[sweepy62]

If you have read my previous posts you will understand . My friend says: you will get over it your first t left and your still here.

My h said: OMG this is the second time what are you doing that they keep leaving you?

My other friend said: my boyfriend left me I learned to get over him'



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[Raging Quiet]

We understand sweepy - keep writing here xxx

[Elektra_]

what did u want them to tell u?

[granite1]

shure I think you will make it through this . you have to most of us do and yes you did it when your last T did this and your friend boyfriend etc.... thanks for stating the obvious . but I know that it hurts and feels horrible and like you wont ever get over it . and for sure the trust is completely gone for now . but bottom line is they cant fix how you feel by reminding you that you will get over it .and however long that takes is not up to them . they wont make it better by saying this to you . im sorry you don't seem to be able to make the people you care about understand how you aare feeling .keep posting here .you will find a lot who understand

[AllyIsHopeful]

What they don't seem to be getting is it takes a toll on a person after experiencing the same situation so many times. It obviously reinstates trust and abandonment issues. You will survive, yes, but it creates other emotional problems and that's hard.
There does come a point where you reach your limit. I'm sorry the people close to you are not being very sensitive or supportive.


-Hope

[Lauliza]

I think many people, our friends especially, intend to be supportive but just don't understand the depth of emotions involved. Also most people don't know quite how to articulate their support when they are trying to show it. Others are just insensitive. I guess that is why Ts can be helpful. Please keep writing here so you are at least understood a little better.

[rainbow8]

I am so sorry, sweepy. I understand your feeling so bad about your T leaving, after it happened with your other T too. It's okay to post as much as you want. I cry at the thought of my T leaving me forever. It could happen, and I would be miserable. People leaving is hard for everyone, but harder if it has happened repetitively because then it's a trigger--always. It's okay to grieve for your loss, as much as you need to do.

Your friends and your H are very insensitive. I don't think most people understand the therapeutic relationship, and minimize its effect on us. But many of us on this forum DO understand, and will support you.

[AllyIsHopeful]

Originally Posted by rainbow8

I am so sorry, sweepy. I understand your feeling so bad about your T leaving, after it happened with your other T too. It's okay to post as much as you want. I cry at the thought of my T leaving me forever. It could happen, and I would be miserable. People leaving is hard for everyone, but harder if it has happened repetitively because then it's a trigger--always. It's okay to grieve for your loss, as much as you need to do.


Your friends and your H are very insensitive. I don't think most people understand the therapeutic relationship, and minimize its effect on us. But many of us on this forum DO understand, and will support you.

"People leaving is hard for everyone"...
ESPECIALLY when it is your therapist. =\ it my vary from person to person, but if the connection is strong, it's not like losing any other relationship. It's so much harder. They know your deepest secrets and the inner workings of your mind the way no one else does. It's hard to lose that.
I can't imagine it.

-Hope

[sweepy62]

I have not shed a tear in a long time, I had such control over that emotion, I didnt even shed a tear for t1.

This t has taught me so much , and the connection deeper that has allowed me to discuss my csa more than I ever did with t1.

Its not her fault, imgreatful for all she has done. I just have no trust or care left for a new t, im paranoid they will leave too.

My t will be introducing me to 2 different ts in the next couple of weeks with one session each with t2 included, to see which one is a good fit. To me she might as well put a stone in front of me and call it a therapist.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by sweepy62

If you have read my previous posts you will understand . My friend says: you will get over it your first t left and your still here.

My h said: OMG this is the second time what are you doing that they keep leaving you?

My other friend said: my boyfriend left me I learned to get over him'

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I find the "you survived" argument very invalidating. It's like my pain isn't important or doesn't even exist. I expect more from life than mere survival, thank you very much!

Blaming you is even worse.