does anyone feel jealous of therapists other clients?

Mike_J · Dec 09, 2013 at 11:18 AM

My therapist has a "white noise" machine right outside of her office door, and I would never eve's drop, I can hear her laugh in her office sometimes I always feel jealous that I'm not the one making her laugh.

I doubt your therapist wants to get rid of you, if they did your therapist already would have.

stopdog · Dec 09, 2013 at 11:29 AM

Why would a therapist want to get rid of clients? Without clients, they make no living.

bunnylove45 · Dec 09, 2013 at 01:01 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

Why would a therapist want to get rid of clients? Without clients, they make no living.

Exactly!

But sometimes clients want to feel like the special one to their therapist. Well, I'll speak for myself only, I want to feel special to my therapist.

Most likely an unrealistic achievement.

PeeJay · Dec 09, 2013 at 06:01 PM

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Originally Posted by IndestructibleGirl

I'm the opposite. I find it uplifting to think of my T having a good full schedule of other clients - I suspect because that creates a kind of diluting effect, and therefore less pressure. And some of them are bound to be as irritating as I can be

If I fantasized I was the only client I'd panic a bit. That being said, I would not wish to discuss therapy with the ex-lover who recommended my T to me. That would be weird.

I'm in touch with my T a lot via calls and texts and emails. It is really helping me and I think I'm growing emotionally with her nurturing-ness, but I get little stabs of guilt and doubt. A way I can justify this in my own head sometimes is to think 'this must be normal for how she works, I bet all her other clients are doing the same (or at least half of them, anyway) so it doesn't mean I'm abnormally needy to do this'.

I am this way. The other clients take the pressure off. I was my last T's only client and it did not end well for me. I was shocked when my last T confessed that I was the lone client.

To me, it's like wanting to eat at the crowded restaurant. More patrons means that the restaurant is popular for a reason -- the food is good.

Also, the T I have now has a diversity of experiences. Maybe some other client's solution to a problem will be useful to me in some way. I think I benefit from my "therapy siblings." My therapy siblings are the clients whom I will never meet, but I imagine we all love my T.

And hopefully, more than 50 percent of them are more annoying than me.

PeeJay · Dec 09, 2013 at 06:08 PM

As a follow up, I brought a guest to therapy once and paid for an extra long session. This guest was a family member who needs help and lives in another place.

I wanted T to meet this person and recommend a T closer to the person's home, or at the very least, explain what therapy is about.

My T listened to my family member intently and made comments on my family member's life. It was fascinating. I got to observe a session with my T, basically. And I learned that T definitely has a style and a way of trying to make the talker see situations in a different light.

It makes it easier for me to not get too attached to my T. Because I can say to myself, "I know my T is like this with everyone." Or, "my T is complimenting me and there is probably some truth to this compliment, but I also know that this is T's go-to compliment for survivors of abuse."

A little sad for me, maybe, but I like reality better than fantasy.

crazycat000 · Dec 09, 2013 at 06:39 PM

definitely. Another girl in my dbt class had my therapist and a girl I know has my therapist and I am constantly wondering if she likes them more. CONSTANTLY

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stopdog underdog is here Member Since Sep 2011 Location: blank Posts: 35,048 (SuperPoster!) 13 1 hugs given	Dec 09, 2013 at 11:29 AM #22 Why would a therapist want to get rid of clients? Without clients, they make no living. __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.
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crazycat000 Member Member Since Oct 2013 Location: Brooklyn,New York Posts: 55 11 19 hugs given	Dec 09, 2013 at 06:39 PM #26 definitely. Another girl in my dbt class had my therapist and a girl I know has my therapist and I am constantly wondering if she likes them more. CONSTANTLY
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