[dazzn]

Is that actually deemed an illness or an unhealthy behaviour? Where is this in the DSM V?

[yellowfrog268]

What do you mean "baulk"? I understand what the word means but I'm trying to picture that in the context of a therapy session.

[Yoda]

Is alcohol consumption part of your routine when going to bars and night clubs?

[nessaea]

This is a question we cannot answer well without a lot more context.

Since this is your first post here, we don't know anything about you, and thus can't really speculate as to why your therapist would disapprove of going to bars, (I assume by "balk" you mean that they seem to not approve of it) but there are many possible reasons. As just one example, if I were a therapist and I had a client who had issues with alcohol dependency, I would probably be worried if they were going out to bars every night.

So, feel free to give us some more information, and maybe we can answer better. Or, what I think would be the best option, is to discuss it with your therapist, and ask why they have that reaction.

[Raging Quiet]

I don't know what context you've spoken about going out in, but I know my T would have a similar reaction and label it a reckless sort of behaviour.

But that's not necessarily what your T is suggesting in regards to you.

[MASIMO]

He is always telling me to be good...which means dont drink too much, don't practice risky behavior of all sorts. It feels very paternal when he does this, but I know he truly care about me getting hurt. As long as I'm safe, with friends, have a DD, and drink with moderation....he's all for me going out and having fun. But, I dont always find myself in a safe world. And I know he right!!!

[critterlady]

Have you talked about risky behaviors you engage in while out at clubs/bars? Perhaps your psychologist is concerned for your safety.

You're not going to find "going to bars" in the DSM, of course. But if you tend to drink to excess every time, or drink and drive, or take risky chances with strangers, it might indicate a deeper issue.

[sunrise]

Perhaps he is worried about your safety. Do you ever meet someone at a bar and go home with them? Ever seen the movie "Looking for Mr. Goodbar"? That is what comes to mind when you say your T is balking at your behavior. I think it would be good to ask him. Perhaps he has some very sound reasons, such as safety, drinking to excess, etc.

[Victoria'smom]

My T doesn't care for me drinking because it's a sign that I'm manic.

[ECHOES]

Are you asking your psychologist this question?

[Perna]

Hi, dazzn, welcome to PsychCentral (PC). I think it is an unhealthy behaviour if it is your only way of meeting people and takes up too much of your time. Nothing very positive can happen in night clubs/bars?

[yellowfrog268]

Originally Posted by MASIMO

He is always telling me to be good...which means dont drink too much, don't practice risky behavior of all sorts. It feels very paternal when he does this, but I know he truly care about me getting hurt. As long as I'm safe, with friends, have a DD, and drink with moderation....he's all for me going out and having fun. But, I dont always find myself in a safe world. And I know he right!!!

Ah, OK, now I've got a clearer picture. Sounds like concern from the T, not necessarily disagreement on going out.

BTW, have you ever discussed with your T your perception of him sounding paternalistic?