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[RTerroni]

When when I told people that the main reason I wanted to see a female therapist close to my age was to have a female my age in my life, they told me to maybe pursue a "paid companion" so maybe you should look into that as well.

[Syra]

That's a clever idea. I'd say it depends on your issue(s) and the "old lady's" ability to listen, but I could see many times where it would work. Some of therapy is just having someone to listen to us.

[Perna]

My T was older and wiser but she also had a lot of T experience. I saw her for 9 years when she was a relatively new T (less than 10 years practice) and then saw her after she had been practicing for 25 or so years and she was a much better T, regardless of how much she had personally learned and grown in her own life. I think both are important; you can have a great person who's a lousy T and a potentially great T who has a really messed up personal life that gets in the way of your therapy.