Compliments from T

melania · Mar 17, 2014, 02:23 AM

Some time ago he told me compliments. He said I'm pretty,atractive,interesting,that he admires me and my trying so hard to get what I want and not giving up. He said- I feel like you press me to the wall. Me-I'm sorry. He- No, I like it.

Cherubbs · Mar 17, 2014, 02:41 AM

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Originally Posted by melania

Some time ago he told me compliments. He said I'm pretty,atractive,interesting,that he admires me and my trying so hard to get what I want and not giving up. He said- I feel like you press me to the wall. Me-I'm sorry. He- No, I like it.

I think because you are pretty, young and sweet. He's enjoying the attention you give him. It's not fair that he plays with your feelings like this, whether he's aware of it or not and I think he is.

Petra5ed · Mar 22, 2014, 01:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Goingtogetthere

When it was just me I would always say what a lousy mother I was, and torture myself for being a failure at such an important job. Also, at that point my kid was saying I was a lousy mother and person. My therapist never said no, you aren't or yes, you are. This went on forever six months, then finally during one of my self flagellations she said, "You are a wonderful mother."

Real lousy mothers don't worry that they are being lousy mothers, just sayin

. The really sh1tty mothers are the type that are never wrong in anything they do. But I think having a T say it should be all the evidence you need. If a T thought you were a crap mom, they would probably say something like "well, you're working on yourself!"

nottrustin · Mar 22, 2014, 01:24 PM

Petra5ed that is what tells me all the time whenever I feel down about my parenting she will tell me that the parent who wonder about their abilities are usually great parents because they exam the way they do things and don't assume they have all the answers..

Leah123 · Mar 22, 2014, 01:28 PM

I didn't mention it earlier when listing a few of the compliments I've received from my therapist, but I must echo the above posters: I too worry about being a good enough mother, it's what got me into therapy, falling short of my ideal, and when she says I am a good mother, or even a wonderful mother, well.... it is very very helpful to have her perspective and faith.

Shiny Things · Mar 22, 2014, 02:43 PM

Personally, I do not take body compliments well. Do not tell me you like my hair or think I look "nice" today. It's all a facade anyway, and I don't believe you. I am objective enough to see that I look more than ok, but I do not like me too much, so I don't agree.

IndestructibleGirl · Mar 22, 2014, 08:14 PM

Yes, my therapist does pay me compliments from time to time. She compliments my intelligence, and the way I look. However my favourites are when she comments that I have balls

(ie, that I'm brave, for those who aren't familiar with the slang) and - the most precious to my ears - that I'll make a wonderful mother some day.

I think I'm good at taking compliments graciously, and accepting them at face value. The only ones I feel a flicker of doubt over are when she's said I'm beautiful, because while I do feel fortunate about my looks, I schlep into her office looking a bit ropey a lot of the time. I simply can't afford to dress how I would like to. My therapist is really beautiful, and always very well put together

She has fab hair