[neutrino]

Never mind. Thanks though.

[Nerak67]

I think you need to bring it up because his approach isn't working for you. Maybe he needs to change his approach or explain it better to you. Or maybe you need a different t. Anyway something needs to be adjusted. Good luck.

[Leah123]

I would absolutely discuss it with your therapist, though I understand it will be very difficult for you. A suggestion I've gotten multiple times before that's been helpful, is simply to print out what you wrote and give that to your therapist: get it all out on the table. A good therapist will be accepting, not agressive, and help you through the situation. I would suggest, also, to be prepared for some gentle pushing: it wouldn't surprise me for him to ask why you don't prioritize your well being enough to take 15 minutes to relax and do something nurturing, enjoyable, etc.

Something to keep in mind is that this guy is only there to serve you, to help you feel your best, so if you need help to get there, he will really appreciate it the more honest you can be with him, so he can better partner with you.

I can relate to studying 12-15 hours a day: I also live an extremely busy lifestyle: I work 60 hours per week, I attend college full time, I am a parent, wife, and mange the household. I was resistant to change, but found that building an hour a day for myself into my routine, even though it was difficult, was amazing for my well being and helped me eventually to be a better mother, and in other areas as well.

I think you should tell him. Writing it down and then handing him the piece of paper is a perfect way. Don't be me - waiting until after you've 'graduated' from therapy and then having to call your ex-T for "one last appointment" because I never told her how much she hurt me during one particular session and now it's been haunting me since we terminated. Gah. This is not going to be a pleasant appointment, but I have to do it, I have to confront her, and I know it would have been much easier if I'd done it when it happened. good luck!!!

[Perna]

I guess it boils down to preferences and priorities. You spend 12-15 hours a day studying but think feeling better is supposed to just "happen"? It too takes time and work and you can't find 15 minutes to get started on it? I do not expect your T is expecting you to just do/stop things suddenly, but to at least shift gears and get started on healthy things, not focusing on unhealthy. Worrying is about the future which is wholly unknown and you can control what you want to think about. You are creating the stories (what worrying is) so why not create happier ones? You want good grades so you study to get good grades. You want to be successful in therapy so you try to do what your therapist suggests, see if it works or not. Would you study so long and hard if you had a worry story telling you it wasn't worth your time? Can you be happier and successful in therapy if you have a story telling you you don't see how thinking about it and trying can help? You can just "assume" your T knows what he is talking about; it is a subject he is successful in himself (whereas we have difficulties); give his ideas a try since up to now yours haven't worked so well in this area?

[photostotake]

I agree with the others, write it down and bring it to him. I've done the same with my t and it has worked for me. They don't expect us to change overnight, so try not to put too much pressure on yourself. Try to start today with the homework if you can, it just might help. Baby steps.

[neutrino]

Perna, please know that I don't "think feeling better is supposed to just 'happen'". Please know that I'm trying.