[ahdm]

As some of you may know, I was referred to this service by my former therapist (well, her line manager, anyway). I finally plucked up the courage to make an initial appointment with them, which is over a month away I dread to think of the time I'm going to spend agonizing over it...

Anyway, I asked them whether my mum had to be there at the initial appointment, and they said no, because I'm over 16.

What really annoyed me though, was that even though I had repeatedly told my former therapist, in person and in email, that I didn't want my mum involved in any of what was going on at the time, that information was either decidedly ignored, or it was just forgotten about, meaning she didn't listen enough, which angers and upsets me to no end. So her line manager hadn't specified in her referral, even though I certainly had, that I didn't want my mum to be involved/contacted. That, on top of receiving a closure letter from them one month after my last appointment has stressed me out, and I may have just lost every single 'happy' memory that I had from there.

Anyway, getting a bit off track. I've been sent a form/questionnaire to fill out for the initial appointment to give them a bit of background information I guess. The problem is, the majority of that form is meant to be filled out by a parent or guardian of the child.

Even though I know that I could just fill out my mum's details anyway (name etc), I would not be comfortable in giving them her mobile and telephone numbers. As I said, I don't want her involved. She knows enough already.

I guess my question, after all my rambling, is how should I go about filling in this form?
Of course, as always, any other suggestions are always welcome and would be very helpful.

Edit:I forgot to mention that on the back of the form, there is a space which says 'signature of person with parental responsibility', which causes a looot of problems...

[dumburn]

I'd just fill it in anyway forget about your mum's input.
you are unfortunately at that "in the middle age" that is so often forgotten about. Not really a child any more but not really an adult yet.

Perhaps just add a cover note explaining that you do not want your mums involvement.

none of my family was involved when i was referred to Camhs, It was done through my GP and I remember the second time (I was only just 17 i think) I was given the option of either the adult or children's teams.
If it's an option for you could you get help with the referral from your GP. you are certainly old enough for everything to remain 100% confidential.

I know the process of referral can differ greatly throughout the country but I think getting in Via you GP could be the better option as he/she will almost certainly be kept in the loop throughout, might as well have them involved from the start.

Just my thoughts blurted out here, hope some of it makes sense, and is maybe even a little helpful to you.

[HazelGirl]

The forms could be generic. So it's not like they can make special ones specifically for your situation. Can you call them and ask what you're supposed to do?