[mylifeart]

I just thought if something and I am starting to feel like I cannot bond with therapist or anyone anymore.
what happens when you have had so many intense reltionships therapy and personally and both that your feelings just totally quit, and you cannot bond correctly with anyone.
the last relationship with my first therapist since it was like a child/mother bond.. and I seen her for 2 years could this have possibly re raised by mind, and how I interact with people??
I feel so different after what happended with her the feelings are starting to calm down and I am not having such intense feeling for her anymore (thank goodness) but followed with depression and not really able to bon with anyone I have relized this today after talking with an old friend today, I wanted to rush off the phone with her.. I kinda felt anti-social in way not saying much cuz I had nothing to say.. and felt like I really didn't want to be talking to her.. this is how I feel in therapy..
I wonder if this has to do with all of my reltionships in the past.. and my first therapist making me feel like she didn't want me anymore? maybe I don't want to interact with anyone because I have been let down so many times I feel like its going to happen again...
I am starting to figure things out just from posting on this site about myself.
ha.. I could be my own therapist. maybe I should start counseling myself too

Question is can a therapist re-train your brain.. since they can bring your inner child out.. and how they call it re-parenting.. could this have happened since it ended badly. and she did not give me effective treatment.

My T talks about repairing neural pathways and constructing new ones through the process of therapy. So yes, his therapy is that you can retrain your mind, but he does not engage in re-parenting.

[wotchermuggle]

Originally Posted by My kids are cool

My T talks about repairing neural pathways and constructing new ones through the process of therapy. So yes, his therapy is that you can retrain your mind, but he does not engage in re-parenting.

My T and Pdoc (who differ in their therapeutic approaches in a BIG way) both have told me the same thing.

Yes, but a bit more specific. Something like Bipolar disorder is a brain chemistry issue, needs medication.

Something like a trauma related disorder such as PTSD, DID, etc can be altered through therapy.

Check this out! Great blog on it!

Can Complex PTSD Be Cured? | Dr. Kathleen Young: Treating Trauma in Tucson

[Jungatheart]

Ha! Yes, you sound like you are doing a wonderful job at counseling yourself! Much better than the one you used to pay .
I so relate. Patience as you work through this, and being gentle with whatever you are feeling, and being aware....for me, that is the recipe I am going with. You've been through trauma with you old T, so it's only natural that you are not sure of the "safeness" of things.

It's not just about the mind, the heart as well. Yes, change can and does happen. It already sounds like you are changing, therapist bond or not.

Hugs

[mylifeart]

yeah I am and thankyou.
what I WAS doing with her was idk the name of the therapy, it was dbt, and some kind of style of re parenting that's all I remember was said when she told me about it, it was a while ago...
I was just wondering because everything I am now is because the way I was raised and the enviorment.. if somehow she turned me into this "child" and tried to re-parent me and supposivly raise me again, idk how to describe what they do in that kinda therapy... but, maybe its made me think in yet again another style of being raised by someone who was not successful in whatever her plan was..
its hard to describe it in all the technical stuff... but I think I got it so ya'll will understand it in the way I am trying to put it ??

Whilst we're alive everything is fluid. In continual motion. Therapy and what we learn in therapy can add a new dimension to our previous experiences, hence we change how we think/feel.

[critterlady]

A lot of our neural pathways develop in childhood. It's easier to build new pathways than it is to change or eliminate existing ones. So, while we may always have the negative thoughts that our initial neural pathways spark, we can learn to overcome them with new neural pathways. There's a field of science that studies this kind of brain development - it's called neuroplasticity.

[mylifeart]

thanks
well I think this is what happened to me.. she raised me her way, and her parenting style that was a failure.. and its designed my inner child to devlop new things as an adult... that's why I think my interactions are so messed up now..
before I seen her I had friends with me all of the time, I could go in somewhere and be so social with anyone... i new how to be happy even when i was not..
i think she has done something to me after how she responded to my trauma because my inner child was in play.. that she re raised the way i am as a person now.

[Miswimmy1]

I think you can use behavior modification techniques to lay new neural pathways. So yes they can sort of retrain the brain... however, they can not change the feelings or memories associated with the issue...

[wotchermuggle]

Originally Posted by Tollhouse

Yes, but a bit more specific. Something like Bipolar disorder is a brain chemistry issue, needs medication.

Something like a trauma related disorder such as PTSD, DID, etc can be altered through therapy.

Check this out! Great blog on it!

Can Complex PTSD Be Cured? | Dr. Kathleen Young: Treating Trauma in Tucson

I have to disagree with you. I'm diagnosed with bipolar 2 and my Pdoc says that even with bipolar people's brains can change and they can get off medication.

[WikidPissah]

I want to add to the above... I have dx's that standard say need medication, but have been unmedicated for over a year and doing quite well (better than I was on medication).

So, even those dx's can retrain their minds.