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Nov 25, 2013, 09:08 PM
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I have seen her for 2 1/2 years and now she says she wants to be my friend. Any thoughts?
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Nov 25, 2013, 09:17 PM
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Does she want to continue therapy, or is she suggesting you discontinue therapy and become friends? If she wants you to continue therapy, then you wouldn't also be her friend, that would be unethical on her part. If she wants you to discontinue therapy to be friends that would still be frowned upon, but unless she also wants to start a sexual relationship I believe there's nothing they could do (like a report against her license or anything.) So I would say that is not great either way. Also, if you do become friends she will need to share an awful lot of intimate stuff to even the power out if that hasn't happened already.
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Nov 25, 2013, 09:23 PM
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Pass on that. Once your T, always your T. Friendship would really mess things up, despite how tempting it is, especially after 2.5 years!
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Nov 25, 2013, 09:23 PM
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Continue therapy....not sexual
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Nov 25, 2013, 09:36 PM
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4 words. Messy. Very Very Messy.
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Nov 25, 2013, 09:39 PM
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Therapists are not your friends. They are friendly, but not friends. Are you sure this is what she meant?
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Nov 25, 2013, 09:47 PM
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Yes, she even talked about us going hiking/ camping and such
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Nov 25, 2013, 09:48 PM
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Her exact words "I think I want to be your friend"
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Nov 25, 2013, 09:49 PM
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I would say it is highly unethical to be a friend and do camping/hiking trips as well as continue on with therapy with her. Either the T relationship has to end, or you can't truly be friends. And even if you two were to discontinue as T/client relationship I find it hard that anybody can go to just being friends with their Ts.
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#10
Nov 25, 2013, 09:59 PM
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Thanks all, you just confirmed what I thought...
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Nov 25, 2013, 11:00 PM
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Gee, this is stg a T can lose her licence for around here- no matter it's not sexual. Suggesting dual RS is always bad for the client. I'd terminate her and report her cause she just cost you 2.5 yr of therapy- time,energy and money.
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Nov 25, 2013, 11:23 PM
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Nov 26, 2013, 03:44 AM
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Have to agree: what she says she "wants" is irrelevant because therapy isn't about her needs or wants. I would be tempted to report her after terminating.
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