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Jun 16, 2013, 12:08 AM
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I am not sure if there is a certain type of therapy that deals with sexual issues, well besides addiction but do you think that therapy can help with your sex life?
I have never brought up sex in therapy, yet it keeps popping up with the therapists. I can't help think they have an unhealthy preoccupation with it. This week t brought up sexuality again and how sex is so important, just out of the blue. We were talking about Jung and she was casually mentioning all of his mistresses. A few weeks before our break t wanted to talk about sexuality but I couldn't, next session she wants to talk about it again, wtf? I think she thinks I am not a lesbian again. Last edited by Anonymous58205; Jun 16, 2013 at 02:56 AM. |
 Anonymous33425, Mapleton, rainbow8, unaluna
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Jun 16, 2013, 12:19 AM
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I talk about sex a lot with my T. I never did with any previous T (I was too shy) but my current T makes it relatively easy to talk about. I think it depends on the T. Mine asked me questions about it early in therapy, and I was surprised, but I was kind of glad that she asked. You can tell your T you don't want to talk about it if you don't want to. Or you can ask her why she keeps bringing it up.
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| Anonymous58205, Mapleton
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Jun 16, 2013, 12:39 AM
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We never worked explicitly on sex, but loving and accepting myself improved my sex life as a side-effect.
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Jun 16, 2013, 12:41 AM
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I know there has been a bit of disclosed attraction here, right, Mona?
Could it be that rather than the T having sex on the brain (although I'm sure many T's do!) that, perhaps, the T is trying to redirect what she views as this attraction transference in a more healthy direction? It seems like things are often exactly the reverse of what they appear to be, from a psychological standpoint. |
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Jun 16, 2013, 12:46 AM
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Jun 16, 2013, 12:54 AM
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| crazycanbegood
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Jun 16, 2013, 01:03 AM
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I don't know, I think I have kept it hidden well. I don't want to tell her because last t terminated me because of it.
T knows I like her but I don't know if she realises how much. She has never brought up transference but she has brought up everything else to do with therapy. She is rather curious about two women and what we do. She asks lots of questions about that and always says afterwards it's not my orientation so I wouldn't know. Last edited by Anonymous58205; Jun 16, 2013 at 02:57 AM. |
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#8
Jun 16, 2013, 01:04 AM
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 Where's that blush smiley? 
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Jun 16, 2013, 01:09 AM
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I did some short term work with a doctor years ago about a sexual issue and after several weeks she basically said if I had a different husband I wouldn't have the problem! That probably in that relationship things would never improve. We split up years later, but I'm not sure she was very helpful.
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| anilam
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Jun 16, 2013, 01:13 AM
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There are so many different things at play too, lots of them psychological. I think maybe our thinking has a lot to do with it, unless one partner has a sexual defect. |
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#11
Jun 16, 2013, 01:15 AM
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I think there are things that are very difficult to hide in terms of attraction, however much we may wish to... like a blush, involuntary mirroring of a smile, leaning or gesturing. Its difficult not to unconsciously flirt at least a little with those who we covet, no? And you shouldn't worry if you do. Anyone should be flattered with it, as long as you're not invasive or breaking boundaries. As for what she asks you... if I had to guess based on what you were saying, then I'd say she doesn't have a lot of experience with lesbian clients and she's at least intellectually curious about that sexual orientation. We're rarely exactly het, or gay, as Kinsey points out. |
| chumchum, FeelTheBurn, rainbow8
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Jun 16, 2013, 01:59 AM
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And she may be in denial about aspects of her own sexuality. PS: If a T terminates you because of your sexuality, that is their failure and theirs alone.
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| anilam
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Jun 16, 2013, 03:29 AM
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I know this is all coincidence or normal in therapy but I get confused with it all. She has disclosed that she no experience with gay clients so I suppose she is trying to learn about the sex. T likes it when I notice her new shoes, dress or hair. As for crossing boundaries I am supper aware of boundaries and wouldn't dream of crossing ts. Even though I was in crisis for the last three weeks I didn't ring her. She told me I should have. Quote:
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| CantExplain, crazycanbegood
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Jun 16, 2013, 05:52 AM
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| CantExplain, feralkittymom
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Jun 16, 2013, 05:52 AM
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If I was sexually attracted to my husband I would not have a sex issue. My sex drive is healthy. Just not with him. Sex should not be the main drive in a marriage. We have an open marriage and I can have sex with whom ever I want. I would if I did not think I was fat and I attractive all the time.
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Jun 16, 2013, 06:47 AM
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Jun 16, 2013, 07:33 AM
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She has the internet there which is the easiest way to gain whatever information you seek. If you are not comfortable discussing sex with her, close her down next time she discusses it.
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| anilam, Mapleton
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Jun 16, 2013, 03:04 PM
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Ask her why she keeps bringing it up? Maybe?
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| CantExplain
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Jun 17, 2013, 04:58 AM
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T is not very internet savvy. She can send emails and that is about it. I am going to finally talk about this with her this week and get to the bottom of it. Quote:
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Jun 23, 2013, 02:04 AM
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#21
Jun 23, 2013, 05:02 AM
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Well I brought up sex this week
I asked her why she wanted me to look at these photos she mentioned last week which were very explicit; there were all of womens private parts. T said she wanted me to embrace my sexuality and be comfortable with my body. She said she even enjoyed looking at them and curious to what I thought about them. They were very dramatic and shocking so I was quite in shock after seeing them. I don't know what ts agenda is to be honest- maybe she is trying some sort of new shock therapy with me! Thank you for asking CE
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| rainbow8
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| 1stepatatime, CantExplain, rainbow8
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Jun 23, 2013, 09:47 AM
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Wow!! how did you feel about the explicit pictures that she showed to you? I guess what I am asking is how did it make you feel that your T showed you the pictures, not so much what you thought about the photos.. Honestly, I think it is great that your T is willing to explore sexuality with you...as I read your post I was thinking it would be cool if one day I get to a point where I can have such a discussion with my T. As far as your T having an agenda, I would straight up ask her! ( I'm thinking there is no agenda...just your T encouraging you ) Have a great day!!
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Jun 23, 2013, 10:25 AM
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I guess it felt nice to be so open with somebody and safe to tell t exactly what I felt about them. I think t was more excited about them than I was and I think she wants to talk about sexuality more than me. I think sometimes it feels like we are just two friends talking about different therapies, exercises and sexuality but in a way it helps me be more comfortable, and t has said more than once that we are two adults having an equal conversation between us. Hey, I hope someday you can talk to your t openly about sexuality, most ts are very open to these discussions. I hope you can try bring it up when you are ready
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#24
Jun 23, 2013, 12:40 PM
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holy cr a p!
if my T brought in explicit photos, i would probably never come back!
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| CantExplain, Mapleton, southpole, wotchermuggle
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#25
Jun 23, 2013, 01:43 PM
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Wow. I think I'd find the photos to be going too far, personally, but sometimes I wish my T would bring these things up and make it seem more comfortable and 'okay' to talk about.. because I sure as heck am not able to start such a conversation. On the occasions I've tried to venture into that territory, T hasn't seemed to take the hint - or maybe hasn't wanted to - and I've just been left assuming that it's NOT okay and that I need to shut up!
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