[caseygirl]

I have never given either. I wanted to, but held back.

[HealingTimes]

Yes i have. LAst year she got me a bracelet and i gave her an ornament for her office

This year i want to get her a scarf, so am paying close attention to what colours she wears! Yellow, teal and red seem to be her favourites

[GeorgiaGirl413]

I have done both. I would say that if you choose a gift, be sure the value is not too high. Also, you might want to ask you T is they accept gifts. My last one did not. Cards were fine, but no gifts.

[RTerroni]

I never have but I did give my last Therapist a goodbye card at our final meeting.

I am not sure if my current Therapist will stay on after her Internship ends in May so I won't get her anything this year but if she does stay on then I may consider getting her something next Christmas.

[stopdog]

No. I have never had the desire to do such. With christmas, the therapists I see are not christian - so that sort of takes it out of the ball park regardless of my position on giving gifts to professionals.

[RTerroni]

Originally Posted by stopdog

No. I have never had the desire to do such. With christmas, the therapists I see are not christian - so that sort of takes it out of the ball park regardless of my position on giving gifts to professionals.

But if they are Jewish and celebrate Hanukkah than you could always get them something for Hanukkah.

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by RTerroni

But if they are Jewish and celebrate Hanukkah than you could always get them something for Hanukkah.

I don't ask about their religion, they have offered they are not christian. I have no desire to give them anything regardless and no desire to learn their religious or spiritual practices or leanings.

[tinyrabbit]

I want to give my T a Christmas card, but I feel kind of stupid about it. I have this unwanted fantasy that he'll wait until I leave, then tear it up.

I should probably tell him about that, huh.

Originally Posted by tinyrabbit

I want to give my T a Christmas card, but I feel kind of stupid about it. I have this unwanted fantasy that he'll wait until I leave, then tear it up.

I should probably tell him about that, huh.

I don't want to hijack the thread, but tinyrabbit, you have good session material here...

[NWgirl2013]

Yes I did for the holidays, a beautiful gold bookmark with the symbol of life on it as he was Jewish & a reader, with a small thank you card.
Keeping it simple & inexpensive is best. It is never in bad taste to be thoughtful.

I dunno if I would tell that tidbit of info. Maybe. It is something for you to ponder though...

Originally Posted by tinyrabbit

I want to give my T a Christmas card, but I feel kind of stupid about it. I have this unwanted fantasy that he'll wait until I leave, then tear it up.

I should probably tell him about that, huh.

This is exactly how I feel too

Yes, a few years back I gave him a Christmas gift that was symbolic of our relationship. He appreciated it and got the symbolism immediately which was cool. I haven't felt the desire to give him another present since then. It isn't something I've made a habit of. Will the desire hit me again? Who knows?

[healingme4me]

Cannot say that I have, nor do I plan to.

Yes and yes. As well as birthday. My t loves presents. She also gives me presents.

[Wren_]

I gave my first T cards for Christmas and she sent hand painted Christmas cards to her clients
ex-T didn't celebrate Christmas but I've given him things at other times
current T ... no

[tooski]

I like my T a lot, so I enjoy giving him stuff. The last 2 Christmases I've given him a small gift (no card). For his last 2 birthdays I've given him a card, but no gift. I do it because I enjoy it, he seems to and it feels authentic. In both of those two years he bought me a pink cookie for my birthday (after I told him it was - he didn't remember), but that's it as far as reciprocating. It's all very well-boundaried ....

[Hope-Full]

I still don't know if T accepts gifts, but a year in I did give T a thank you note - not at a holiday, but at our one year mark. She was very appreciative! To make it slightly more personal, I used my own photography for the card.

Not sure what T would say about gifts, but I think that a heartfelt, thoughtful note of appreciation is more valuable than a small token gift any day. I mean, if T ever gave me a note, I'd read it and read it and read it and read it....

[tinyrabbit]

Originally Posted by Jersey 2.0

I don't want to hijack the thread, but tinyrabbit, you have good session material here...

Yup, looks that way. My T is good with this stuff. He had to move a session due to a funeral and I told him I fantasised that he deliberately made sure the funeral was on my appointment day so he would disrupt my session. I thought my T would tell me off for being so selfish, but instead he said: "Oh yes, and of course I murdered the person specially."

[MiniButterfly]

I have given very special cards for Christmas with very heartfelt thoughts inside.

[Tangerine87]

last time i gave a gift it didnt go so well. it was a small gift. there was alot of discussions about it. giving a gift is my way of saying thanks. i have trouble showing and receiving or giving affection...but i am comtemplating giving a card. just hoping there isnt too much discussion about it as it makes mme uncomfortable...

[rainboots87]

No, I've only given termination cards/thank you notes and a small, handmade art thing I do. I also gave one of the art things to my last T when she went on maternity leave.

[LadyShadow]

I gave my T a Christmas present and card last year. I don't know why, but I never did before.