[GeorgiaGirl413]

I am dreading my appointment with my T today. I just am not happy with how my therapy is going with her. I still spend a lot of time comparing her to my old T (who is retired, or she wouldn't be my old T). I have been with new T for over a year now and she and I just can't seem to find a rythym together. We've talked about this before, and she says that she wants to continue to try and work with me, but I just don't feel like I'm getting anywhere. I'm considering someone new, but the trouble is that there aren't many choices where I live. The T I am with now was pretty much selected for me by my old T, and another friend who is a T thinks the one I am with now is my best choice of what's available. There is only one other that she would recommend, and that lady is planning to retire soon as well, so I would be right back where I started from. The new one is trying hard and I am grateful, but I just think that she really doesn't have the skills to help me. I am going to talk to her again today. Tell her what it is that I feel I need from therapy and see if we can make this thing work. I have it all written down so I won't forget what I want to say.

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holy ****. I could have written this post.

I left a great T when I moved and I constantly make comparisons. My new T lets me talk about old T alot though and that does help.

Does your new let you talk freely about your old T?
Have you thought of increasing the frequency of your sessions -- to help the "relationship?"

I can tell you that moving to another T probably won't help, as you will do the same comparing. I kept comparing, no matter what T I went to.

Good luck... it's hard.

[GeorgiaGirl413]

I'm going once a week now. Part of the problem is that my old T had a very small practice and I got lots of attention. My new T has a much larger practice and is much busier, so therefore not the same personal attention. Also, I am already going once a week, or at least I am supposed to be. I could make it easier on myself to see her if I weren't so picky about appointment times. I want late in the afternoon (as does everyone else it seems) so that I don't feel the need to return to work after a session. If I could go Tuesdays at 10 AM it probably wouldn't be near as difficult to get settled in on a regular schedule. I have been afraid to talk about my old T with my new one for fear of hurting her feelings, or making her feel like I don't think she is as good. Guess I need to set that aside and lay all the cards out on the table regarding my feelings. Then maybe we can move on.

[sweepy62]

I understand, I missed my old t dearly, but my new t which i been with for a year now, I see her every 2 weeks, we spent alot of time processing my feelings of grief for my old t, and every once in a while now if she comes back into my memories, which she does, I get to process them, it does not hurt my t feelings, in fact she welcomes it, because it helps with my current therapy. My current t is great we process everything, although I swore my first t ever was the best, I really never processed much. so please process these feelings with your current t before looking for another t if you wish and good luck and keep us posted.

[GeorgiaGirl413]

The visit went better than I thought. Hope we can continue on this track. I really don't want to change T's, but will if I have too.