[Karrebear]

Well technically I stopped seeing her a couple weeks ago because i felt i had ran out of things to talk about. She said to email her when I was ready to start back up again.

But I was writing about different topics during the summer and i would read it to her. I never did get to finish reading it to her because it was too difficult. I emailed her the read of the writing last night. I felt she deserved to know what happened even though I was never good at talking about it.

I don't know what I am expecting her to say about it or if I am even expecting her to reply. I guess I would like some sort of reply saying at least she received the email and had read it. And technically, she probably doesn't need to reply since I am not an active client of hers.

I know this is going to sound like a dumb question but do you think she will reply with anything? I know no one will know the answer but I am just feeling down and would appreciate some feedback

Has anyone been in similar situations?

[Daeva]

I think she will reply, even though she has no obligation to reply, it seems that she does care for you and will respond in some way to you

[anilam]

I think she will, maybe you could take this opportunity and go back? Seems to me you have tons to talk about. It IS hard but worth it.

[Asiablue]

I think she'll reply briefly and invite you to make an appointment to discuss in further in person.

[Leah123]

If she is a worthwhile therapist and person, she will reply. I imagine, like Asiablue and some others, it will be perhaps an invitation to come in, engage in therapy, and get some support and eventually closure, on the trauma, because that's the best, most appropriate way for her to help you. I'm glad you reached out to her. I do a lot of my work through writing too, I find it so much easier sometimes.

[Karrebear]

Thanks for reading my post and the feedback

She hasn't replied back. I fear she won't. Im hurt..but feel I don't have a right to be

I'm hearing that you sent your former T an email telling her about something that "happened". However, did you ask for her opinion about it? Did you ask her to reply to you in any shape or form? If not, then why would she? You need to raise some kind of question to her if you want a reply. Otherwise, she may think you're using her as a sounding board. IDK. Just ask her what she thinks if you want a reply.

Unfortunately, since she is not your T anymore, she might not respond. While we all wish they were not doing a job, the reality is that they are. You no longer "employ" her.

What were you wanting? Her to ask you to come back?

I hope she responds, but maybe if she does not, call her. She might not be able to because you are no longer working with her.

Good luck.

[Nightlight]

It sounds like you do want to maintain some sort of dialogue with her and that you ran out of topics you were comfortable discussing, rather than having nothing left to discuss. If she doesn't reply, you could always email again and be very specific about what you want, though many therapists won't reply to someone who is not currently a client. However, your therapist acknowledged that you could email when you were ready to talk again, and it sounds like that's what you've done. If you're feeling really upset about a lack of reply, then you'll know that you really were wanting a reply. It might be helpful if you know what sort of reply you were hoping for as well. I'm not sure if I've always been so good at it, but these days I try to be very specific if I send an email (e.g. "I'm not expecting a magic solution for this, but I just want someone to hear me so that I can try not to spiral down like usual." Then I can be happy to be heard but not acknowledged). If you were hoping to discuss what you wrote about, or hoping that your therapist would suggest coming back in for a session, try to ask directly for a session yourself.

[Victoria'smom]

Obviously you have stuff to talk to her about now, you trust her more now. Why not make an appointment again?

[Karrebear]

Originally Posted by Stringcheese

What were you wanting? Her to ask you to come back?

Good luck.

I think that probably was in my intentions. I always felt like I was bothering her, being a nuicence to her. I do feel she deserves to know what happened so the email wasn't completely unnecessary, I probably just had/have wrong expectations.

Now I feel like I bothered her by emailing her what I did. I want to retract the email. In a perfect world she's been out of the office for the past 2 days. ha!

[Karrebear]

It wasn't right for me to expect anything or even emailing her.

Now I feel bad

[Nightlight]

You do have a choice about how you react to the lack of reply. Quite possibly she has been unable to reply, and you could choose to wait. Often in my own therapy, when it's regarding something serious, my therapist waits until she can discuss it with her supervisor (and I'm sure that's something she'd want to do if I emailed something big, but didn't make it clear that I wanted to be her client again). If it's what you really want, you could choose to be really brave and email her and ask for a session because you've realised you do still have things to talk about.

If you're having these thoughts in reaction to her lack of reply, I do think you could continue to be helped by going to therapy. If you don't hear back, it really is okay for you to ask for a session again, like your therapist suggested.

[anilam]

KB if you want to go back why not send another mail/call her and ask for a session?
Please, don't make it into a "test" where her reply (or lack of) proves her caring (or lack of).

[Karrebear]

You guys are right. I appreciate the feedback.

I probably should make an appt. I hope everyone has a good day

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Good luck. You have a starting place to talk now!

[anilam]

Great, hope shell be the help you need