[JaneC]

I just couldn't believe what I was seeing today....but strangely it was lovely to see and on reflection this evening I feel like somehow this has brought us closer? Thanks goodness because last week was a huge disconnect.

So a little context....

I had to take my almost 7yr old son with me today as no one to look after him and school is finished for the summer break. At one stage my boy needed my attention(he had headphones on watching a film on my laptop) and so I helped him out.
I turned back to find my T with glassy eyes, and he said(yup HE) that he wanted to highlight how wonderful my interaction with my son was. He said that despite the horrible experiences I had growing up I was still capable of having a connected and caring relationship with my boy..... and other things. I asked him if he had tears in his eyes and he said yup, it was just so special to witness, and that he was really touched.

I was lost for words and could only saw....naaaaw!! Then i offered him the tissues! Oops...he said its ok Jane I can cry if I want to.

Wow.....is this a common experience? That a T freely shares this level of emotion with a client? I don't know, but it felt pretty special that he was prepared to be that vulnerable with me. Just wow!

I'm glad you had that experience, Jane.

[Asiablue]

Lovely experience!

[Solepa]

That sounds really lovely... I´m glad to hear that. I believe that breaking the circle of abuse is the biggest achievement one can make. It impacts not only us but also the generation to come. For me the biggest goal is not to hurt my kids like I was hurt.
I found this touching to read about and I find it inspirational for myself.
I understand how your T would get emotional about something like this seeing so many people carrying the burden of previous generation and passing it on to the next one as well. He must feel so proud of you ... like I am.

[unaluna]

That is so neat! My family of origin would just stare at me like i was a zoo animal when i interacted with ny nephew - i have no idea if it was good or bad. And yeah, ive written here that ny t cries a lot, altho not so much lately - hmm, might have to change that! But seriously, i enjoy so much your descriptions of your adventures with your boy - like hes having a friend over and theyre playing pirates - it sounds like such a wonderful space to be in, that you have created and hold for them.

[JaneC]

Hankster, thanks! I didn't realise that I talk about my boy soo much....but funny you should say so. More than one person has told me that I ought to write a book of my boys adventures and snippets of his wisdom! Humour and wisdom, perfect mix. Hmmmm ......

Like, he won an award at his school prizegiving this week, and when i congratulated him later again he said he was the only boy from his class to get one. Then said...."Mummy i think it would be fairer if there had been 2 boys and 2 girls". Hah!

thats so wonderful to hear ours has cried for and with us before and it does-at least for us-bring such a sense or feeling of caring and deepens the level of closeness,like when she gets angry for things that happened to us its like "wow nobody ever got mad for us before" kind of thing

[allme]

Aw how lovely

My xT teared up a few times when I was talking about my family growing up. When I look back on it. It was sweet...but at the time it made me angry because if I'm not upset he shouldnt be either