[Alishia88]

1) Do you feel like your T knows you? (like a friend or something like it)

Would you say he knows a lot about you?

2) Does he remember what you talked about the last session?


Just interested how it´s like for other patients...

[RTerroni]

1. Yes I think so
2. She tries to as best she can

He knows everything relevant to my therapy and treatment. That isn't 100% about me, but I'd guess it is 75-80%ish. I mean, I only go into the details about me that have to do with what I need to work on in therapy. There are plenty of "nothing" details that would be of no relevance really.

He generally remembers what we talk about, but it isn't like each session starts right where we left off. It generally doesn't work that way for me. Each session is usually something new, starting with whatever is on my mind at that moment. He does remember most of the information I tell him. On occasion he may forget a name or which sister is which. That isn't a big deal really. Lots of names to remember that only come up every once in a while. The consistent topics of conversation he remembers quite well.

He does write notes after our sessions about key points we discussed, but not details like names and dates, etc. He takes a quick look at the notes at the start of our session to get his brain on track, then puts them away and we go with whatever topic comes up. He actually rarely pulls me back intentionally to the topic from the last session.

[Nerak67]

My cbt t knows very little of the details of my life. He only knows about my family, friends, job to the extent they specifically relate to my social anxiety. Yet, somehow I do feel very connected to him and as if he understands me.

[tinyrabbit]

I don't think it's my T's job to know me like a friend. He does remember a lot of the clutter of my life, but that clutter isn't really what therapy-knowing is about. I feel he knows the essence of me: my emotional difficulties, my wounds, my pain, my attachment disturbances. He might forget trivia, but he knows where it hurts.

I think he does know a lot. And he remembers what we talked about in the previous session, or other elements thereof e.g. if he said something in a particular way or whatever.

[anilam]

Originally Posted by Alishia88

1) Do you feel like your T knows you? (like a friend or something like it)
Yes, better than my friends- I'm not really open much in RL
Would you say he knows a lot about you?
Yes, after nearly 7 yr not much he doesn't know.

2) Does he remember what you talked about the last session?
Yes, better than I do.

Just interested how it´s like for other patients...

Me too- interesting Qs- care to share your As?

[tealBumblebee]

Originally Posted by Alishia88

1) Do you feel like your T knows you? (like a friend or something like it)

Would you say he knows a lot about you?

2) Does he remember what you talked about the last session?

1) Yes. She of course doesn't know everything, but she knows a lot more about me in the past few months than some of my friends who've known me for years.

2) Yes, and at the end of session she seems to be able to repeat every single thing we just talked about.

[IndestructibleGirl]

Yes, I have to say she remembers basically everything. Maybe a name is lost here or there or whatever, but that's really it.

[purplemystery]

1. My T only knows the part of me that I care to share, which is definitely not the complete picture of me. She also has no idea what certain aspects of my personality are really like, simply because I sort of hide that from her.

2. She remembers pretty much everything, and this often startles me. Even so, I don't give her a chance not to remember something because I never assume she will remember things. I usually give a quick recap of a person or situation so that I will never have to hear her ask to be reminded.

My t has an uncanny memory-- she remembers everything! She knows everything about me, including what i pack in my lunch, my favorite colors, names of my friends, etc etc, along with every secret i have.

[stopdog]

1. I answer her questions as best as I know how when I understand them but other than that I don't know what details about my life I would tell her. I don't think my interactions with her are extremely fact specific.
I don't think the woman particularly knows me.

2. Her memory is like a sieve and I doubt she remembers my name from week to week other than that she appears to write it in her calendar.

[Lexi232]

1) Do you feel like your T knows you? (like a friend or something like it)
Not really. i dont think any knows me, that includes me.

Would you say she knows a lot about you?
Not really (again), because i only see her for maybe about 45 minutes at a time, and we used to meet every week, but then it turned into 2 weeks, and now depending on when she has an open spot next it can be anywhere between 3 weeks to over a month before i see her again. and... I just don't - i can't get - i dont know! I dont know WHY i have this problem, but i have problems talking to people even if it's been a few days, i dont feel any diffrent about them, i just have more difficulty speaking.

2) Does she remember what you talked about the last session?
No... usually i say something in reference to the time before, and i have to re explain why i just brought up that "out of nowhere". My thoughts are like a train, so i can start thinking on one thing, then i do what my sociology teacher used to do, end up on a totally different topic many miles down the conversation road lol. So i do tend to pull things "out of nowhere" sometimes, because usually the thought train stays in my head. But everyones human, if i didn't see someone that long or even a week goes by, i would prolly have trouble remembering all of the details. Especially if i saw as many people as my T does. I would need a much bigger skull to be able to have a brain that could remember just a months worth of everybodies details.

