T told me today in session to bring my weight scale to session next week. I'm kicking myself for not asking further as to why she wants me to bring it?.....what will we be doing with it? (....and pleading/hoping/panicking/obsessing in my mind that she is not going to make me get on it!)

A little background information into why the weight scale has prevalence is because I have ED. (Bulimia nervosa/laxative abuse)

[Victoria'smom]

Breath...breath, s/he can not make you throw it out or prevent you from buying a new one. Brace yourself....


I'm pretty sure s/he will have you step on it. S/he probably wants to help you deal with the horribleness that you feel stepping on the scale and seeing that number. So weigh yourself before you leave so your not shocked.

[IndestructibleGirl]

Oh lord I would hate this too. Fwiw I think it would be incredibly insensitive to get you to get on it? Unless you've done a whole lot of work to reach that point and feel basically ready, even if you're still a bit nervous?

Kneehole, you have a choice to not bring it and just tell her at the session that before you bring you want to explore why? She can't force you.

[sunrise]

If you're uncomfortable bringing it, then don't, and definitely take more time with your T to explore why she needs a scale. She could also provide one in her office if she considers it important to weigh her clients (if that is her purpose).

[unlockingsanity]

You can choose not to take it and tell her that you don't feel comfortable bringing it until you both discuss why it is important for you to have it during a session. If you tell her respectfully, I'm sure it won't be an issue.

Thank you all for your feedback! I'm trying my best to not let my anxiety ridden mind take over this and over analyze it to the point of exhaustion til next week's session...it is hard not to though. To me getting on the scale is an obsessive, yet horrifying and private/personal thing for me. I still can't think of any other reason she would have for wanting me to bring it in next week besides having me get on it in her office. Ughhh..this week is just not a good week and it is only tuesday. My issues in my mind are taking a toll on me physically...my body is aching, more headaches, and just completely exhausted/tired. I'm just over everything. Death is more inviting.

[growlithing]

Wow I would NOT be comfortable doing that. I wouldn't bring it and I would talk to her about it next time so she can explain exactly what she wants you to do.

[HealingTimes]

I have used my Ts scale in a session before. We brought it into the therapy room to try and take away its power, talk about the hold is has/had over me and try to talk through it.
It was so hard, but definitely helpful and I dont regret it.
however, i understand your fear and crippling anxiety about it.

[sunrise]

Originally Posted by kneehole

To me getting on the scale is an obsessive, yet horrifying and private/personal thing for me.

You do get to set your boundaries on what you will and will not share with your T. This is actually an important thing to learn in therapy--how to set boundaries. If it is just too personal and private to bring in the scale, it is OK to set that boundary and tell your T about it. Perhaps she will even be proud you are able to set a boundary. If you become more comfortable and feel less private about this at some point in the future, you can always bring in the scale at a later date. Good luck.