[WhiteClouds]

Well the weekend is over.. The lovely T has successfully avoided me. And now anytime I call for an appointment he has no availability. I think this is his passive way of terminating me. I will be down for 8 weeks post op. Which is tomorrow.. And he has no time for me or to return a text, anything. C'est la vie. No more counseling for me.

[anilam]

How can you be sure he's ignoring you on purpose?
Try and call his receptionist again and ask what's going on. Please, try and not take it personally. Even if he was ignoring you it'd say stg about him and not you.

[wotchermuggle]

Do you have email contact? I'd just be blunt about it and ask if he's avoiding you because you'd like to know before your surgery if you have a therapist to go back to or not.

Didn't he call you after he got home from having been out of town over the weekend? That doesn't sound like ignoring you. It is not unusual for there to be no available appointments on short notice generally. Might be you are reading more into this than there really is?

If you need to talk to him about your surgery, give him a call and talk to him specifically about your surgery. He apparently doesn't want to text about it, but I suspect he might do a phone call at some point before tomorrow. Leave him a voice mail if possible, and also let his secretary know you need a call just to cover your bases.

[WhiteClouds]

Originally Posted by anilam

How can you be sure he's ignoring you on purpose?
Try and call his receptionist again and ask what's going on. Please, try and not take it personally. Even if he was ignoring you it'd say stg about him and not you.

Yes it is about him. His ego, his eccentric ways. I know far more than I should about my T. I will leave it at that. It is okay. I need a clinician who understand a client having turmoil as they approach a major surgery.

[WhiteClouds]

Originally Posted by wotchermuggle

Do you have email contact? I'd just be blunt about it and ask if he's avoiding you because you'd like to know before your surgery if you have a therapist to go back to or not.

No I don't have his email information. Only a cell number. Not calling him again. I'm starting to feel like I am chasing him. Something he enjoys due to his enjoy. He has stated what he gives his clients they can never get anywhere else. It strokes his ego. Not calling again, not texting again. It is what it is. he don't care. If he call, he call. It would be nice. Do I expect him to? No. His actions are conveying he do not have time for me or my crisis. So very well. I do feel abandoned.

[WhiteClouds]

Originally Posted by 1914sierra

Didn't he call you after he got home from having been out of town over the weekend? That doesn't sound like ignoring you. It is not unusual for there to be no available appointments on short notice generally. Might be you are reading more into this than there really is?

If you need to talk to him about your surgery, give him a call and talk to him specifically about your surgery. He apparently doesn't want to text about it, but I suspect he might do a phone call at some point before tomorrow. Leave him a voice mail if possible, and also let his secretary know you need a call just to cover your bases.

Not usually. He always have an appointment for me. No matter what. It sounded like the receptionist actually had a smirk to it. Oh nooo he actually has NO appointments until next week. That has Never happened since he does not have a full case load. Doubt if I reach out. I have 4 times already. I need to find a new clinician. Simple as that. It hurts ,but okay.

[sunrise]

Originally Posted by WhiteClouds

Well the weekend is over.. The lovely T has successfully avoided me. And now anytime I call for an appointment he has no availability.

Does that mean no availability for a week, for a month? Would they let you make an appointment in his first available slot, even if it is a couple of months away? He can't be booked up for years on end! If they won't let you make an appointment for the future, can you ask them how you get to see him then? If the T doesn't want to see you anymore, he should tell you, not just passively let reception staff refuse to book you an appointment. This would be very avoidant and unhealthy behavior on the T's part. I hope he is not doing that to you. My T has gone through periods when he had a super full roster of clients and during that time, it was at least a month between calling and being able to get an appointment. My solution was when I did have an appointment, at the close of that meeting to book 2 appointments in advance so that I didn't have such a long waiting time.

[sunrise]

Originally Posted by WhiteClouds

Oh nooo he actually has NO appointments until next week.

Just saw this. So make an appointment for next week. Get on his schedule! I do not find it unusual at all that a therapist could not give a patient an appointment the same week they called. Don't shoot yourself in the foot and imagine this to be a personal affront or a veiled attempt at termination. Why not just book an appointment for next week?

[Hopelesspoppy]

Originally Posted by WhiteClouds

No I don't have his email information. Only a cell number. Not calling him again. I'm starting to feel like I am chasing him. Something he enjoys due to his enjoy. He has stated what he gives his clients they can never get anywhere else. It strokes his ego. Not calling again, not texting again. It is what it is. he don't care. If he call, he call. It would be nice. Do I expect him to? No. His actions are conveying he do not have time for me or my crisis. So very well. I do feel abandoned.

Isn't it ironic that whenever any of us don't get around to something (for whatever reason, but I expect in many cases it's simple avoidance) we get chastised and told that if it is important to us we will always find the time? Heard that one a lot....

[wotchermuggle]

Originally Posted by sunrise

Just saw this. So make an appointment for next week. Get on his schedule! I do not find it unusual at all that a therapist could not give a patient an appointment the same week they called. Don't shoot yourself in the foot and imagine this to be a personal affront or a veiled attempt at termination. Why not just book an appointment for next week?

She can't. She's having surgery.

[sunrise]

Originally Posted by wotchermuggle

She can't. She's having surgery.

Good luck with your surgery, WhiteClouds. I hope you can reconnect with your therapist after surgery or find one that is a better fit for what you would like.

[0w6c379]

Originally Posted by WhiteClouds

Yes it is about him. His ego, his eccentric ways. I know far more than I should about my T. I will leave it at that. It is okay. I need a clinician who understand a client having turmoil as they approach a major surgery.

I'm so sorry WhiteClouds, you deserve to have your T's support NOW! Is there any way you can insist on talking to him for just a minute? You need to know if it's HIM that's rejecting you or if your messages have not been relayed. Your call is important. You are important and it doesn't sound right that a T would treat you like this intentionally. IDK. I hope you can get through to him.

I wish you all the best for a successful procedure and a speedy recovery. Please let us know how you are afterward. PC is a good friend to have while recuperating.

[1stepatatime]

Hi,Whiteclouds
I'm sorry that you are feeling bad about not being able to make an appt with your T...it is stressful enough when having major surgery....I would like to wish you the very best and a speedy recovery...thinking of you!!