I do. Especially lately because t is doing some really tough work and I am not sure if I am strong enough.
T makes herself available but I don't contact her anymore outside of session. I am trying not to rely on her, also since we started this tough work she has decided to space out my sessions to every three weeks and I am coping but I feel lots of anxiety and want to just run away from her now while I feel not as connected.

[Sabra]

Originally Posted by monalisasmile

I do. Especially lately because t is doing some really tough work and I am not sure if I am strong enough.
T makes herself available but I don't contact her anymore outside of session. I am trying not to rely on her, also since we started this tough work she has decided to space out my sessions to every three weeks and I am coping but I feel lots of anxiety and want to just run away from her now while I feel not as connected.

Good morning,

Why did she move you to every 3 weeks? If I remember correctly, you haven't seen her for very long. IMHO, the timeframe is too long if you have started trauma work. Is the schedule going to change in the fall or is this the way she does it. I couldn't have gone 3 weeks when I was working with tough issues.

Regards,

Sabra

[photostotake]

All of the time. We are working on some really difficult things now and have been for the past 9 months, so my anxiety and depression are sky high. I can't contact either of my ts outside of sessions, so that makes it quite hard to sit with all of this from session to session. And it isn't running away so much, as it is wanting to disappear.

Hugs to you. I hope you can get your connection back with your t.

[wotchermuggle]

I don't understand the rationale for the longer space between session. My t has encouraged more sessions and more out of session contact during difficult hot trauma work.

Is it because of the sessions she's giving you less sessions or another reason?

I think it is because she has mentioned ethics, she said she doesn't feel right taking my money every week for so long and I have assured her I don't have a problem with it. I really need her but I don't want to need her so I am conflicted and of all the lousy times to do it when we are doing hard trauma work. I think sometimes she is trying to make me loose my mind

[Asiablue]

If she is doing trauma work, there is no way she should be seeing you only every three weeks! During trauma work you need your therapist more not less. How you're feeling is completely natural.

[Freewilled]

Sometimes I imagine myself running out the door during my session but then I think, well where would I go? I think it's more of wanting to run away from myself which is impossible /:

[kaliope]

im sorry that you are struggling like this. I often want to run away from the world. it becomes too much for me to cope with and I just need a break. im feeling that right now. im starting school soon and I don't know what I am going to do with the added pressure that is going to do with my time.

[ready2makenice]

So sorry you're struggling.
If you're doing trauma work I would think that you would be going more. Right now I'm doing a lot of hard work and I'm seeing T twice instead of once a week for the time being. I can't afford two sessions a week (private practice) so she lets me come one day free. I think it's necessary for you to see your T more. I hope you can work something out with her.
I constantly want to runaway,from my T,my friend&family,from life but mostly from myself but I let my T know and we try to work through it.
We are all here for you

Originally Posted by monalisasmile

I do. Especially lately because t is doing some really tough work and I am not sure if I am strong enough.
T makes herself available but I don't contact her anymore outside of session. I am trying not to rely on her, also since we started this tough work she has decided to space out my sessions to every three weeks and I am coping but I feel lots of anxiety and want to just run away from her now while I feel not as connected.

She may be giving you time to "decompress" between session as they get harder. Reach out to her, no need to be a super hero. If the "decompression" time is turning into "obsessive thoughts about it", tell her. I needed more appointments during those times, not less.

[Perna]

My first job out of college I wanted to run away; I had to drive from my parents' house on the freeway and I use to imagine continuing to drive instead of getting off at my exit

[Sabra]

Originally Posted by monalisasmile

I think it is because she has mentioned ethics, she said she doesn't feel right taking my money every week for so long and I have assured her I don't have a problem with it. I really need her but I don't want to need her so I am conflicted and of all the lousy times to do it when we are doing hard trauma work. I think sometimes she is trying to make me loose my mind

I don't understand her logic concerning the ethics of 3 weeks between sessions. In fact, it seems odd to me. Working through trauma typically requires more time, not less. I would ask her specifically what her thinking is about the length of time between seeing her.

Regards,

Sabra

[tinyrabbit]

Another person who doesn't get the rationale between spacing it out more...

Have you asked for more frequent sessions? (A concept that I honestly don't get as my T's have always had me set my own appointments however I felt necessary.)

