[GenCat]

There can never be enough good things said about many Ts.
That feeling you get when your T is proud of you, has helped you overcome something you thought was impossible, and has walked with you through some pretty tough stuff.

My T is so nice to me, maybe too nice, but I really feel like she cares for me. She has shared a lot about her with me, to help me see that others go through the same things and that I'm not alone. I've only been seeing my T for alittle over a month and I NEVER want to stop going for sessions!

What do/did you really like or appreciate about your T or past T?
Only positive comments please

He understands me really well. He picks up on things I don't say - sometimes he phrases things I didn't know I was thinking. He never tells me what I'm thinking, though, like a couple of other people in my life tend to do. He gives the impression of being genuinely interested in what I think and how I tick.

He has a really nice, understated sense of humour. I like it when I can make him laugh - it doesn't happen that often, but it has happened.

He accepts everything I say. Not in the sense that he agrees with me all the time (or even most of the time) but he never reacts with disbelief or disgust. Something that has been really important to me is the way he accepts that what I say is true at that point but not everything is necessarily true all the time... I mean that, for instance, if I were to say "I hate my brother", T would accept that I do indeed hate my brother at that moment, but that doesn't mean I hate him all the time. (I don't have a brother so it's a safe hypothetical example )

He gives me time, and space, to talk. He's never impatient with me when the words won't come. I think he's the only person I've ever encountered where I've felt that.

And he has a lovely smile.

(Hmmm. I wrote a song about the things we like about our Ts last summer.... I wonder if I could find that thread )

I could go on for a LONG time. He's a really good T. Not perfect, he has his flaws to be sure, but that also means he is human which is a good thing as well.

[WikidPissah]

I don't have a t right now, but here are some things I've liked about past Ts...
-being treated as an equal
-a good sense of humor
-quick response when I was in need
-someone knowing me and not thinking I'm gross.

[stopdog]

The woman does stay back, does not enter my real life, and does not try to touch me after we got the odd handshaking thing out of the way at the beginning.

My t is perfect for me (but not a perfect person- and part of what i like about her is her flaws). The only thing wrong is that she is on the wrong side of the world. She is fun-- we make each other laugh. She has the biggest heart of anyone i have ever met. Most of the time, she knows exactly what to say. We are equals. We get along well.she gives the best hugs (when we are in the same hemisphere!!) She has an extremely chaotic life but makes time for me.

[WikidPissah]

oh..I forgot, I liked that my T's always acted like they cared.

[murray]

My T seems to truly care. He has at times had a (seemingly) spontaneous reaction of anger at people who have hurt me and it was nice to have someone respond in that way.

He has a good sense of humor and we occasionally laugh together.

No matter how much I expect him to react with disgust towards me, he always treats me as if I am a decent human being.

[granite1]

she has not kicked me to the curb yet

[Asiablue]

I like that she's quite open and honest with me, i like that we can laugh together, i like that she's just the right amount of "tough" on me.

[tinyrabbit]

My T makes me feel accepted in a way I haven't experienced before. He has made it clear that he cares about me, and he patiently works through rupture after rupture - all caused by transference, I'm finding.

Whenever I freak out and say I feel like quitting, he helps me figure it out (transference, always!) and when I thanked him for not just getting rid of me when he's had the chance, he told me I needed to matter more to myself.

I like the way he either answers questions about himself or explains why he's not answering. He never just dodges them.

He has this really kind, gentle way of speaking, but he's also really funny.

Originally Posted by Mastodon

I wrote a song about the things we like about our Ts last summer.... I wonder if I could find that thread

I would love to read that thread!

Originally Posted by tinyrabbit

I would love to read that thread!

http://forums.psychcentral.com/psych...ut-your-t.html

It's a good topic and I'm glad it's coming up again - there's quite a bit of negativity about Ts posted here, and sometimes people need to vent so it's not a bad thing as such, but the combined effect is a bit overwhelming sometimes. So it's nice with the occasional reminder of what we like about our Ts.

[tinyrabbit]

I just found the song - that's awesome!

[Raging Quiet]

I like that she takes care of herself and wears makeup and looks healthy.

I love the fact that he isn't disgusted by me no matter I've told him, and he assures me that the blackness I see inside my soul isn't mine. I have hope that someday I can be clean and whole emotionally.

[feralkittymom]

I appreciated his authenticity, his attunement, his stability, his humor, his positive caring regard for me, and his integrity.

And I'm very happy to have him in my life. Aside from therapy, knowing him has enriched my life.

[confused and dazed]

I like T's wonky sense of humor, caring personality and T's ability to put up with my bull sh**.

Ooh ooh I wanna play.

