[sweepy62]

What answer would you expect from your t if you were to ask her what she thinks of you as a client. I am going to ask my t next week.

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[A Red Panda]

My T told me that if everyone on his caseload was like me that his job would be easy. Then he apologized the next week after I emailed (for a different reason) and said how that wasn't exactly a compliment to me.

He says that I'm resilient and that he thinks I have a wise mind (mix of logical and emotional) and that I'm creative and extremely self-aware.

Those are things that he has said about me, but I don't know what he thinks of me as a client. I think he finds me a bit confusing and frustrating (he's somewhat said one or the other but I can't remember which?) because I am already sooooo self-aware which is normally what people are lacking, so that's normally where you start out with building up the trust. But I already have that - I just also have an extremely low self-esteem and a brain that doesn't seem to change no matter how much I've tried.

So I already know that I'm a lot different from his regular caseload.

[Freewilled]

I'd expect a therapeutic response and then a question turning it back on me, asking why I'm asking...like, "Freewilled, I think you are very committed to the therapy process and have pushed yourself to great lengths. What I think of you seems to be of high importance. What do you make of that?" LOL I'd have to ask him next week and see how close I came.

I could be way off, but I know that my heart could not believe what my T had to say anyway, so why ask? My T has been trying to work on that with me over the last few weeks and when he gives me feedback, he will ask me how it was to hear it...and when I normally hee-haw around that, he will ask me what's going through my mind. I will say that I am starting to feel *slightly* more trusting of him so hopefully this part of my issues can be overcome.

[Nerak67]

My t has hold me that I am awesome to work with and he looks forward to our sessions. She says he likes that I don't just agree with everything he says. I means a lot to me that he likes me

We've actually had that discussion. He respects the fact that I don't hesitate to seek his help or my pdoc's help as soon as I realize I am slipping. He is proud of how I've taken what we've talked about in session and have implemented it into "real" life.

He also says I am stubborn as heck about certain things (every T I've had says the same thing). Nothing new there.

[healed84]

I think probably he would say something like, I am a hard-worker or determined.

[stopdog]

The woman has told me I am a challenge (sua sponte). I don't believe her as I am mostly garden variety, but it is what she has said.

[sweepy62]

I'm thinking my t will want to know first of all why I'm asking, then I will get the psychobabble stuff but I want to hear want she personally thinks of me.

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[Lexi232]

I asked the T i had last year until i moved, and her exact words were "well... I don't think it really matters what i think of you. it's how you think of you that matters.. So what do you think of you?"
Then after i told her that i didnt' want to know what i thought of myself, that i wanted to know what she thought of me, she said she thought i was mysterious and distraught. then i asked what distraught meant, and she told me it was my homework to go home and look it up and see if i believe if shes right or not.

[skeksi]

He would say he likes me, he cares about me, and he wants things to be better for me. I'm sure he would agree that this journey has been difficult, and that sometimes my defenses make it harder, but the bottom line doesn't change.

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Hm.

maybe hopeless, annoying, or severely fvcked up

[granite1]

I think maybe she would say brave,hopefull.

[A Red Panda]

Originally Posted by sweepy62

I'm thinking my t will want to know first of all why I'm asking, then I will get the psychobabble stuff but I want to hear want she personally thinks of me.

To me, I think what my T thinks of me as a client could be vastly different from what he thinks of me personally. I have no idea what he thinks of me personally, and I don't think he would ever tell me if I asked. I do think he would tell me what he thinks of me as a client if I was to ask.

Which one are you actually wanting to ask your T?

[growlycat]

CBT T would say that i'm resilient but main T may not agree.

CBT T has said that I am extremely anxious and extremely self critical

[ready2makenice]

She has told me that she loves me and sees me as a little sister sometimes but has also told me that I'm her hardest client,wise beyond my years and extremely compassionate. So I never know what I'm going to get....hmmm maybe I'll ask her tomorrow

[BlessedRhiannon]

My T and I have this conversation about once a year, when I start to feel insecure in the relationship and start wondering if I'm really making progress and if T really wants to keep working with me.

I'd rather not say what she's said to me...it's personal. But, her response is always honest and always reassuring.

[Victoria'smom]

T has said I'm very smart, and always leave her thinking but I'm to stubborn for my own good.

Yes I think i would get compliments that are more about my attitude than my traits. Like that I'm hard-working and dedicated, stuff like that. That's what I usually get from people.

[JaneC]

Gosh I would be too afraid to ask in case I don't hear what I would like, in case he thinks not so posotive things about me. Generally people say lovely things about me...I just can't see them nor believe them.......but would feel awful if T did not say nice things.

I need more time before I would ever ask that I think........

My T would not respond. He would ask me why I wanted to know, and would relate the question to how I view the world, but he would never ever say anything about what he thinks about me, or about working with me. I think that's absolutely against his ethical code.

[HealingTimes]

I am not sure.
She has told me that i am the 1 client that has pushed her knowledge and training to it's limits, that she has had to pull everything out of the bag in order to get me to open up and to trust her.

Is it wrong that that makes me proud and happy?

[sweepy62]

Originally Posted by HealingTimes

I am not sure.
She has told me that i am the 1 client that has pushed her knowledge and training to it's limits, that she has had to pull everything out of the bag in order to get me to open up and to trust her.

Is it wrong that that makes me proud and happy?

that would make me happy, i know i am a challenging client because i dont agree with her all the time, i like to know the facts to things i just dont sit there and say yes t or no t, its just me, so she says she enjoys that about me, I guess it makes the session more interesting and more to explore you know.I all f%$ uped lol. I will see because i am going to ask her on wednesday, and that should be interesting.

[velcro003]

i stopped seeing my T, but i imagine she would say that I was difficult. I never really opened up in all the years I saw her, and anxiety was a mainstay in every session. My EMDR-T (who doesn't do EMDR with me because i hated it!) who I might continue to see would probably say something different.That I am where I need to be and things of that sort.

My xT and I sort of have this conversation and he said (in terms of a specific issue) that I am stubborn, sometimes my defenses make me revert to a stubborn FU thinking place of a 12/13 year old...but it was all things I had already said.... In other words it would be to only say things that i have learned about myself... He does say he thinks i am a good mother.

T2 would tell me what she thinks doesnt matter its what I think that matters and then she would question me about how I feel about me

YT is still too new to know for sure

[Solepa]

I have to ask her yet … I don't know if she would tell me but I really need to know. Not knowing makes me make up all these pessimistic assumptions that she doesn't like me at all for various reasons. That she sees me as arrogant, distant, annoying, too serious and well a job that needs to be done a person that needs fixing no more no less. I wish to be wrong