Originally Posted by Sabra

Good morning,

Why did she move you to every 3 weeks? If I remember correctly, you haven't seen her for very long. IMHO, the timeframe is too long if you have started trauma work. Is the schedule going to change in the fall or is this the way she does it. I couldn't have gone 3 weeks when I was working with tough issues.

Regards,

Sabra

She said that she likes to give her clients a break every now and again. I have been seeing her for a year now, every week and she never mentioned a break before but maybe she thinks I genuinely need one.

Originally Posted by photostotake

All of the time. We are working on some really difficult things now and have been for the past 9 months, so my anxiety and depression are sky high. I can't contact either of my ts outside of sessions, so that makes it quite hard to sit with all of this from session to session. And it isn't running away so much, as it is wanting to disappear.

Hugs to you. I hope you can get your connection back with your t.

This must be soooo hard for you

Originally Posted by Asiablue

If she is doing trauma work, there is no way she should be seeing you only every three weeks! During trauma work you need your therapist more not less. How you're feeling is completely natural.

thanks Asia, I am not sure how this trauma therapy is supposed to work, maybe t has a different way of working it.

Originally Posted by ready2makenice

So sorry you're struggling.
If you're doing trauma work I would think that you would be going more. Right now I'm doing a lot of hard work and I'm seeing T twice instead of once a week for the time being. I can't afford two sessions a week (private practice) so she lets me come one day free. I think it's necessary for you to see your T more. I hope you can work something out with her.
I constantly want to runaway,from my T,my friend&family,from life but mostly from myself but I let my T know and we try to work through it.
We are all here for you

Sorry you are struggling with this too Your t sounds most excellent

Originally Posted by LolaCabanna

She may be giving you time to "decompress" between session as they get harder. Reach out to her, no need to be a super hero. If the "decompression" time is turning into "obsessive thoughts about it", tell her. I needed more appointments during those times, not less.

Lola,
great to see you back around posting have missed you. I have obssessive thoughts about t all the time

Originally Posted by Sabra

I don't understand her logic concerning the ethics of 3 weeks between sessions. In fact, it seems odd to me. Working through trauma typically requires more time, not less. I would ask her specifically what her thinking is about the length of time between seeing her.

Regards,

Sabra

I will ask her when I see her. I dont understand it either to be honest. It just confuses me.

Originally Posted by 1914sierra

Have you asked for more frequent sessions? (A concept that I honestly don't get as my T's have always had me set my own appointments however I felt necessary.)

I haven't because I have seen her eveery week for a year now, maybe I should ask. She did say I could ring her anytime but I don't want to do that.

[sittingatwatersedge]

[quote=monalisasmile;3195196] since we started this tough work she has decided to space out my sessions to every three weeks quote]

ouch!!! in my experience, every 3 wks makes the work. go. so. very. slowly.

and it's SO hard to keep continuity.

I'm sorry MLS!!

[1stepatatime]

Hey, Monalisa
Like most of the others who responded to your post, I would be concerned that your T is spacing out your sessions considering the work that you are doing. If it were me I would be concerned because I need continuity while navigating through this therapeutic experience, not to mention the support And I know what you mean by wanting to run! I felt that way last week....uncomfortable where we were going, but it was necessary. So I fought that urge Keep the lines of communication open with your T. Let her know how you are feeling...after all, this is about you

[Victoria'smom]

I have trouble with every 10-14 days. I don't know how you handled weekly then every 3 weeks.

I hope you can discuss the session frequency with your T, mona - I'm sure she suggested this because she thought it would be the best thing for you, but if you feel that it isn't beneficial she needs to know that.

About the original question: I have sometimes wanted to run away from a therapy session but I've never done so. I usually tell my T "I should go now" and he'll reply with some variation of "I don't think so" - he knows (I think he knows, anyway) that it's a kneejerk flight reaction rather than a genuine wish to leave. As for running away from everything, o yes, I want to do that pretty much all the time. I imagine taking the train to the airport and flying to London or Berlin or Melbourne and then just walking off and creating a new existence for myself. When I'm abroad I imagine jumping on some random bus in some random direction and walking and walking until I'm thoroughly lost. (For some reason, my fantasies of running away pretty much always involve running to another country - even though I don't think there is any other country I would really want to live in.) It occurs to me that maybe I should mention this fantasy to my T sometime.