[Poppy Princess]

My last session my T and I didn't talk about anything serious. We talked about our favorite movies and music. Have you ever had a session where all you talked about was stuff like movies, music, or whatever your general interests were?

[critterlady]

Yep. I call those "puppies and rainbows" sessions. I need them once in a while, as a break from the hard stuff. It helps my relationship with my T, too. Sometimes, it's just the connection with him that I need.

[1stepatatime]

Originally Posted by critterlady

Yep. I call those "puppies and rainbows" sessions. I need them once in a while, as a break from the hard stuff. It helps my relationship with my T, too. Sometimes, it's just the connection with him that I need.

I guess we have had some sessions that are lighter from other sessions...but my T does not share anything about her life outside her office. Sometimes it is frustrating as hell but it is a boundary put in place so that my process is not influenced by her personal life.

[kaliope]

ive "wasted" quite a few sessions talking about nothing important too...hehe

[Poppy Princess]

She's pretty open about her personal life. She told me about her dad and what their relationship was like. Sometimes I feel like I'm almost her therapist too lol

[Leah123]

My therapist says the process has a natural ebb and flow and it's alright to just chat, for me to just want to feel connected to her, because I tell her sometimes it's just comforting to talk to her. I usually do a lot of hard, heavy, fast work in therapy, and sometimes, I must take a step back and give myself a little respite along this tiresome journey. We've talked a little about shows, art, psychology in general, our hobbies, etc. She is open about her life to a certain point. I know the outline of her relationship history and am glad she'll share. Rather than negatively influencing the therapy, I find she can mentor me a little because of our similarities, and that I feel safer and happier knowing she trusts me enough to share and that we are both two real, feeling people, she's not the completely invulnerable, enlightened person she seems like sometimes, ha.

[stopdog]

That woman has tried to do this sort of thing with me, but it is frustrating to me as I see no point in it. I do not play with her and I am not that interested in chatting with her.

[SkinnySoul]

Originally Posted by Poppy Princess

Have you ever had a session where all you talked about was stuff like movies, music, or whatever your general interests were?

Nope. I suck at small talk anyways.

[tooski]

Yes. I tend to feel that they're wasted sessions, that I'm only doing it to avoid talking about more important stuff, but my T is adamant that they are valuable in building the T-client r/s. I know that's true, but I'm so self-critical that it's hard to just relax and enjoy a "puppies & rainbows" session. (Love that term!)