trauma T doesnt know trauma? whats wrong with me?

Oct 25, 2013 at 08:01 PM

last night my T terminated me by a phone call. i have been crying since then and cant function.

T didnt understand i was having a flashback in session. i was having a trauma response and i was really scared. i was little but trying to protect me.

T didnt get it and said i was frightening.
and said i was outside her limits

arent flashbacks and dissociation normal trauma responses?
i cant control it.

**can anyone guess why T didnt want to see me to terminate me? and did it by phone which hurts more.

i dont understand

Freewilled · Oct 25, 2013 at 08:07 PM

My heart breaks for you, stringcheese

it hits close to home because I had a similar experience with my T a couple sessions ago where I had a flashback response and was absolutely terrified that my T would be upset with me. That he would think I'm outside of his expertise.

I wish your T would've at least spoken to you in person. Terminating you over the phone was wrong and I hope she gave you some referrals. Did you get any referrals or direction? You didn't do anything wrong and didn't deserve that. You do deserve to have a new T who is able to help you through this right now

tinyrabbit · Oct 25, 2013 at 08:15 PM

These are absolutely normal for trauma survivors and I'm horrified by your T. You didn't do anything wrong. This sucks and I'm so sorry.

unlockingsanity · Oct 25, 2013 at 08:30 PM

You're right. Those are normal reactions/responses to a trauma history. This is not your fault.

Did your T provide you with a referral? T's aren't supposed to be legally able to drop clients like that.

unaluna · Oct 25, 2013 at 08:45 PM

Well, this isnt the first time you and this t have crossed swords, so to speak. You felt she overstepped her bounds at the beginning, by googling you. So maybe that was a sign she wasnt as accepting or able to handle things. I'm sorry things ended so abruptly. I know it's soon, but I would try not to dwell. Just see it as her personal or even professional limitation, and figure out how to avoid it in the future. A referral from her might not even help - birds of a feather, you know.

Rzay4 · Oct 25, 2013 at 10:06 PM

Terminating over the phone is completely unprofessional. I'm so sorry you're going through.

Yes flashbacks and dissociating are all completely normal for those who have experienced trauma in their lives.

My now Ex T also claimed to be experienced with Trauma but all she did was talk about herself. Definitely not what I needed.

I hope your able to find a great T to help you and one that is professional.

Oct 25, 2013 at 10:53 PM

Yes these are normal and expected responses you are having string cheese

was is abnormal is her behaviour. Totally unproffesssional, pleases don't blame yourself for her poor behaviour. I would count it as a blessing in disguise, even though it hurts .

Oct 26, 2013 at 02:02 AM

She certainly sounds unskilled.
Have trauma flashbacks with the session is the perfect place to have them.
Ask around. Find a skilled T.

Freewilled · Oct 26, 2013 at 07:33 AM

Stringcheese,

I saw from your response on your other post that your T did not give you any referrals. That is wrong and not all Ts are like this...I am sorry this happened to you and want to encourage you to try and find someone else. I know it would be hard to do that in the midst of this, but the right, *ethical* T can make all the difference

take care

anilam · Oct 26, 2013 at 09:26 AM

I'd report her behaviour.
The only time I'd consider this as an appropriate reaction would be if the client physically attacked the T...

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tinyrabbit Grand Wise Rabbit Member Since Feb 2013 Location: England Posts: 4,084 11 3,059 hugs given	Oct 25, 2013 at 08:15 PM #3 These are absolutely normal for trauma survivors and I'm horrified by your T. You didn't do anything wrong. This sucks and I'm so sorry.
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unlockingsanity Grand Member Member Since Apr 2013 Location: Antarctic Posts: 772 11 161 hugs given	Oct 25, 2013 at 08:30 PM #4 You're right. Those are normal reactions/responses to a trauma history. This is not your fault. Did your T provide you with a referral? T's aren't supposed to be legally able to drop clients like that.
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Anonymous58205 Guest Posts: n/a	Oct 25, 2013 at 10:53 PM #7 Yes these are normal and expected responses you are having string cheese was is abnormal is her behaviour. Totally unproffesssional, pleases don't blame yourself for her poor behaviour. I would count it as a blessing in disguise, even though it hurts .
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Anonymous37903 Guest Posts: n/a	Oct 26, 2013 at 02:02 AM #8 She certainly sounds unskilled. Have trauma flashbacks with the session is the perfect place to have them. Ask around. Find a skilled T.
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Freewilled Grand Poohbah Member Since Mar 2013 Location: US Posts: 1,708 11 2,018 hugs given	Oct 26, 2013 at 07:33 AM #9 Stringcheese, I saw from your response on your other post that your T did not give you any referrals. That is wrong and not all Ts are like this...I am sorry this happened to you and want to encourage you to try and find someone else. I know it would be hard to do that in the midst of this, but the right, ethical T can make all the difference take care
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anilam Grand Poohbah Member Since Mar 2011 Location: Middle of Nowhere Posts: 1,806 13 743 hugs given	Oct 26, 2013 at 09:26 AM #10 I'd report her behaviour. The only time I'd consider this as an appropriate reaction would be if the client physically attacked the T...
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