[Tangerine87]

Do you email your therapist your dream? i had a vvery disconcerting dream last night and im not sure if its weird to email...

I don't email my therapist at all. Even if I did, I would probably wait until session to discuss a dream. Sounds more like session material than email material. But I think that depends on what you T normally allows/prefers in emails.

At 2:00 am once, I emailed my T about a dream. I could tell even at 2 am that it was an incredibly important revelation I had during the dream, and I could also tell that I would probably forget it quickly, and/or decide not to share the information. So, I went ahead and emailed it to him. By the time I woke up again, he had emailed back, thanking me for sharing the information and reminding me that it was okay to email things like this and to try not to feel exposed and upset that I had shared. My T knows me really well.

[Perna]

I kept a dream journal of sorts and my T and I discussed my dreams in session a lot. I don't think it would be weird to email a dream if you and T normally email.

[Tangerine87]

I don't know....I wish I could know what it means....I'm not sure if he's the type that thinks that dreams are important...

[Nerak67]

I wouldn't email it if you are going to be hurt if he doesn't engage in a discussion abou it via email before your session. If you truly just want to share it and are ok with him waiting to your session to talk about it then go ahead.

If whether or how he responds is at all a test of how important you are or how much he cares I would write it down and bring it to session. I test my t all the time and it backfires a lot. I am working hard to stop it.

[caseygirl]

I rarely e-mail my T, only to change time slots or a question. For me, I would rather wait for the session.

[unlockingsanity]

If it has been a difficult night of dreams, I might email during the night to give myself some relief.

[Tangerine87]

I guess maybe it doesn't warrant me emailing him my dream. I guess its not that important...I dont know...

[stopdog]

It can be both important and can wait for the appointment. Do you know why you would email the dream to the therapist? There are all sorts of reasons - you want to get it away from you, you want to connect with the therapist right away because you feel bad, you want the therapist to respond with reassurance (this one is tricky I think) and so forth. So I would not see it as important or not important in terms of telling the therapist about the dream but would try to determine why the need/desire to email it rather than wait?

[Tangerine87]

Because I forget/clam up/freeze when I am in the session....I am able to say much more in email than i am in person....

[stopdog]

For me, I email or write letters about certain things, but do not want a response from the therapist. If it is just to give the therapist information that you wish to discuss at the appointment, I would put that in the email or letter along with the actual information I was trying to convey. I am not much into dream stuff, although I find dreams or nightmares with the therapist in them to be extremely unsettling as I do not like the woman coming into my life unbidden.

[Petra5ed]

Originally Posted by Tangerine87

Because I forget/clam up/freeze when I am in the session....I am able to say much more in email than i am in person....

I would write it down and bring it with you to the next session, and discuss that you wanted to email it. I spent months clamming up and freezing. Once you start to let the **** out, it gets more comfortable in my experience. And by ****, I mean the all the things you're afraid to say to the T. For me those big scary things were also about the T, my feelings toward them.

[tinyrabbit]

I have written dreams down so I don't forget them and emailed them, then we've discussed them in the session.