[Daeva]

I don't know if this really needs a trigger warning but better safe then sorry I suppose.

So along with everything in my life going a bit haywire lately, with the new development of hearing voices and what not. I have recently found out that my Mom may have breast cancer through my grandmother, yet my Mother (whom I have a strained relationship with) doesn't want to tell me anything, she lies when I ask her about it, so I have to go through my gram to get info on my Mother. Now my Mother and I have a very strained relationship, I was severely abused as a child by Mother and her many boyfriends, lately I've been trying to mend things but as you can imagine it's been a messy hard road full of bumps.

And I told my T, however my Mom won't really find anything out til dec 24, and the last time I get to see my t is dec 2. She's through my college and we go on break and she's not there and obviously she's not going to be available xmas eve and what not, but I really need someone, what the **** am I suppose to do? I need my T, and she can't be there. Ugh. I literally can't see my T again until Early February.

[rainbow8]

Could you possible email, phone or text your T? Until February is a long time to go without a T, especially when you are going through this tough medical stuff with your Mom. Did you ask her what you can do for support during this time? Can you see someone else temporarily? You can always call a hotline if there is no one else. I would hope that your T would have a plan for you to contact her during this long break, though. Last but not least, you have PC, even on December 24th.

[unaluna]

I would say, be there for your mother if you can, but don't expect her to change because of this illness. If it's serious, there may be some opportunities for making up, but you two are basically the same people you have always been. I helped my mother out, but it didnt bring us any closer - it was still as if I were pouring water into a bucket with a hole in it.

[Daeva]

Originally Posted by rainbow8

Could you possible email, phone or text your T? Until February is a long time to go without a T, especially when you are going through this tough medical stuff with your Mom. Did you ask her what you can do for support during this time? Can you see someone else temporarily? You can always call a hotline if there is no one else. I would hope that your T would have a plan for you to contact her during this long break, though. Last but not least, you have PC, even on December 24th.

I could ask on my last session but I have none of those things currently, but definitely going to ask, I'll keep you updated thank you for the advice!

Originally Posted by hankster

I would say, be there for your mother if you can, but don't expect her to change because of this illness. If it's serious, there may be some opportunities for making up, but you two are basically the same people you have always been. I helped my mother out, but it didnt bring us any closer - it was still as if I were pouring water into a bucket with a hole in it.

I don't expect her to change at all. We've (meaning I've) been in the process of mending things long before this all started with her illness. But I know who she is, a pit of blackness. It sounds awful to say that about your own Mom but that is who she is. I won't lose myself in it. Thank you <3

[scorpiosis37]

Perhaps you could look into getting a T who is in private practice, in addition to your school counselor. School counselors are generally not available outside of session and are not allowed to give you their e-mail, phone, etc. Since your T is frequently not available, you may not make very much progress if you only get a session every few weeks or even every few months. It sounds like you need more support.