[Hoppery]

We all want to know a little about our T's. We all want to ask questions. So I thought why not make a thread, for our questions that we either, have, want, are going to or not going to share with them. I thought it'd be interesting to see what we all wanna know.

Here's one of mine:
What made you choose this profession?

[Mactastic]

Originally Posted by Hoppery

We all want to know a little about our T's. We all want to ask questions. So I thought why not make a thread, for our questions that we either, have, want, are going to or not going to share with them. I thought it'd be interesting to see what we all wanna know.

Here's one of mine:
What made you choose this profession?

I asked him that question, and he gave me an answer that satisfied my curiosity. I have also asked (in context) if he has any communication with his old T. Again, he answered me.

[Hoppery]

It's nice when they answer, isn't it? If we have to give so much personal info to them, they should at least give us their basic info on questions that we ask that are not too personal.

Originally Posted by Mactastic

I asked him that question, and he gave me an answer that satisfied my curiosity. I have also asked (in context) if he has any communication with his old T. Again, he answered me.

I always asked questions and she always answered.

[Nightlight]

I can't think of anything immediately, which I'm sure is a good sign. I think in the early stages of therapy there were lots of things that I was curious about but afraid to ask. These days I just ask!

Although she's overseas at the moment and she said she'd keep in touch with me. I think it was an important offer at this stage of my therapy with her. I haven't heard from her yet, so right now I would ask her if she was still planning to get in touch at some stage if she could.

[Hoppery]

I have more questions to add to this thread that I am going to ask A. (Write down on paper to give to him. One question per appointment):

My favourite colour is red, what is yours?
Do you get nervous or worried before appointments?
Why did you pick ADHD to specialise in and not any other one?

[stopdog]

I don't have much interest in the woman. Sometimes I wonder if she really believes most of the crap she says. But I have asked her that.

[tealBumblebee]

I usually just ask what I want to know. She always answers honestly.

For some reason I had this burning desire to know what her favorite book was and if she liked coffee. And I couldn't figure out why I wanted to know, so I chose not to ask. Then I finally asked about the coffee and she answered anti-climatically.

I wanted to know her birth month but never asked, but accidentally came across her age (something I never wanted to know) so now, I don't want to know the other part.

I think I remind myself that I don't want to know too much detail about her as it keeps me remembering she's not my friend but my counselor.

[Lauliza]

I don't ask my male p doc personal questions but would like to. I would like to ask why he got divorced and how he REALLY feels about it. And how his kids are coping. I don't ask because I try to keep a distance between us since I have feelings for him.

I don't really ask my female T questions either, it never really occurs to me since I usually have so much to say (I only go to both once per month). I'll ask her how her little girl is doing (she was born after I began therapy with my T) and will ask if she has recent pictures.

[dumburn]

I need to ask pdoc if he did get a dog. When we first met he mentioned that he was getting one. I was in no mood to engage in unnecessary conversation with the man then. I dont want to know anything about him but the dog thing has been bugging me for a few weeks now

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[Hoppery]

Ask it. Write it down. Send an email. Whichever way you can ask, do it. Don't think about it, do it. That's what I do, when I ask him something I want to but can't verbally. And it's so far, worked out alright.

Originally Posted by dumburn

I need to ask pdoc if he did get a dog. When we first met he mentioned that he was getting one. I was in no mood to engage in unnecessary conversation with the man then. I dont want to know anything about him but the dog thing has been bugging me for a few weeks now

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[Amandasmom]

I want to ask if she ever had her own personal therapy and how did it feel to sit on this side of the sofa? I plan to ask her this one day.

[Shiny Things]

I read this thread right before I went to T today, I swear it totally corrupted me!
I wasted about ten minutes asking dumb questions fishing for answers.

This is a new T who frequently relates personal tales to me. T decided after a few questions to say it wouldn't be good for T/client r/s.

So, info is only OK if the T brings it up, apparently.

[Hoppery]

A. actually encouraged me to ask him questions. He told me, he can't answer them, if I don't ask. But then again, he is a mental health specialist nurse. And it would probably depend on your T I guess. Some are super strict, some are not. I am limiting myself to one question per appointment.

Originally Posted by Shiny Things

I read this thread right before I went to T today, I swear it totally corrupted me!
I wasted about ten minutes asking dumb questions fishing for answers.

This is a new T who frequently relates personal tales to me. T decided after a few questions to say it wouldn't be good for T/client r/s.

