[Butterflying]

I'm continuing to be depressed. I textd T. He gave me an answer that sounded a bit quick telling me to look over Julys responses and some dbt literature he gave me. Several hrs later I textd him saying I can't do anything because depression is too strong. Now I've been lying in bed all day depressed. I'm not mourning--just down. There is no cure. How can I stop this emotional and physical pain?! Maybe I should get a new T but its been around 10 yrs!

[Perna]

No T can make you feel better or work to feel better (go over July's responses and DBT literature). Only you can do that. Lying in bed all day can't do anything for you except encourage the depressed feelings. You have to decide with is worse, the emotional and physical pain or trying things to help them. What else are you doing? If you don't feel like doing anything else, you might as well do something that could help, even if it is hard, uncomfortable, boring, etc.? One form of feeling lousy is not much different from another form of feeling lousy to me so I might as well try some other form of feeling lousy that allegedly might help. I'd go for a walk or something. My neighborhood has a lot of rabbits, I'd see if I could walk and find at least 3 rabbits before coming home

[CantExplain]

It is possible to fight against depression. Quite small things can help. Do something for yourself. Anything.

Recently I was feeling down. I wanted chocolate. My wife offered to get me some. I said, no, this is something I want to do for myself. It will do me good to get out of the house, even for a few minutes. So I went out and bought some chocolate and brought it back and ate it.

A small thing, but enough to break me out of the blues.

[wotchermuggle]

Originally Posted by CantExplain

It is possible to fight against depression. Quite small things can help. Do something for yourself. Anything.

Recently I was feeling down. I wanted chocolate. My wife offered to get me some. I said, no, this is something I want to do for myself. It will do me good to get out of the house, even for a few minutes. So I went out and bought some chocolate and brought it back and ate it.

A small thing, but enough to break me out of the blues.

I eat chocolate everyday....

[mixedup_emotions]

You've gotten some great feedback so far. And I echo what has been said. Sitting in the darkness of depression just helps you sink further into that black hole. My T encourages me to do something - ANYTHING. Your body will tell you that you don't want to or can't do it...no energy...no desire. You have to do it IN SPITE of how you're feeling, which is so incredibly difficult. But that's the way to slowly climb back out of that hole.

[Butterflying]

I ate chocolate. Husband offered to take me to mall--never steps foot in the mall. I just can't. Nothing sounds fun. I textd T again. I think he's ignoring me. I told him to refer me if I'm bothering him.

Nobody is there. Not really. House is s total mess and I can't lift a finger. People don't understand depression. Guess I just suffer now.

[CantExplain]

I understand depression, cos I've been there. But perhaps I have forgotten what it was like at the very bottom of the pit.

Well, sleep if you can and don't get cold.

[boredporcupine]

It's a horrible cycle when you're so depressed you don't feel like doing anything, but doing nothing makes you feel even more depressed. The only way of reversing the cycle is to do something even though you really don't feel like doing anything. Nobody can rescue you or make you do it. You just have to start. You say you can't lift a finger, but apparently your fingers move well enough to write on this forum, so they could do other things as well. Just see if you can do ONE positive thing. Pick up ONE pair of dirty socks, or just brush your teeth. Instead of writing here about how depressed you feel, watch a funny video or do something distracting like playing a game online. Anything, do anything but laying around thinking and talking about how miserable everything is!

[mixedup_emotions]

That's the thing, nothing will sound fun. Nothing will feel appealing. Nothing. But forcing yourself to do it anyway is what will help you get out of it - even if you don't want to and don't believe it.

What is it that you want to hear from your T? What do you think would help you feel better?

I do understand that pit of darkness. I've been there too, and it sux bigtime. It's horrible. Just pure, torturous emptiness, heartache and pain. I'm sad that you're there, and I wish there was an easy way to get out of it.

[herethennow]

Originally Posted by wotchermuggle

I eat chocolate everyday....

I do that too!

Hope you'll find the strength to do something.. that you enjoy. Even if anhedonia kicks in like an uninvited guest, just doing it changes everything. The extent T can help you is a little bit, the rest is up to you.

[ultramar]

I'm sorry you're still in such a bad place. It sounds like you might be going through a period of grieving (but that has sunk you into a depression) for the passing away of your mother a couple of months ago -from what you've said before, the depression seemed to start around this time.

You say there is no 'cure,' but depression can be resolved, with help (DBT, support from your therapist, etc.). You may also need to go through a period of mourning, and processing all of this, to help you climb out of it.

I think I remember you saying before that your therapist prefers to not have contact by text (please correct me if I'm wrong). If this is the case, then I suspect his responses may end up disappointing you/not being what you want at this time from him.

Have you asked him for an extra session? Even though he's busy, as you have said, he may well be able to fit you in given how much you are struggling right now. I think, too, a full, face to face session may well end up helping you more, more fully, deeply, in a lasting way, than texting.

DBT sounds like it may help. Please, though, ask for an extra session, if you think it might be helpful -it sounds like you're really stuck.