Did any of you guys have multiple transference with a T. Like having at times an erotic transference, a negative transference, a maternal/paternal transference, a platonic friendship type of transference and a protective type of transference?

This will seem strange, but I go through little periods of days where I feel the T as one of these, and then I move onto something else. This happened throughout the therapy.

An example would be, a few days I have erotic feelings for the T, a few day later I feel indifference, then a few days after that it could switch to a friendship type of feeling, then switch to negative feelings, then into a " want to protect the T type of feeling". it goes in cycles and this feelings resurface and then would go, and then come back.

Nothing is consistent. So I could never get a hold of what it is. Almost like there's separate parts of my unconscious that threw everything at this T.

I'm not in therapy at the moment but do intend to go back in a few months. But any of you had this where you don't know where the T stands or what she/he represents?

[Sunflower Queen]

Originally Posted by Lycanthrope

Did any of you guys have multiple transference with a T. But any of you had this where you don't know where the T stands or what she/he represents?

Yes, Mostly the not knowing what she represented. Never Erotic though. Very confusing Longing she was a friend I never had But she made it clear last night in a email that we could never do that.

[Cherubbs]

For years I enjoyed a friendly relationship but it flared into erotic transference recently and my brain is in a tailspin. I don't think I want the whole shenanigans of transferring all and sundry into my therapist at random intervals. Ugh!!

[Freewilled]

Yes - my feelings for T are all over the place. Not so much the erotic, though. But parental, negative and positive, wanting to protect my t from me, friendly etc etc

For me, I believe it's because of the way I was injured or hurt in the past. This therapy stuff is some of the most painful crap I've ever experienced second to some of the original trauma...but my past is so convoluted that it feels real right here in the present.

[unaluna]

Yes, all over the place. But then i figure my brain is all over the place, right? And t is a shape-shifter more than anything. I often felt like he had no expectations of me when i walked in the room, and that was a good thing.

[HazelGirl]

Yes, quite often. I will want to be closer to her, and then will want to run away. Or I will trust her one time (positive transference), and then another time have absolutely no trust at all and believe she's out to hurt me. It's exhausting.

[RTerroni]

I've had all different types of transference with many different Therapists in the past.