretty sure my T has cancelled more on me than vice versa.

[0w6c379]

I think I've only cancelled about two times in two years because of illness or weather. I don't believe in cancelling appointments in general. Once I took a break for emotional reasons but I let him know the week before so he could put someone else in my slot if he needed to.

[stopdog]

I do agree with notice of canceling rather than last minute. I usually cancel right after/a few hours after an appointment for the next week.

[unaluna]

Only if I'm really sick. And I'm proud about saying that because before - ie not too long ago - I couldn't or wouldn't recognize or acknowledge that I was that uncomfortable. But working with this t has helped me accept it, where before my mother wouldn't. She'd just be, oh you're not sick! And so for a long time it was hard for me to figure out if I was or not, and what to do about it. My dad took care of my colds, not her, putting Vicks vaporub on me before bed. But no one got up if I needed a drink of water or couldn't breathe because my nose was stuffed up.

And then I walked 5 miles in the snow to school , uphill both ways, i know!

[lostin08]

I never cancel! The only thing that would make me cancel is trasportation!

[TheRealFDeal]

I think I only canceled once in 3.5 years, and then only because I planned a trip to a baseball game with my sisters and I couldn't tell them I couldn't go because I had a T appt. I was really attached and couldn't not see him.

[googley]

I only cancel if I am so sick I'm really contagious or can't get myself there physically or the weather is so bad that it is unsafe to drive. Otherwise I don't cancel.

[EllieBear]

I picked sick and contagious or injured and unable to walk, but really I have only cancelled once in 5 years because I was really sick and contagious and my T gets sick easily. So it was more for her than me. I was in a serious accident a year ago and shattered my hip socket and was immobile and couldn't even touch my foot to the ground for 6 months...and we still found a way to meet. I never missed a session. So the one I picked is half-right...I cancel only if I will get T sick out of respect for her but I hate having to cancel at all.