So, info is only OK if the T brings it up, apparently.

[Freewilled]

I want to ask him the following:

Why do you say you are intentionally neutral? Why? I mean, what in the heck are you trying to get out of it? I feel like an experiment

Why did you change directions so abruptly a couple months ago and then say you were sorry? Why? What was your intention? I don't understand what led you to that conclusion. Just because you are a T does NOT mean you can tell me what to do without explanation for why you came to that conclusion

What do you think about medication for mental illness? Why have you never brought this up as an option? Must I direct pretty much everything while you sit back and pull strings?

What is my diagnosis and then what do you REALLY think? I'm wondering if by telling me you somehow think I would break or something. But T! You know my experience and whatnot related to the field. I am not stupid and am strong enough to take it already! Argh. I mean, this IS MY LIFE

Oh and when you said there were still chips on the table, what chips are those exactly?

[ScarletPimpernel]

Why did you promise that you'll be open and honest, but I still know more information about you from my own research than from what you have disclosed?

Why do you expect me to promise you things, but you won't promise me things?

Why do you accuse me of misunderstanding things when you have admitted to having anxiety issues?

Why are my feelings towards you okay, but I have to stop envisioning the "ideal" you?

Why is it considered manipulation if I ask for things or threaten little things, but you're allowed to threaten me every week with hospitalization and/or sitting in silence?

Why are you so against me writing when we would have never made this much progress w/o my writing?

Why did you forget to call me the day after Christmas?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

[unlockingsanity]

Do you really care about me?

It seems like he does, but I wonder if it's just his all encompassing empathy.

[thestarsaregone]

I once asked what kind of music she liked. This was pretty early on, so we didn't talk much about it. I think if I had asked again now, her answer might be longer.

I remember once we were randomly talking about astrology and I told her my friend's dad could guess your astrology sign within 5 minutes of meeting a person. He was never wrong, it was actually kind of trippy. I told my T that I bet I knew what her sign was and I said my guess and told her she didn't feel have to tell me if I was right or not, turns out, I was right lol

Stuff I'd like to ask:

What makes you think that I have feelings for you? Perhaps I will ask this one on Thursday lol

What made you become a therapist and how did you choose your specialties?

Have you read anything good lately?

[stopdog]

I recall one of the books I read (I think by Yalom) had the therapist berating a client for not being more interested in the personal life of the therapist and asking things about the therapist's vacation etc.
The one I see got all "you aren't kind to me because you did not ask about my injury" when she hurt her leg or foot or ankle (I did not ask so I don't know).

[Hoppery]

I am wondering this too!

He seems to really care and is kind. He get's emotional when reading my poems. But is it all an act to get me to open up to him?
So, I am wondering if it is just him being empathetic whatever that is.

Originally Posted by unlockingsanity

Do you really care about me?

It seems like he does, but I wonder if it's just his all encompassing empathy.

[Canyon]

I think I would like to ask him if he gets images in his head of things that have happened to me when he learns of them. I just can't stand the thought of him having images of me being abused in his head.

[someone321]

I guess I would ask him if he has a family/kids, just to know if he can relate... On the other hand if e.g. I knew that he was gay, maybe I could feel safer at the session (??) Perhaps I also would like to know if his work is supervised so that I would know that if he struggles with my case, someone can show him a different point of view... But he made it very clear today that I cannot ask him questions because I am not his therapist and I have to focus on myself...

[The_little_didgee]

I always wanted to ask her why she decided to go into psychiatry? My question was answered before I ever had a chance to ask it. She claimed to be fascinated with people, their minds and how they relate to one another.

If a question comes up that is related to therapy I will ask it, as long as it isn't too personal. One day I asked her if she went to therapy. Immediately after that I asked if it messed with her head. She answered both questions with a simple yes. It was enough for me to listen to what she had to say.

She has shared some personal information with me, such as her heritage and age. Nothing private. One time she commented on my Indigenous facial features. She then told me she had Indigenous ancestry.

Knowing a little helps, because it permits me to see her as a human being. It also strengthens her credibility. Empty advice just doesn't work with me.

I have no desire to know her on a personal level.

[Hoppery]

Are you really going to stick around and not abandon or dump me
when I get too much work for you?

Are you going to still be as nice, as caring, as honest as you
are now, in let's say... Six months time?

Q. Why Me?

A. Why Not You?