[scorpiosis37]

Like many other forummites, Mother's Day is particularly difficult for me. Having to see the TV commercials, the cards, the fb posts, the mothers and daughters walking hand-in-hand down the street-- it sometimes feels like it's more than I can handle. It's a day I wish could come and go without having to be broadcast for those of us who never had a mom, were never loved, never got to go to any mother-daughter activities, and never had anyone to celebrate.

Well, today, I had one of those casual interactions that just make it ten times worse. I went to my chiropractor and the first words out of his mouth were: "So, what did you do for your mom for Mother's Day?" I really hate it when people just assume that everyone has a mom. He never would have made the same statement about Father's Day; we don't just assume that everyone has a father in their life. Why does everyone make that assumption about mothers? Anyway, my response was: "I don't have a mom." But, rather than just respecting my answer and my privacy, he immediately retorted back, almost laughing: "Everyone has a mother!" Again, I said: "Well, I don't." He still wouldn't drop the subject. He said: "Everyone had to have a mother at some point!" I didn't respond after that point because I didn't want to get into it with him, but what I wanted to say in my head was: "Giving birth doesn't make someone a mother. The woman who gave birth to me and then didn't raise me does not deserve to be called 'my mother.' Mothers are supposed to take care of you and love you, and I never had that. Like I said, I don't have a 'mom.'" It's so hard when people just don't get it at all, and then think you're being negative or flippant when you you're trying to protect yourself from talking about your painful past with them. I just wanted to post about that here because I know there are some of you out there who can relate to this.

[CantExplain]

((ScorpioSis))

[Freewilled]

I'm sorry ScorpioSis I can relate on some level....my weekend and the following couple of days have been heart wrenching...and I can say Mother's Day made everything worse. I can't believe he asked you that though! I know my friends/acquaintances would ask, but a chiropractor? Ugh. I think it's refreshing to hear you being honest regardless. I might be tempted to lie...

[unaluna]

Well said, sis. Do they have a day for monkeys raised by clocks and a wired blanket?

Eta: NOW I understand my avatar!!

Scorpiosis, I finally had enough of people ignoring my attempts to just brush them off in situations like that. I finally told someone that my mom is just crazy and that's really enough said. She STILL kept going, and I finally said, "look, she's not crazy in the regular, oh haha, my mom is craaaazy, kind of crazy. She's crazy in the, Holy ****, get the knife away from her, kind of crazy. So don't TALK to me about mothers and how I should treat mine." It worked. The woman avoided me for a really long time but she stopped talking to me about mothers.

[feralkittymom]

He's an ***. I think I might have hauled off and decked him.