[Mapleton]

Have you ever said anything in therapy, you honestly and personally regretted later?

I'm not talking about things that you felt like your T handled badly, and thus you were hurt.

I'm talking about just an honest moment that you, in reflection, think that it was entirely your error in saying it, and that no one else should either.

(Too open, TMI, "breaking" therapy. I'm sure there are plenty more)

[Asiablue]

I can't really think of anything that i've regretted saying as such. But i did via email tell my ex therapist i loved her (platonic) and while i don't think loving someone is ever a bad thing or telling them they are loved is anything bad, i've struggled ever since with the shame of telling her, the shame of being that open with someone, the shame that somehow my love is dirty and tainted and no one would want it and i somehow tainted her by telling her i loved her.

[mandazzle]

There is no right or wrong way to do therapy (unless it is unethical of course). Feelings aren't right or wrong, they just are. There may be times when you feel like what you have shared is wrong and there may be guilt attached, but that doesn't mean it IS wrong.

[stopdog]

I do not think there is anything that universally should not be spoken at a therapy appointment. I do not think it is wise to tell the therapist anything more than a client is willing to risk being used against them.

[rainbow8]

Once I emailed my T a list of personal things she had told me about herself. It's not so much that I knew them, but it's the way I put them all into one list (she probably told me them in the course of a year) and "threw it all in her face". I was wrong to do that because I think I hurt her, and it was intrusive.

I emailed T1 too, telling her I loved her and next session she asked what it was I loved about her.
I said her big beautiful eyes and her soft silky hair, well she terminated me next day

[Asiablue]

Originally Posted by monalisasmile

I emailed T1 too, telling her I loved her and next session she asked what it was I loved about her.
I said her big beautiful eyes and her soft silky hair, well she terminated me next day

wow... well done ex-T, excellent (over)reaction.

Originally Posted by Asiablue

wow... well done ex-T, excellent (over)reaction.

This is why I want to punch her in the face lol!

[rainbow8]

Originally Posted by monalisasmile

I emailed T1 too, telling her I loved her and next session she asked what it was I loved about her.
I said her big beautiful eyes and her soft silky hair, well she terminated me next day

I think that's so terribly unprofessional of your T to react that way, mona.
YOU weren't wrong to let her know your feelings. It was HER problem!

Once I told my T that I loved her eyes and smile as much as Niagara Falls. I was embarrassed but she smiled and didn't terminate me
.

[content30]

I know other people might not think this is bad, but I once told T that something was "easy for her to say" and that she "had no idea what it was like" and "couldn't understand." I said it with quite an attitude, and she let me have my rant. However, I felt like it was a cheap shot. Of course, no T can ever have experienced everything their clients have experienced, and that would not make them more effective Ts. Geez, if every T had every problem, how could they function? I apologized the next session. I felt bad about it for a week. She said that it was fine and that she was glad that I felt comfortable enough to express my true feelings. I told her that, even so, I was sorry and that I didn't think her lack of personal experience in that area meant that she could not effectively counsel me.

[HealingTimes]

I think the worst that i have ever said was "You are s**t at your job and have no idea how to relate to people".
I would guess that i SHOULDN'T have said it, but i did.

[Asiablue]

yeah i told my ex-T she was in the wrong job. that was out of sheer anger and frustration.

[winter4me]

I wish I had done that in therapy sometimes-----so I could work on it since I periodically do it in Real life but the ts never really "saw" that and, even when I tried to describe (rare due to shame) they thought I blew things up and it wasn't so bad....or could be interpreted differently. (not by the poor recipients----funny, now my son, when I told him how violent his grandfather (who many people would describe, I kid you not and it is not surprising, as "a Buddha ") could become, he said (we were talking about my occasional loss of control when he was growing up) "Well, that makes sense now, you haven't gotten mad in a very long time, and I know no one would have believed you could act like that if they hadn't seen it. Hmmm."
(& my son is one who has referred to my late dad as ""the Buddha".
But I just never blew up in therapy, even when I think I "should" have---wish I had so they could understand...

[anilam]

There are times I regret telling him my name.

[Hope-Full]

My T frequently reminds me that nothing is TMI or off topic in therapy. I can say anything and ask anything - though T might not always answer!

I told him was a f**king idiot in one of my manias, he tried to cover it up but I think I hit a nerve. The most embarrassing thing I said as a joke was about a lapdance.

[tinyrabbit]

Well, this week I have told my T that I see him as a potential rapist, that I don't have a crush on him, and that I had an unwanted fantasy in which he went to see his supervisor and said it was my fault I'd been abused. That's all fairly TMI...