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I find this difficult at times. T can be warm and fuzzy, (they all can) and then you step outside the office of positivity and light and it's the big old bad wet dark, smelly cold world again.
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#2
Yep, its another damn dimension, when I leave her office, I always say, bye goinginto the real world, leaving fantasy land,
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I think (hope a lot) that we learn to bring some of their calmness and sunshine into our own dismal lives so that the world doesn't seem so harsh in comparison to T's office.
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I don't find the woman warm, fuzzy and cozy. For me - I escape from the appointment back into the safety of my real world.
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Exactly, in fact when I saw her walking down the hall at the place I go for Therapy (I was waiting to see my Psychiatrist) all she said was hi (although that was likely because there was a place she needed to get to).
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#7
I try to take the T's with me as my own pocket riders to RL
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I never felt this very much. Having the support of my T carried over outside of sessions, and session time was often spent mired in past horror, so the end of a session was often a relief. I rarely left a session feeling warm and fuzzy and positive. I felt supported and not alone.
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Not all Ts are "warm and fuzzy". Certainly a good T won't be warm and fuzzy all the time.
Personally, I've reconciled the two worlds by becoming a warm fuzzy T myself - so I always have a warm fuzzy T wherever I go ![]() To me, these aren't two worlds. I feel good with my T most of the time. I feel badly in certain other contexts (or with my t on occasion). The feelings may be very different, but they're all mine. |
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I would never call my T warm and fuzzy. He's this big, burly, outdoorsy man with a kind of tough exterior at times. That doesn't mean he isn't caring and empathetic and supportive. He's just not warm and fuzzy.
I leave my sessions okay about half the time; I wouldn't call it all sunshine and rainbows though. Sessions are intense, even the best of them really. I usually leave more contemplative and pensive than anything. |
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#11
Warm and fuzzy T or reality T? I can't decide which one she is, or maybe she is both?
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I guess I don't really have this experience. I mean, sometimes I would rather stay there forever, but my current life isn't too bad. So I'm not going from warm and fuzzy to a horribly awful situation (most of the time).
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#14
I realize this thread is old, but whatever...
Anyway, I don't find T to be warm or fuzzy. More like neutral. If anything, she has a tendancy to say the wrong thing at the wrong time. I also don't find reality to be overly harsh or critical either. That's all me. I'm the one who's harsh and critical. So mostly, T is there to show me how to knock that **** off. |
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That is what its like for me too. But perception is reality. What changes between the two hours? What destroys the safety you feel during t hour? How can you combat that, or just not let it happen? Replace a bad habit with a good one. Not easy, and its slow work, but whats the alternative?
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