[coolibrarian]

My wife has been in the hospital since Thursday. They don't have a diagnosis for her yet, but they've told us what they think it ISN'T. Still, it's been very trying. She (my wife) didn't want anyone (friends or family) to know, so I couldn't tell anyone until Saturday (although I had, with her permission, told our daughter. I desperately needed someone to talk to. I could have posted here, but didn't, mostly because I only had my phone and it was too much to type.). I finally told her mother and close friends on Saturday.

I just talked to T about it this afternoon. I'd left T a voicemail this morning, asking her to call me, and that it was very important. I'm glad she called back within a few hours, but I feel like she could have been more giving than she was. I don't see her until the 16th. I don't know what's wrong with my wife, I don't know when she's coming home, and I want someone to TAKE CARE OF ME.

[gayleggg]

Do you have any close friends you could talk to? Your T didn't have any appointments sooner than the 16th? Of course, you can always PM somebody here if you need to. We are here to support you.

Having an ill spouse or child, particularly when they are in the hospital and things are uncertain, is unsettling and exhausting. I completely understand that feeling of wanting someone to take care of me when all I've been doing is taking care of someone else, very much alone and overwhelmed.

My T used to call and check up on me during those times, but I also felt like it just wasn't enough, but it really wasn't so much about what my T did or didn't say or do. It was really that no one can really understand the exhaustion and fear and helplessness I am feeling in those kinds of crises, no matter how much they try.

Hang around and share what is going on with you. We can at least listen and give you a place to vent and fret a bit. Sorry to hear things are so stressful for you, and I hope your wife's condition improves.

[PeeJay]

Originally Posted by Cherbiej

My wife has been in the hospital since Thursday. They don't have a diagnosis for her yet, but they've told us what they think it ISN'T. Still, it's been very trying. She (my wife) didn't want anyone (friends or family) to know, so I couldn't tell anyone until Saturday (although I had, with her permission, told our daughter. I desperately needed someone to talk to. I could have posted here, but didn't, mostly because I only had my phone and it was too much to type.). I finally told her mother and close friends on Saturday.

I just talked to T about it this afternoon. I'd left T a voicemail this morning, asking her to call me, and that it was very important. I'm glad she called back within a few hours, but I feel like she could have been more giving than she was. I don't see her until the 16th. I don't know what's wrong with my wife, I don't know when she's coming home, and I want someone to TAKE CARE OF ME.

That's really hard. I'm sorry. I hope you can take care of you and that your family members and T are there for you in a real and tangible way.

It's still hard.

[coolibrarian]

My wife came home this evening. We still don't have a diagnosis, but I am very relieved. Thanks for all your support!

[Wren_]

Just reading this now ... I'm really sorry you had to go through such a difficult time mostly alone It is really difficult as well when we are worrying about someone who doesn't want us to tell other people what is going on; adds more pressure when there is already so much. I really get that sense of wanting to be taken care of as well; and wish your T had given you more of it. You mentioned your wife being home ... is she feeling any better? I hope you get more answers soon

[growlycat]

I hope she is ok? That would worry anyone!!!