So I left my t a voice mail I feel I should not have I feel miserable

sweepy62 · Jan 03, 2014 at 01:32 AM

This is in continuation to my previous post today about my t leaving in 5 weeks.

I been crying on a off silently all day, my h is so insensitive , I told him after I left therapy how awful I was feeling that my t was leaving, he said " damn this is the second time, what are you doing that they keep leaving you"

When I got home I was so upset that I called and left her a message I said " why don't you just go ahead set up a session with the new t already and get it over with"

I was impulsive so I'm gonna call tomorrow to apologize.

I don't know how to handle this.

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Mactastic · Jan 03, 2014 at 05:50 AM

My heart is aching for you. To be experiencing this impeding loss over your T and then to have your husband discredit you must be very difficult. Anyone (anyone!) in your situation would feel broken.

I think if your T is any good she will understand. You are not the first client to leave a voicemail they regret, period. It happens. Probably a lot.

I don't think you're out of bounds to ask for a '911' visit with her asap.

You may not feel it, but you ARE strong enough for this. You have already made it this far.

granite1 · Jan 03, 2014 at 06:46 AM

I bet it hurts like heck sweetpea but you will get through this. I know it seems so so overwhelming right now but you will get through it. your T is going to help as much as she can and so will the new T that she picked for you. oh and there is no way you have done anything to cause this at all.

anilam · Jan 03, 2014 at 08:06 AM

I guess your H was trying to be funny?

The Ts just find new jobs, there's nothing what-so-ever personal behind their decission.
Maybe check that the new T doesn't plan to leave soon too? It's not 100% but at least it's stg...

Raging Quiet · Jan 03, 2014 at 09:19 AM

It's so painful

Has t contacted you since you left the voicemail?

sweepy62 · Jan 03, 2014 at 09:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Mactastic

My heart is aching for you. To be experiencing this impeding loss over your T and then to have your husband discredit you must be very difficult. Anyone (anyone!) in your situation would feel broken.

I think if your T is any good she will understand. You are not the first client to leave a voicemail they regret, period. It happens. Probably a lot.

I don't think you're out of bounds to ask for a '911' visit with her asap.

You may not feel it, but you ARE strong enough for this. You have already made it this far.

I just saw her yesterday, and my appt is for next wednesday.

sweepy62 · Jan 03, 2014 at 09:45 AM

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Originally Posted by granite1

I bet it hurts like heck sweetpea but you will get through this. I know it seems so so overwhelming right now but you will get through it. your T is going to help as much as she can and so will the new T that she picked for you. oh and there is no way you have done anything to cause this at all.

granite thank you, I can always count on you for support, I know its not my fault, its kinda just my luck, its so ironic for it to happen all over again with the same amount of time I spent seeing both of them, its like once it hits a year and 3 months , they leave, its almost hillarious in the saddest way possible.

sweepy62 · Jan 03, 2014 at 09:48 AM

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Originally Posted by anilam

I guess your H was trying to be funny?

The Ts just find new jobs, there's nothing what-so-ever personal behind their decission.
Maybe check that the new T doesn't plan to leave soon too? It's not 100% but at least it's stg...

my h,, is not the most empathic person, thats the first thing I asked my t when I started seeing her, if she had plans to leave, she said no, but would tell me in advance, as she has, but 2 weeks ago I had a gut feeling about something, I asked again are you leaving me, and she said NO, now this news yesterday has made me shut down.

unaluna · Jan 03, 2014 at 09:50 AM

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Originally Posted by anilam

I guess your H was trying to be funny?

The Ts just find new jobs, there's nothing what-so-ever personal behind their decission.
Maybe check that the new T doesn't plan to leave soon too? It's not 100% but at least it's stg...

Tell your h he needs to start going by PC rules - either be supportive or dont say anything, and if you make a joke, say youre making a joke and get ready to get a pie in the face.

im so sorry youre going thru this. But at least your t seems genuinely sorry and recognizes how it will affect you.

sweepy62 · Jan 03, 2014 at 09:55 AM

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Originally Posted by hankster

Tell your h he needs to start going by PC rules - either be supportive or dont say anything, and if you make a joke, say youre making a joke and get ready to get a pie in the face.

im so sorry youre going thru this. But at least your t seems genuinely sorry and recognizes how it will affect you.

thanks hankster, nope he was not joking, he says therapy is a waste of time and gas, but he still takes me.

sweepy62 · Jan 03, 2014 at 09:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Raging Quiet

It's so painful

Has t contacted you since you left the voicemail?

she always calls me back when I leave a message, but I was quite sarcastic when I left the message yesterday, I didnt get a call back, but then again, she might have been busy. I am going to call her today and apologize, because thats not me at all.

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