Things I Like About My Therapist, In No Particular Order:
1. the sound of her voice when I'm having a rough time
2. the feeling of her sitting right next to me
3. she wears pretty clothes
4. the smell of the lotion she uses, and how she wasn't freaked out when I told her I love how she smells, in fact she told me the brand of lotion she uses so I could get some myself
5. she is (sometimes) freakishly attuned to me
6. she doesn't like rules; she safely picks and chooses which ones are important
7. she manages the boundary of the relationship safely when I want more
8. she's not upset that i tell her repeatedly that I wish she was my mom
9. she's solid and unchanging when I'm like a pinball bouncing all over the place
10. she has a very dry sense of humor
11. she hugs me and says she always will
12. she smiles when she greets me
13. she accepts everything I bring to the table without apparent judgement
14. she has no problem constantly reassuring me that she's not leaving or firing me
15. she points out good things even when I can't see them or don't believe her
16. she doesn't expect me to trust her
17. she puts the hammer down when it's necessary
18. she's made herself accessible to me between sessions despite my protests, and I'm starting to realize how much it helps

I could go on and on. I do find myself absolutely furious at her sometimes but she is teaching me so much and I've felt for a long time that she was brought to my life for a reason.

[GenCat]

Originally Posted by PumpkinEater

Ooh ooh I wanna play.

Things I Like About My Therapist, In No Particular Order:
1. the sound of her voice when I'm having a rough time
2. the feeling of her sitting right next to me
3. she wears pretty clothes
4. the smell of the lotion she uses, and how she wasn't freaked out when I told her I love how she smells, in fact she told me the brand of lotion she uses so I could get some myself
5. she is (sometimes) freakishly attuned to me
6. she doesn't like rules; she safely picks and chooses which ones are important
7. she manages the boundary of the relationship safely when I want more
8. she's not upset that i tell her repeatedly that I wish she was my mom
9. she's solid and unchanging when I'm like a pinball bouncing all over the place
10. she has a very dry sense of humor
11. she hugs me and says she always will
12. she smiles when she greets me
13. she accepts everything I bring to the table without apparent judgement
14. she has no problem constantly reassuring me that she's not leaving or firing me
15. she points out good things even when I can't see them or don't believe her
16. she doesn't expect me to trust her
17. she puts the hammer down when it's necessary
18. she's made herself accessible to me between sessions despite my protests, and I'm starting to realize how much it helps

I could go on and on. I do find myself absolutely furious at her sometimes but she is teaching me so much and I've felt for a long time that she was brought to my life for a reason.

Number 4 made me smile

[~EnlightenMe~]

He is brilliant.
He "gets" me.
He listens to me and respects my opinion of what I need to get better.
He is kind and compassionate.
He has a good sense of humor.
He cares.
He is helping me be who I am instead of trying to fix me.

[stopdog]

Looking at the old thread reminds me I still am not displeased the woman does not seem to have any stuffed animals or toys at all at the office.

[pbutton]

Originally Posted by stopdog

Looking at the old thread reminds me I still am not displeased the woman does not seem to have any stuffed animals or toys at all at the office.

Hmm. I have days I'd rather talk to the toys than the T. Much easier to have a conversation with a 2" plastic gorilla.

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by pbutton

Hmm. I have days I'd rather talk to the toys than the T. Much easier to have a conversation with a 2" plastic gorilla.

And here I was congratulating myself on the extremely long list (to the point of being excessive) of positive things I managed to come up with here to say about the woman I see.
I don't see myself conversing with toys. I use the pets for that, but not at the therapist's office and most assuredly not with her pet.
He is probably her spy. Wagging and friendly-like, the dog induces clients into unwise revelations.

[rainbow8]

There are so many things I like about my T.

1. I like her smile.
2. I like her cheerfulness.
3. I like her honesty.
4. I like her flexibility in methods.
5. I like her openness to whatever I bring in.
6. I like that she has reassured me over and over
that nothing is TMI.
7. I like that she told me she likes me.
8. I like that she put the collage I made, up on her wall.
9. I like that she keeps the bear I gave her, in her office.
10. I like that she eats what I bake for her.
11. I like that she got special candy just for me.
12. I like that she is casual and informal, not up on a
pedestal.
13. I like that she used to hold my hand, even though
she stopped.
14. I like that she compliments me.
15. I like that she let me sing in session once.
16. I like the way she can get me to relax.
17. I like that she remembers most of my family's names,
even the difficult ones to pronounce.
18. I like that she is genuine.
19. I like that she cares about me very much.
20. I like that she has art supplies in the office.

[content30]

There are so many things I like about my T. Mostly, I appreciate her genuineness, professionalism, intelligence, empathy, and that she pushes me. She is very kind, but she's not scared of holding me accountable and saying things that may be uncomfortable but necessary. I look up to her, in a way, and I can't say that about many people in my life. I was never one to fawn over celebrities or others, but I do have great respect for and look up to my T.

[FeelTheBurn]

Ahh, one of my favorite topics!

Her attunement to me is so strong I often find my body vibrating with it.
She projects a sense of loving acceptance that feels like sitting in a warm hug.
Her voice is sweet and gentle.
Her boundaries are rock solid and unwavering. This gives me such a feeling of safety.
She always allows me the room to organize and characterize my inner world as I see it; she's not attached to any one model or way of thinking.
She leaves her ego at the door.
She owns up to her mistakes.
She has a beautiful smile and uses it often.
She is whip-smart, broadly educated, and very quick.
She laughs at my jokes.
She's a wee bit vain but has the grace to try to hide it.
She has demonstrated over and over that she is worthy of my complete trust.
She's very nice to look at, and smells great.

And she helped me save my life. What's not to love?