[yoyoism]

1) In a way. I obviously do not act the same way with all my friends, but she knows a lot about me that I do not share with most friends. At the same time, it can be easy and we can laugh about stuff. I think she would say she knows as much as she needs to.

2) Probably what 1914sierra said.

[Freewilled]

1) I don't think he really *knows* me because I struggle to show him and also, I don't even feel like I truly know who I am sometimes...a new me shows up every week or I cycle through various personas /: He DOES seem to be getting better at predicting my responses or pulling together themes from my life - but the inner me he only knows parts of.

2) Im amazed at the amount of detail my T remembers week to week. I admire that and it sometimes leads me to start believing he might care (although I worry he doesn't care for me but cares about the job and my "progress" reflecting well on himself....)

[skeksi]

T couldn't tell you anything about what I eat, or watch on TV, but he knows my actual Self. He knows how I see things and how I feel about things, and what I value and how I react and behave. So he knows anothing about me, and everything..

[unaluna]

My t is starting to remember stuff. It's only taken him 6 or 7 years. But I'm finally getting perspective - ie I can see differences in me now as compared to earlier with him, and that has never really happened before, even tho I've been with at least one other t for a longer time.

[wotchermuggle]

1. I think my T knows me better than I know myself, a lot if the time.

2. Yes. He remembers like 99% of everything. It's sort of freaky!

1) Do you feel like your T knows you? (like a friend or something like it)
She knows me better than anyone else period. We recently ended our work together, and it was very hard saying goodbye to someone who knows me that well. But one of the things she said that last appointment was that I can always call her if I need in the future because "i know your psyche". I'm like yes you most certainly do.

2) Does she remember what you talked about the last session? she remembered all the important stuff even going back months or 2 years. most of the little stuff too. Sometimes missed a little thing here or there but hey, she's human! She even remembered that I hated the word "termination" and preferred "graduation" and so at the end of our last session she told me congratulations you have graduated from therapy!

[haier]

Originally Posted by Alishia88

1) Do you feel like your T knows you? (like a friend or something like it)

Would you say he knows a lot about you?

2) Does he remember what you talked about the last session?


Just interested how it´s like for other patients...

Yes, I feel like my T knows me very well actually. It's scary.

No, doesn't know a whole lot ABOUT me. Just in general a little bit of history. I do believe she really wants me to open up and know more. This is scary for me also.

Yes, she remembers what I talk about. And honestly I don't think she has to read my last session notes to remember, she just does. She's remembered things I've said since I first started.

Frankly all of this is uncomfortable for me and something I'm currently trying to process. The individual attention. Her getting to know me so well is scary for me. I'm not used to this. It's difficult to process this. I'm so used to being just invisible sometimes. Having someone pay so much attention is a bit unsettling inside. Ew.

[growlycat]

Main T knows me better than anyone and he remembers things I have forgotten. He is a rock.

CBT does not delve much into my past nor is he a "details" guy. He has forgotten that my cat died, forgot some lesser stuff too. He means well but he seems a bit ADHD or something, a bit high energy which sometimes equates to "scattered". And yet I'm smitten.

[LadyShadow]

Originally Posted by Alishia88

1) Do you feel like your T knows you? (like a friend or something like it) Would you say he knows a lot about you?

2) Does he remember what you talked about the last session?

Just interested how it´s like for other patients...

1) He does know a lot about me, I have known him for 7 years through all my ups and downs.

2) He remembers as best as he can. I see him every two weeks so its hard to remember all the details. But he does take notes. I can't really blame him if he doesn't remember everything because I don't.

[Victoria'smom]

1) Do you feel like your T knows you? (like a friend or something like it) Would you say she knows a lot about you? I think she knows as much she can, some times I feel it's more book knowledge-esk then personally.

2) Does he remember what you talked about the last session? Yes but I think the mood of the room during our sessions she remembers more. I fully believe she takes good notes and reviews them before the client steps in the room.

[ar2004]

I wasn't sure at first because sometimes my T forgets to ask about my therapy homework. I always do it because I want to get better but if she doesn't ask I usually don't tell. Last session I knew we would be talking about my eating problem but when she didn't bring it up right away I didn't think she remembered. Then she said weren't we going to do testing for ED? Then she looked in my file at her notes and sure enough saw where it was written about doing that. My guess is she had reviewed that before I came in and she just wanted to see if that was still the direction we needed to go based on how I was that day. I'm glad she remembered or at least tries because I have a hard time bringing up certain things.

[Daeva]

Do you feel like your T knows you? (like a friend or something like it)
Well actually my T does know me, much better than any of my friends. I don't open up to my friends or trust my friends like I do her, so she actually knows me better then they do because I can show her all parts of my personality and who I am without the fear of being judged with friends I can't always do that most of the time.

Would you say he knows a lot about you?
My T is a She. But yes she does, sometimes she knows more about me than I do.

2) Does he remember what you talked about the last session?

Yes she does.