[MASIMO]

My therapist has confused me, and now i won't see him for a month.
He went to a seminar and I think was trying something new with me.
He first said he wanted to throw something out. He said he wasn't sure I was entitled to hear his onion of me. Huh? He kept saying that i was cable of doing certain things, but that's his onion. I fought him on what he said and he kept saying Yes but this is onion. Then he Said this isn't working like he planned and changed his approach. What i don't understand is his initial comment about me being entitled to hear his opinion. Aren't all assessments an onion?

[MASIMO]

Sorry...please replace onion with opinion!!!

[unaluna]

Of course everything he says is his opinion. It's too bad whatever he was trying didn't work.

[likelife]

Seems a bizarre technique to me.

[1stepatatime]

Originally Posted by MASIMO

Sorry...please replace onion with opinion!!!

Lmaofffff...too funny

[Perna]

If one asks someone's opinion (consult a T for his professional opinion, for example) and then argue with it, it's clear the person doesn't really want the opinion unless it agrees with their own opinion. The point of asking another person's opinion is that their perspective is different and might help us if we're stuck in a rut with our own.

So, initially your T said he wasn't sure you were "entitled" to hear his opinion, probably because you have argued with it in the past and so there is no point in his telling you what he thinks because you do not respect him and his opinion. He went ahead and told you "he thought you were capable of doing certain things" and. . .what was the result? You fought him on what he said.

You cannot "fight" another person's opinion; they can think whatever they darn well please; he can think you can fly if he wants just like you can think he's full of crap. But, if you think that about him, the point becomes, why do you go see him?

To me, the "correct" response is "Thank you for sharing your opinion with me, I want to think about what you had to say."

[almostthere]

I think u should seek another T.

He's not a good match for u and remaining with him/her, will only hinder u from moving foward.

Originally Posted by MASIMO

My therapist has confused me, and now i won't see him for a month.
He went to a seminar and I think was trying something new with me.
He first said he wanted to throw something out. He said he wasn't sure I was entitled to hear his onion of me. Huh? He kept saying that i was cable of doing certain things, but that's his onion. I fought him on what he said and he kept saying Yes but this is onion. Then he Said this isn't working like he planned and changed his approach. What i don't understand is his initial comment about me being entitled to hear his opinion. Aren't all assessments an onion?

[MASIMO]

Well he was not far off from thinking I could fly. You are right, I shouldn't have argued with his opinion.
It was very hard to hear what he was saying. I think he is doing everything he can think of to help me.

[wotchermuggle]

I'm so confused about this whole thread. I'd like to help, but this is really confusing.

Is this your regular T?

Is this a consult T?

Are you seeing this T for a second opinion?

What is the history behind what you've described happening?

[poptartscherry]

Sounds like he went to I want to lose clients seminar. You're not worthy of his opinion of you?? Am I understanding this? Huh? is absolutely correct!

Originally Posted by MASIMO

My therapist has confused me, and now i won't see him for a month.
He went to a seminar and I think was trying something new with me.
He first said he wanted to throw something out. He said he wasn't sure I was entitled to hear his onion of me. Huh? He kept saying that i was cable of doing certain things, but that's his onion. I fought him on what he said and he kept saying Yes but this is onion. Then he Said this isn't working like he planned and changed his approach. What i don't understand is his initial comment about me being entitled to hear his opinion. Aren't all assessments an onion?

[Elektra_]

hi. can u explain it better im confused too

[unaluna]

You can look up old posts by the op. I don't know what the protocol is in general online as this is my first forum, but that's how I got to "know" people. But then I'm a pretty fast reader. But then again I was on a pretty slow phone. So idk.

[wotchermuggle]

Originally Posted by hankster

You can look up old posts by the op. I don't know what the protocol is in general online as this is my first forum, but that's how I got to "know" people. But then I'm a pretty fast reader. But then again I was on a pretty slow phone. So idk.

Or the OP could just explain a bit better.....

[~EnlightenMe~]

What an odd way to put it, that you are not entitled to his opinion? Maybe he wants you to accept yourself regardless of how he feels/what he thinks, and advocate for yourself? Just a thought.

However, what your T's opinion is will directly influence the treatment plan, so I'm kind of at a loss?

I like that he told you was trying something and then changed when it clearly wasn't working. I hope you can talk to him about this when he gets back.

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by wotchermuggle

Or the OP could just explain a bit better.....

It's true -this post is kind of like you just walked in on the middle of a conversation. But it made perfect sense to me! But then I will pick up with friends I haven't seen in years as if it were yesterday, so I'm probably not a good measure! T says I remember things that his "regular people" didn't - I assumed he meant his soon to be ex-wife. I love people stories.

[MASIMO]

Sorry for being vague. I was trying to keep it simple but it ended up being incomplete.
My T doesn't tell me what to do. Even though I know his sentiments. I Feel trapped in an abusive marriage. His opinions just expressed said I can leave any time I want to, regardless of the ramifications, that he thinks I have the strengths to do it. I have numerous reasons why I disagree. Most T won't tell you to leave. They will only present the options and encourage the self esteem to move forward.
I think that was what he was trying to express however the delivery Got muddled.

[Elektra_]

dont expect him to tell u what to do... as u say he can only present options. sometimes in therapy i wanted her to tell me what to do but she would say right away: i cant tell u what to do. u do know what to do deep down. good luck