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Nov 27, 2013, 10:58 AM
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My mentor use to be an LCSW, well still is, but he teaches now, he's my mentor, the man who made me want to become a social worker and therapist. Before I wanted to be a CPS Worker but realized I'd be too emotionally involved. Anyway I talk to him on occasion and we have some normal everyday chats, we'll sit and joke, banter, talk about stuff that interests us, or the field of psychology and he'll teach me things that I can use with clients. Other times we'll talk more personally about my life. And the last conversation I had with him he guided me to realize I need to self-parent.
However I have no idea what this means, what it entails, or how to do so! Anyone know? |
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Nov 28, 2013, 12:43 AM
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It's a popular phrase, but I never grasped the real meaning.
The idea is that you do for yourself what a parent would do for you. But if you've never had good parents, how can you do that?
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Nov 28, 2013, 12:47 AM
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I've heard people talk about it but the thought of it terrifies me at many levels
 can your mentor tell you more about it?
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Nov 28, 2013, 07:28 AM
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I've never talked about or really read about it...
but from hearing it, it sorta sounds like what pretty much everyone does for themselves on some level: - you take care of your own emotional well-being - you ensure that you're safe - you comfort yourself - you ensure you provide yourself with the necessities (and at least some of the wants) for life - you forgive yourself but hold yourself up to an acceptable standard I think that's sorta what it could mean? A parent's job is to take care of you physically, mentally, and emotionally. When we're adults, that job is supposed to be transferred to us. They are also supposed to teach us how to interact with others, the difference between right/wrong, what is and is not acceptable behaviour, etc. I'd think that for many people who did not have sufficient parenting, they either are inefficient themselves at taking care of themselves properly, or they continue looking for someone else to take over that parent-role. Just my guesses and personal interpretation of it!
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Nov 28, 2013, 09:14 AM
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The role of the parent should be to comfort, create a safe space, and basically an overall caregiver, someone who takes care of you but doesn't demand anything from you. I think that's hard to do for yourself because that seems like a lonely road. I think trying to stregthen your emotional network with the people already in your life may provide that kind of caring parent support you desire.
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Nov 28, 2013, 09:21 AM
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Here's an article of interest for this conversation...
http://m.psychologytoday.com/blog/in...arenting-101-0 Sent from my LG-MS910 using Tapatalk 2 |
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