[MercilessShadow]

I've been seeing my current therapist for about three months, but we both agree that I need to see a therapist that does CBT/DBT skills to help with social anxiety and borderline personality disorder issues. However, I am very attached to my current T and seeing anybody else is really scary right now. It's hard enough to talk to my current T. I suppose the reason I made this post is to ask if anyone else has had this problem and how they got over their fear/anxiety of it.

[Rzay4]

Yes I just had a closure session with my T yesterday, it went very well. I start with my new T on Saturday.

Good luck.

[Ambra]

Hi, it wasn't exactly the same for me, but I went through the same feelings. I started therapy last summer, that T and I didn't click immediately, she was actually judgmental and hurt my feelings not being on my side (!!!) a few times, even though she's very experienced.. but then things started to get better and I got a bit attached to her. However one day she suddenly referred me on and I was quite upset.

I was scared too at the first session with the new T (who is also very young!), and also a bit let down.. but we clicked sooo well and I thought "I want this one!" after 20 minutes.
Now I'm still with her and we're working on things that I could never have told the previous T, since now I realize how judgmental she was toward me, even though she is much more experienced - and I have to thank the previous T who maybe understood what would be the best fit for me, don't know.

I know you like your current T, but I guess it's going to be very ok. And maybe you can always see your previous T to update her or just in case you want to talk to her?
Wish you the best.

[MercilessShadow]

Thanks for the support One good thing is that they both work in the same practice so being in the same building when I see my new T will be more comforting then going to a strange new building. My current T is more experienced than the new T I will be seeing as well, but she doesn't offer CBT/DBT therapies. My main issue is having to open up again.

[Hope-Full]

Actually, it's coincidental that you posted this - I also am very attached to my T and freaked when T suggested adding in DBT to support the work we're doing, as it is more tools oriented and I needed to gain some tools to help deal with my anxiety and PTSD.

What made it work was that I still have my T, and DBT is a short-term addition to my work. What I learn in DBT, I bring to T and we discuss on more of the emotional level, as I keep things very intellectual in DBT.

[MercilessShadow]

Ended up seeing an email to new T, now I have to wait for a response. I hope we connect... still really nervous about seeing a T other than my current one.