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Apr 11, 2014, 02:15 PM
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So T and I had our session today and I did NOT try to control it even a little bit. I let the things on my mental list come about organically - I told her about receiving old T's notes and feeling guilty about the way I behaved with her, but also that her style and my needs were mismatched and why, and mentioned some of the things old T has misinterpreted (anger, criticism) and how that stuff might come up in this relationship (ex. money comments) and my expectations. And I asked her about email, and she said email is fine - she doesn't do counselling by email, but I can email her about scheduling or about how I'm feeling re anxiety and stuff like that, and she might not always reply, but I can definitely feel free to email if I need to, and if an issue does arise (which she doesn't foresee, but if it did) we would talk about it and it would be fine.
We also talked a bit about my anxiety and control issues that might arise in session, and I was really proud of myself for not letting those control issues get the better of me today! She agreed that we can work on trust and talking about stuff before we get to any real skills work, which was good, and we talked a bit about me feeling like the stuff that happened to me as a kid was my fault. She said even if there were things I did that led to those reactions, my mother had other options and those things still weren't my fault, and that we can work on me having compassion for myself, as a kid who was just overcome with anxiety and acting out because of that. We didn't have a lot of time to talk about that, but the little we did talk about was reassuring. I asked her at the end if we could do twice weekly sessions for at least the next few weeks, because I had found that really helpful with old T in the "getting to know each other" phase and it reduced my anxiety. She agreed, no hassle, no problem. So we have another session booked for tomorrow. I'm proud of the way I handled that - no histrionics, I just made a simple request and then waited for her response, and I would have been okay with her saying no. It was fine. Once I started talking to her, the anxiety went way down and I wasn't even worried about getting through everything. I told her about things I might do to test her and she said that's expected and we can talk about those things when they come up, and she just handled everything really well. |
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Apr 11, 2014, 02:23 PM
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Well Done! Actually so proud of you.
And i'm glad you got the two sessions per week i think it'll really help you.
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Apr 11, 2014, 02:25 PM
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I am so glad! That sounds like it went very well!!!
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Apr 11, 2014, 02:27 PM
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I am glad you asked for the extra appointments.
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Apr 11, 2014, 09:12 PM
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And when I was feeling like everything was my fault, she told me she didn't think it was, but even if it was, even if I provoked it, why did it matter? It still hurt me, and I still need to process it and heal from it, and that's the only thing that matters.
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Apr 11, 2014, 11:18 PM
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Apr 11, 2014, 11:21 PM
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That is a great session!!!
CBT T tries to get me to back down from hyper-vigilance by taking control of the time/end of session. He has said "let me worry about the time" and he has started to turn the clock away from me. |
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Apr 11, 2014, 11:38 PM
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Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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Apr 11, 2014, 11:51 PM
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An elegant solution I didn't even consider. |
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